Under speech etiquette understand the totality of speech means, as well as the rules for their use in certain situations. Speech etiquette teaches us not only to conduct a conversation, but also to begin and end it. Those who know certain rules will not fall into an absurd situation when communicating with cultural people and will always be able to show their best.
Russian speech etiquette allows several options for starting a conversation. It all depends on the specific circumstances, as well as the situation. At a party, for example, you can just go up and start a conversation with a simple question. Do not forget to introduce yourself.
Meeting people in public is not prohibited. How to do it right? You can start by asking for help: help me choose a book, ask which product is better, and so on. You can try to continue the conversation only if the person has shown interest in you.
The rules of speech etiquette do not prohibit starting a conversation with a compliment. This approach helps to quickly attract one person or another.
You can start the conversation with general phrases about the weather, some events, and so on.
You can use a variety of questions to continue the conversation. It is important to listen to your interlocutor. This will help you find out which topics are most appropriate. In general, speech etiquette recommends listening more, not talking. Do not try to interrupt the interlocutor. It is also not recommended to argue - it makes no sense to prove to everyone and everyone their own position. An argument will only ruin the impression of you.
A casual conversation is welcome. In order to make the interlocutor relax, you can tell some simple anecdote or a funny incident in life.
To be an interesting conversationalist is to know a lot. You need to grab even for small parcels that come from the interlocutor. It is also necessary to develop them. Read books, magazines, watch news, be interested in the latest cinema.
Speech etiquette forbids being clever during a conversation.
It is important not only to start and continue the conversation correctly, but also to finish it. You always need to finish decisively, but delicately and very politely. When there is no sense and opportunity to continue the conversation, do not try to clutch at all the topics in a row. You need to know the measure. It is better to thank the interlocutor for an interesting conversation, praise him for something, and say goodbye to leave.
If you are in a hurry, and the interlocutor just got a taste, tactfully hint at him by looking at his watch. Apologize and say that you would be happy to continue the conversation, but urgent matters do not allow you to do this.
Speech etiquette involves politely avoiding those that you do not want to discuss. The options are different. You can, of course, try to transfer the conversation in another direction, but it is best to openly admit that this topic is unpleasant for you and ask to lower it.
In a conversation, you should not talk about negativity, your troubles, worries, suffering and so on. Everyone has a lot of problems. Each one has their own, and you can talk about them for hours.
Topics that are personal to both you and your interlocutor should not be made a subject of conversation in the presence of strangers. On things that are sensitive in nature, make accents, trying to understand whether the interlocutor is not against talking about them.
You should not even try to discuss absent people. Through discussion, many try to raise their rating. This tactic is wrong. A conversation can turn out to be entertaining (albeit useless), but you will ruin your impression of yourself. Speech etiquette does not allow unreasonable ridicule of anyone.
Do not give in to the mood. Always try to get into the emotional state of the person you are talking to. In some cases, you can try to influence his emotional mood.