Often after a quarrel with a loved one, it seems to many women that if a man is not afraid to lose them (or simply does not express it at all, although he is very afraid of them at heart), this means that he does not love them, does not value them, does not feel for them no feelings at all.
Such women are most often mistaken. If it is not scary for him to lose his beloved, this means that he just has not yet realized how much she is dear to him.
Unfortunately, very often it is at this stage that novels end. She leaves, tired of trying to attract his attention, and he realizes his feelings for her, as they say, already after the fact. How to behave so that a man is afraid to lose without breaking his relationship with him? The answer to this question will help more precisely.
How not to behave
In order for a man to be afraid of losing you, you must adhere to the right line of behavior. To begin with, let's look at what you canât do under any circumstances, since the result will be completely opposite:
- Tell him directly that you are going to do something in this direction. On your part, this will be a banal provocation, which will lead only to quarrels and insults
- Frankly flirt with other men. This can piss him off and he will just lose interest in you.
- Follow your emotions and call him every five minutes if he is busy at work or has gone for a walk with friends. He will think that you have no other interests besides him, which means that he has nothing to fear, that is, you can behave the way you want.
It is very important to know one truth: a man is afraid to lose a woman if he at least once had to think about the possibility of such an incident.
How to put such thoughts in his head?
- He is not the only thing in your life . Let him know it. For example, if he warned in advance that he would go out with friends, do not call him, constantly asking where he is and with whom. If it has become completely unbearable - send an SMS with kind words or a funny emoticon. This gives rise to doubts in his soul why you did not call him yourself, what is so interesting you are doing without him. If he asks about this, with an innocent look, answer that you watched a film that had been of interest to you for a long time, but which your young man still could not find time to watch together.
- Make it clear that other men are paying attention to you . This must be done very unobtrusively, carefully and, as it were, by the way. If a man is afraid to lose a woman, even if not expressing it in any way, such a ârevelationâ will be more than enough for him. Tell, for example, how an outsider gave up your seat on the bus and tried to start a conversation, or about an impudent person who wants to meet you in the queue at the clinic. Representatives of the stronger sex are hunters by nature, and a man is afraid to lose a woman if he sees potential rivals.
- Hint to him that soon you may have a long separation. Of course, this must be done with extreme caution. You may, for example, be interested in exchange programs with other countries. Itâs not even necessary to take part in contests to travel abroad. It is enough to speculate aloud how interesting and informative this would be. When is a man afraid of losing a woman? Then, when there is a risk that he will not see her for a long time.
How to behave so that a man is afraid to lose? Just follow a few simple rules. They will be discussed further.
Develop in yourself what makes you addicted to it
Any relationship is built on interdependence. And this is normal. It is likely that he cannot imagine his life without the comfort that you create in the house, without your tenderness and even a smile, in the end, without the food prepared by you. You, in turn, also feel some kind of dependence - on his money, position in society and interesting conversations with him ... In general, situations can be different. Determine what is particularly dear to you in him, and focus on it, develop it in yourself in every way. He sleeps long on Sundays and loves to treat himself to junk food? Allow him this ... occasionally. Let him sleep, and you quietly get up and cook him his favorite dish. He will be very pleased. Or rush off to McDonald's and buy him a big packet of fast food. How to behave so that a man is afraid to lose you? Sometimes indulge his whims, but do not always do this, otherwise he will get used to and cease to perceive such trifles as joys.
Be independent for him!
How to make a man afraid to lose? Always be as if at some distance from him. Know how to provide for yourself, do not be jealous, do not conduct an inspection of his phone or email at the first suspicion of interest in other women. If he wants to change you, he will do it so that you do not know. Find your favorite pastime, develop in every way, otherwise it will cease to appreciate you and will lose all interest. What woman is a man afraid to lose? Intelligent, independent, unobtrusive, which can easily support any conversation. In general, the one with whom he will be pleased to appear in a society that is not ashamed to acquaint with friends or parents. The main thing is not to forget about all of himself for himself, to be interested in his affairs, to love and respect him.
Be a friend to him
It is not only for women that it is important that they be heard. Men need it no less. Take an interest in his affairs, ask about work, friends, hobbies, plans, successes. But do not overdo it. This should not look like an interrogation. If he doesnât want to talk about something, donât be imposed, postpone the questions until the next time.
Peace is the most important thing
Always be calm. Even if a conflict arose and the man made a mistake in something, calmly explain to him exactly what he was wrong. Some, of course, like Italian passions and scandals that entertain the whole street. But this is rather an exception to the rule. The majority of men still want meetings with their beloved women not to be a burden for them. Understand that they need a "safe haven" in which you can relax after a busy day.
A man should always feel like a winner
Since ancient times, men have fought, or at least just competed with each other. They fought for a better land, better food, better woman. How to behave so that a man is afraid to lose? You just need to let him fight for you and ... be a winner. Be a manâs goal, dream ... Rejoice with his victories with him and do not take into account his defeats. He will definitely appreciate it and will be afraid to lose.
Little tricks
How to behave so that a man is afraid to lose his love? Sometimes cancel your meetings, citing important matters. The main thing is not to overdo it and endure such a period that he misses you, but did not think that you have found another or just avoid meeting. Of course, itâs hard not to see your loved one for several days, but you need a result, right? In order not to be so hard, take care of yourself - visit a beautician, take a walk with friends, go shopping. There is another option - always be different. All women are actresses to one degree or another, so change images every day. Today you are a Turgenev girl, the poetâs dream, tomorrow you are a sexy cat who will drive any man crazy, the day after tomorrow youâll be a smart intellectual or a cheerful girl âyour boyfriendâ. He will not know which one will see you next time, and this will give newness to your relationship and even some piquancy.
He is not the only man in your environment
We have already touched on this topic a little higher. Give him the opportunity to understand that you are only his woman ... at least for now. Never impose on him. Just mention in passing that you are meeting with a classmate in a cafe today (if only ... you hadnât seen each other for so long, you have something to talk about!) Or that you would be late at work, because a colleague promised to help you complete a difficult report. Do not hesitate - he will immediately want to meet a classmate or come running to meet you from work. The ideal option would be to be together in a company where there are several men who like you. Show everyone small signs of attention - smile at that, joke with the other. But not more!
No need to frankly flirt. Behave in such a way that they are pleased to communicate with you, but not so that they can make ambitious plans. You want men to compete with each other for your attention, and not see you as a cheap doll. How to behave so that a man is afraid to lose you? Show that you are interesting to other guys, but so far the only one for you is only him.