Galina Belozub, as a psychologist, often receives requests from clients: "I’m already so many years old, but I won’t get married, I don’t have a family." It seems that she has everything - and beauty, and mind, and a profession. And mom sighs, and friends / acquaintances pester me with the question: "Well, didn’t you get married?" Factors affecting the fact that a modern young lady is not married by thirty can be different, Galina Belozub believes. However, if we summarize all these reasons, we can distinguish three main ones. The first is a negative attitude towards men. This situation arises in childhood, and it is better to solve these problems with the help of a psychologist. The second reason is low self-esteem and lack of self -love. A woman with such self-esteem does not believe that she can be loved, that she is worthy of attention. And in order to avoid the pain of rejection, she refuses to communicate with men. The third reason is an increased level of claims. Escape from reality into an illusion. Like every psychotherapist, Galina Belozub works with these problems in his practice.
Books written by her are of great interest to the public. The most famous of these is the “Forty Crisis. Tips for a Modern Woman”. Also in 2007, she published a book entitled “Marriage from Dawn to Dusk”, dedicated to the topic of marriage and marriage, how to meet your other half. Her book “We Choose, We Are Chosen” touches more on the topic of the problem of choosing a partner.
Personal Injuries
Any negative emotional event that was with a person in childhood has a strong influence on his whole future life. As a result, the consequences of psychological trauma arise: low self-esteem, various fears, insecurity, isolation. And until a person heals his psychological trauma of childhood, people and circumstances will be attracted to him that will exacerbate it. The topic of healing emotional injuries is very painful and relevant. Canadian psychologist Liz Burbo gave a very accurate classification of injuries and their causes:
- outcast injury;
- trauma of the abandoned;
- injury to the humiliated;
- trauma of a devotee;
- injury to injustice.
At receptions, customers somehow return to their childhood and those events that continue to affect them. With these injuries, it is necessary to work with a specialist, Galina Belozub believes. The biography of this psychologist suggests that she is published a lot in popular publications, for example, in the magazine "My Family".
How to reduce the impact of injuries on personal life?
We recall the emotions and feelings that we experienced, accept them, saying certain words: "I accept, I acknowledge ...". Galina Belozub believes that we so rarely turn to ourselves, to our consciousness, that in these rare moments our body, our I, simply let go of traumatic situations in gratitude. It is necessary to treat these injuries, the psychologist Galina Belozub is convinced. Family, of course, is the place where all problems are born.
Association
Association is a connection, a mental process, when 2 emotional states or concepts are interconnected, are in a fusion. For example, love and suffering. For some, these concepts are the same in meaning. Why? Because around (or in films) a person sees only the suffering of lovers. Or for some, “family” is associated with the word “happiness,” and for someone, with the words “grief and pain.” These associations also prevent the formation of healthy relationships with the opposite sex and build a full-fledged family in later life.
Loyalty
Clan loyalties are most powerful when our loyalty goes back to our ancestors. When devotion, for example, of our ancestors to their leader or tribe saved their lives. You are loyal to your mom. Mom is alone, she lived her whole life without a husband, she is unhappy. You will not allow yourself to be happy as a sign of solidarity with your mother! How?! I?! Will I have a family !? Mom can’t stand it! Or as a sign of solidarity with her son, mom does not marry a second time. That is, energetically the woman is already married: for her son, for the child, for mom, for dad! There is loyalty to the profession when a person devotes himself to his work, for example, to the stage. In this case, loyalty to the cause, apparently, also helped the ancestors survive, while she subconsciously sits in the modern generation. There is loyalty to the environment - all the friends are single, and we have been around all our life, how can I betray them? How to "remove" loyalty? There are certain techniques, practices that are used by a psychologist in personal consultations. They are acceptance based and very effective. Galina Belozub herself has had a strong marriage for over twenty years, raised two children. She often brings the experience of her family to work with those who need her advice and help.