Surely every person came across such a concept as a "suspended state". But few people know what it really means. Although the phrase "I am in limbo!" many are in use. Well, it’s worth figuring out what is the meaning of it.
Destructive pendulums
In simple terms, destructive pendulums are structures that subordinate people to their influence, directing their thoughts and consciousness in one direction. They take energy and establish power over them. A person who is under the influence of a destructive pendulum begins to build his life in accordance with his laws, often without realizing it.
They surround us everywhere. Victims of destructive pendulums are applicants entering a prestigious faculty and, as a result, mastering an alien and unloved profession in vain. Young guys who go to serve on a contract, eventually dying. Specialists who agree to attractive working conditions, but after concluding an employment contract are buried in a swamp of problems. And of course, those people who carelessly and windily tie themselves up with a person who later turns out to be a “stranger”.
Gaining freedom
A suspended state occurs when a person is freed from the influence of the notorious destructive pendulums. Because, as a rule, having ceased to succumb to their power, he understands that he has no purpose. This happens most often. But freedom without a goal is precisely this suspended state.
You can feel it. First, a person begins to extinguish without exception all the pendulums that affect him. Conflicts, without which a day had not passed before, cease. Concerns that seemed serious and important receded. And anxiety and anxiety disappear altogether. It seems as if the storm has subsided. Peace comes.
but on the other hand
After the retreat of all problems, a person understands what a suspended state is. He used to be at the center of all events, albeit not always pleasant ones. Now everything is happening as before, but without his participation.
Yes, there are no worries, but they are not replaced by new aspirations. And the pressure of the outside world is no longer felt, but this fact does not bring any special euphoria. Problems disappeared, but joy did not increase. And such “appeasement” is starting to bother even more than recent stress.
The suspended state can be compared with disorientation in space. Or with a situation when a person suddenly found himself in a vast desert. The fact is that you cannot completely isolate yourself from the pendulums. All life is built on them. And a self-confident person will never surround himself with a vacuum from his own environment of existence. Here we need a measure.
Cases, again, a lot. One of the brightest is spoiled children. They have everything! And when they realize this, they begin to languish because they have nothing to want. Here it is, a suspended state. Does this sound weird? Not at all. Indeed, this is how a person works: it is vital for him to always strive for something.
What to do?
Suspended state will not bring anything good. Human psychology is such that it needs to be influenced by certain pendulums. Those that will be useful to him. No need to isolate yourself from all the pendulums. Only from those that are destructive and truly harmful.
In other words, you need to get rid of imposed goals only. From those in pursuit of which a person is further and further removed from the line of his happy life. It is necessary to find the path by embarking on which, as a result, it will be possible to come to personal happiness and genuine success, capable of bringing sincere joy. And it's as simple as that. You just need to stop living imposed by someone or in some way, follow conventions, rules, do something, because "it is necessary." And finally listen to your desires. To personal and individual needs. Only by hearing oneself will one be able to find happiness.