Ekaterina Krongauz today is known as the author of the amazing book "Am I a bad mother?" She addressed her creation to women who doubt their readiness to have a child, constantly make exorbitantly high demands on themselves and are afraid to subsequently not justify them. Journalist Ekaterina Krongauz talks about what a serious stage precedes the appearance of the baby in the family. The book is easy to read, written with humor, supported by relevant life experiences.
Ekaterina Krongauz. Biography
The author was born on April 27 in 1984. Ekaterina Krongauz is a talented journalist, blogger, author of numerous texts left on the Internet. In 2009, she graduated from Moscow State Pedagogical University. She devoted a lot of time to studying the topic of parent-child relationships and is ready to generously share her experience with readers. At one time, Krongauz led a column in the magazine "Snob", worked as the chief editor of the "Big City".
At the moment, this is a young successful woman, the mother of two sons - Leva and Yasha. She expressed her feelings associated with children and her own attitude after their birth in the book "Am I a bad mother?" Ekaterina Krongauz long sought answers to her painful questions. In her opinion, each parent, whether consciously or not, experiences an incomprehensible feeling of guilt in front of the child. How to relate to your own fears, the author tells in his entertaining text.
Willingness to have a baby
No young family ever fully feels worthy of such happiness. No woman can become a mother until she knows the joy of care and warmth with which she surrounds her child every minute. The author insistently pursues the idea that you cannot love a child in advance, until you give birth to him, you will not see how he takes his first steps. It is sad and erroneous to demand from ourselves some ideal conditions in order to allow us to experience joy and happiness from the very process of communicating with the baby.
Today, many people connect the readiness to have a child, first of all, with material well-being. Family affluence, of course, is important, but this fact should not become an obstacle to thinking: can I raise a little man or not? Willingness to have a child is, first of all, an internal sense of responsibility, and most importantly, a desire to care, to give someone a piece of their soul.
Is sacrifice necessary?
It seems to many women that in order for their baby to grow up healthy and happy, they need to partially abandon their own happiness. Catherine Krongauz dispels this myth of the need to constantly sacrifice herself. It leads the reader to the understanding that, because of the baby, there is no need to drop out of school, give up personal life, and ruin relationships with relatives. Yes, the image of the mother in itself looks somewhat sacrificial. There is a widespread belief in society that a son or daughter cannot be raised without any hardships, anxieties and troubles. In any case, your care will increase, but sacrificing yourself is not necessary at all.
The young mother, of all doubts, has the right to happiness, professional realization. But how many women can afford to really enjoy the moment of acquired motherhood? Fears torment almost everyone: what will happen if I fail, how to keep up with everything?
Guilt
This is a separate item that deserves special attention. Krongauz in his book emphasizes the idea that many women experience an uncontrolled guilt in front of their child. In this case, the available parental merits are not taken into account. Each representative of the fair sex has a point in which she turns out to be a “bad” and unworthy mother: she pays little attention, does not engage in the development of crumbs, does not have time to get a higher education, etc. It seems that we sometimes invent problems for ourselves and suffer from them. No need to strive for a perfect ideal. Remember that each person is interesting and unique in his own way. While you will build a certain static image, the world will have time to change many times. There is a need to work with emerging feelings of guilt . How exactly? Catherine talks about this in her wonderful book.
Excitement for a child
Mother is always worried about the baby: is he fed, is he warmly dressed, is he cold, is he sick? The list goes on and on. Excitement for a child is quite justified, but it spoils the life not only of the woman, but also of the baby itself. Only by making amazing discoveries can one fully understand the world. Do not limit your little explorer.
Thus, Ekaterina Krongauz in her book addresses mothers from the standpoint of logic and common sense. She gives numerous examples of the fact that the upbringing of independence and responsibility is in the power to organize every caring parent to their child.