The modern world is developing at tremendous speed. People increasingly began to forget about care and attention to their loved ones, plunging into workdays. But the importance of these concepts remains the same. Care and attention should be present in every area of human life. They are especially necessary in family relationships. After all, what could be more expensive and closer than a family? Next, we will understand what care and attention are, why humanity needs them and how to develop them.
Caring as an Instinct
About what care is, each of us was taught in childhood and youth by our parents, educators and teachers at school. This is one of the basic human instincts, which is manifested through good deeds. A symbol of care is a loving mother who is ready to give her child all her warmth, attention and affection. Caring is love, real and limitless.
It is important to understand that this instinct is inherent not only to humans, but also to animals, because caring for offspring is the only key to the fact that this genus or species will continue to exist. The mother grows and holds her baby under the wing until he gets stronger and stands on his feet.
Caring for your neighbor
In addition, it is common for a person to take care not only of close and dear people, but also of his pets. After all, everyone probably has a cat or a dog at home, who also enjoys a kind word. After all, they, like us, need attention and care, and who, if not their master, can provide them with this.
And remember, most likely, everyone had to make a birdhouse - a house for the birds that stayed for the winter in our area. They placed bread in this small house so that the birds would not die of hunger, and the house itself would help them not freeze from the cold. This also shows concern for animals.
We must not forget that, in addition to caring for people, animals, we also grow flowers, trees. We are attentive to them, we water them, feed them, create all conditions for their growth. Everyone does this in his own way, and the point is not how the person fertilizes the soil or how he water the plant, but the fact that we all do one good thing - we care.
Positive aspects of care and attention
It doesn’t matter at all to whom we care. Let it be caring for animals or relatives, it is important to understand that this quality makes a person better, kinder and more responsive. While caring for someone or something, a person thus shows how dear this object is to him, how strong love for him is. And sometimes it doesn’t matter at all how many times a day the husband told his wife “I love you”, everything is clear, because he expresses his love through attention and care for his soul mate.
When you are treated with warmth and attention, you always want to pay with the same coin. And if all people were open, attentive, the world would become better. And of course, everyone would live much more sincerely and comfortably.
Caring and baby
Every child should know what care is. To instill in him this concept is necessary from a very young age. It is necessary to teach him goodness, it is desirable that the child takes an example from relatives. After all, no matter how many people deny this, the child is a copy of his parents, and if dad and mother constantly did good things with their little one, he will put it in his subconscious mind and he will always strive to be like his parents.
It is also worth telling your baby that you need to take care of the animals so that he in no way repeats the mistake of a neighbor's child and does not kick the cat with his feet. It is necessary to explain to him that animals are defenseless in front of people, and caring for them is his direct duty.
If the child is restless and naughty, it’s time to try to introduce him to the concepts of “care” and “attention” during the game. Arrange, for example, once a month a day of care and ask your baby the rules that this is such a game in which you need to do good deeds. On this day, you can go to my grandmother and help her with household chores or do some other useful business.
Negative aspects of care
Of course, attention and care are important for the child, but only if he is doing it only for the benefit. After all, it happens that parents put their whole soul into their child, and a son or daughter grow up ungrateful tyrants. This can only be explained by an excess of guardianship and attention.
A child who always sought what he wanted, to which everyone treated as a king, in the future simply takes this for granted. It seems to him that this is in the order of things. And this should be blamed primarily on parents and grandparents who did not notice in time who their beloved child is becoming.
To prevent this from happening, adults must understand that everything is good in moderation. If they see that the child simply uses kindness, and this happens quite often, measures should be taken. Otherwise, you will only have to blame yourself.
Another negative aspect of increased guardianship is that a child can simply grow up as a notorious, spineless creature that is unable to solve a single life task without hiding behind her mother’s skirt.
Unfortunately, this phenomenon is quite common. And sissies are primarily the result of increased care and attention. After all, it was the parents in childhood who decided everything for their child, without giving him the right to choose.
In order to prevent a similar problem, which is primarily dangerous for the child, you need to try to do him less bear services, give him the right to choose and decide for himself, to teach him to be independent.
The importance of caring between spouses
Oddly enough, but a fairly common reason for the fading of feelings is that over time, concepts such as love and care simply fade into the background. Neglecting one another’s desires and feelings is the first step towards estrangement between people. And due to the fact that one of the spouses does not receive the necessary attention, the marriage can simply break up.
For some reason, people are used to believing that it is routine that destroys relationships. To some extent, this is correct, but you still need to understand that the family is supported by feelings, and when feelings come to naught, marriage is destroyed. Unpleasant words that can be dropped in a fit of anger can hurt, and they are not forgotten. That is why it will be very difficult to return to the old relationship.
When such an important component in a relationship as care is lost, only resentment and bitterness remain, which are evidence that people will not be able to experience previous enthusiastic feelings.
To prevent this from happening, you need to remember what parents taught in childhood, remember what care is, and then it will be possible to preserve your own family. It is necessary to try to be more attentive to your soulmate, to remind her with your actions about how dear she is, and the problem of family alienation will not affect.
Learning to take care
Even if in childhood a person for some reason was not instilled with a sense of care, did not talk about what role she plays in life, do not get upset - you can learn everything. And even take care of someone.
You can start, for example, with a simple care for stray animals. This will bring not only benefit, but also pleasure, because one thought about what can be done to someone well will warm and make you feel needed.
You need to be more often interested in the affairs of your near and dear ones and ask if they need any help.
Always remember what care is. It is to love your loved ones, to give them enough attention, to help those in need disinterestedly, just for a kind word.
We need to be more careful and attentive to the people who surround us. Remember that taking care of others just like that, at least for a small fraction, but a person makes this world a better place.
Make the world a kinder place
So, taking care of the world around us, a person becomes kinder and opens his soul to new emotions. Care and attention should be instilled from childhood, but you can also learn to show such feelings. If each person finds within himself the strength and desire to become better and more caring, then the world will certainly be kinder and brighter.