Parents of the baby can only state the fact of the manifestation of certain character traits in their child. Therefore, after certain features in the baby’s behavior began to be revealed, mom and dad should adapt to them and try to make adjustments to the extent possible. It is worthwhile to understand in more detail the characteristics of the phlegmatic child in order to know how to properly educate him.
What types of characters exist?
There are four sustainable types of child character :
- melancholic;
- phlegmatic person;
- sanguine person;
- choleric.
It must be understood that not one of them is sufficiently clear in reality. Most often, a mixed type of human character is found, but with a predominance of specific features of one of the options listed above.
How to determine the nature of phlegmatic?
Can't determine the type of character of the child? It is enough to pay attention to his behavior, and everything will immediately become clear. A kid with a predominant phlegmatic type of character will behave as follows:
- very calm and calm;
- balanced (does not act up and does not ask for anything);
- complete the assigned task, not even interesting to him;
- hardworking;
- has natural perseverance;
- responsible for studying.
Negative phlegmatic qualities
Of course, there are also negative aspects of this temperament:
- slowness of movements;
- sluggish manifestation of emotions;
- lack of desire to fight or fight;
- lack of sociability;
- isolation;
- natural stubbornness.
Such a child does not like noisy companies and tries to spend time alone.
Such traits can be perceived differently, but the successful adaptation of the baby in society will require some specific features of education.
Most experts are sure that one of the negative aspects of a phlegmatic nature is natural slowness. Therefore, first of all, it is necessary for the child to learn how to properly distribute his personal time, to use it rationally.
Slowness as a character trait
Phlegmatic is a bit slow and stubborn. Parents need to perceive the child as he is, and:
- spend a little more time on training;
- develop the ability to quickly focus on a specific subject;
- to teach not to be stubborn in view of character traits, but to seek a compromise solution to the problem.
As a rule, phlegmatic people are pessimists, therefore it is necessary to be prepared for rapid mood changes, as a rule, for the worse.
Self-education
First of all, you need to understand your child. Do not think that psychotherapists will help. Indeed, the manifestations of character are not deviations, but the norm of his state of mind. Recommendations to parents of a phlegmatic child will be as follows:
- choose classes and sections for your child according to his features;
- don't make him make many friends;
- Do not customize while doing errands;
- play games with him where you need to show emotionality.
Following these simple tips, you can not only help your child better adapt to everyday life, but also slightly adjust his character.
Little phlegmatic: educate according to the rules
The main principle that should be followed when raising a phlegmatic child is not to rush. By nature, a person of such a warehouse cannot work acceleratedly, since he has developed his own special pace. You cannot rush such a child. He knows how to calculate the time, and therefore do not demand much from him.
You can not put pressure on a small phlegmatic. Otherwise, he will think it over much longer, do it slower and show himself more passively. You can’t call him cocks, especially if other people are nearby, even if they are family members. Phlegmatic children are in great need of approval. Such kids need to offer a variety of activities, but do not customize with their implementation.
What to do with the child?
Parents should also show enthusiasm: you can take a few jars of gouache, brushes and a sheet of paper, sit on the floor and start drawing, commenting as much as possible on their actions. Most likely, the child will understand the essence of the game and wish to join. Since phlegmatic people are inactive, parents should strongly encourage them to physical activity: offer quick activities and games that will require a manifestation of concentration, attention and speed. It is especially good to choose games whose rules simply require the manifestation of these qualities: phlegmatic people are very executive, and they are inherent to adhere to the required conditions.
It is important to develop the ability of a little stubborn to switch between different activities and activities. Children need to be given simple, age-appropriate instructions that will follow one after another, and also create situations in which the child has the opportunity to take the initiative.
A phlegmatic child needs to develop curiosity - this will allow him to become more active. You can read informative books, watch interesting films about the little-known and unknown, and discuss the information received with the baby. You can not forbid phlegmatic to express their feelings and emotions - on the contrary, parents should strongly encourage this, allow the child to show them as fully as possible. If the baby is crying, it is not necessary to prohibit it, if it is joyful for him - let him fully express his emotions.
Socialization
Parents need to instill in the baby communication skills. You can jointly analyze the motives of the actions of your favorite characters, relatives or friends, learn to put up, form a personal opinion, without adapting to the thoughts of others. It is worth explaining that different people may have different opinions and thoughts, and that you cannot subordinate others only to your own rules. It is necessary to teach the child to cooperate with other children, which will allow him to involuntarily adapt to a different pace of life.
Phlegmatic people are very conservative, and they are inherent to follow the usual boundaries and rules, so parents need to try to follow this order as much as possible and not shock the child with spontaneous actions and unexpected trips. If the child is passionate about something, do not distract him - parents need to respect the personal time of their crumbs.
How to develop?
Useful for the phlegmatic will be classes that coincide with his rhythm of life: modeling, drawing, checkers, beadwork. But still, the child needs movement - measured, smooth, without sharp jerks. In this regard, yoga and gymnastics are optimal. Ask the child more, consider his opinion, do not rush and do not criticize, entrust small tasks and do not scold. Treat a little phlegmatic with respectful, deep and sincere calm. Finally, I want to note that parents should not suppress the temperament of a little phlegmatic person - you need to learn how to manage it. Native people should learn to respect the feelings of the baby, without imposing anything on him.