“Love will inadvertently descend ...”, - is sung in an old song. Indeed, she comes when she is "not waiting at all." No one can fall in love (like falling out of love) on their own or according to plan: this always happens suddenly, like a lightning strike. Sometimes the feeling captures so much that all the usual life goes to the secondary plane, and a person already thinks like this: “What should I do? I fell madly in love! "It seems that love is something to rejoice, because it is considered a gift of God. Not always this, because sometimes it starts to bring not joy and happiness, but only torment and suffering. So what to do, if you fell in love "to death"?
Lightning strike
This is exactly how the moment of the appearance of love is often described by those who experienced love at first sight. Oddly enough, but this suddenness is more characteristic of men. They are able to fall in love with a girl in one minute. It should be noted that their feelings pass faster than women.
It is noted that even a minor trifle can attract a guy to a girl: heeled shoes, a special haircut model, the color of lipstick or dress, look, gait. Men are very attentive to such details and it is on them that they, as a rule, “sink”. This is such a phenomenon, and it is inherent in just the male part of the population. In other words, a guy who sees a girl in a miniskirt on the street can fall in love with her legs or her gait. At the same time, the power of the feeling that has come can be so great that he will think: "That's it, I fell in love" to death. "
Agony of love
What to do macho, pierced by such a powerful force? Of course, to get acquainted, and if the girl does not mind, then develop and build relationships.
If a guy fell in love with a girl, then all the obstacles and obstacles to him do not care. Men are creatures no less sensitive and vulnerable than women. Therefore, they are so painful when a girl ignores courtship or does not respond at all. It’s good when love is mutual, but it doesn’t happen very often. Therefore, the pangs of love have to be fully felt by someone who does not receive reciprocity.
Dangerous age
As a rule, such strong feelings are experienced by people at a very young age. The love that they feel lives on its own, as it were, because, because of the immaturity of their psyche, they still cannot fully control emotions with their minds. Therefore, youthful love is sometimes so tragic and painful. No wonder it was at this age that children most often commit suicide because of unrequited love.
How to act to achieve reciprocity?
Imagine that a young man fell in love with a girl. What should he do to be able to be with her? Much depends on the girl herself. That is, from whether she is free, whether she has a desire to build a relationship, how old she is, with whom she lives, whether she knows this guy at all and is aware of his feelings. In fact, much depends on such moments in the perspective of the development of the novel.
After all, if it turns out that she is already dating someone or she simply does not like the new admirer, then what should one do to someone who has fallen in love with her without memory? It remains to be hoped that she will either part with her gentleman, or she will pay attention to another applicant. For this to happen, the latter will have to try.
It will be required in every possible way to achieve the chosen one, arrange surprises for her, invite her to those places where she likes to be. You need to find out what she lives with, what she likes to do, what food she prefers, what films and music she watches and listens to. Girls are very fond of when guys are interested not only in their external data, but also in what is hidden behind them. This is how you have to act if you fall in love, like a child.
Awaiting Response
As long as there is no reciprocity, the lover will have to go through all the "charms" of unrequited love. So that the expectation is not so painful, you just need to shift your focus of attention to another object. For example, you can find something to your liking, resume a hobby if it was abandoned. It helps sports, and any. They will not only benefit in terms of physical improvement of the body, but will also give confidence and vitality. And these results will never hurt anyone.
Love should give birth only to the best feelings and aspirations. No wonder they say that it makes a person better, kinder, softer, more tender, sincere. In order to achieve the girl who fell in love at first sight, you sometimes need to go to non-standard steps. Women like these men very much: they immediately understand that everything is done for their sake, and who can resist beautiful deeds? Previously, knights fought to death in duels, climbed into the palace windows along smooth sheer walls, and went on military campaigns for beautiful ladies.
So, if you fell in love with a woman, so much so that you lost sleep and peace, the only reassurance would be the opportunity to be near her. Whether it turns out or not depends entirely on Pierrot himself. Rather, from his perseverance (in the framework of decency, of course), imagination, courage and depth of feeling. Women love stubborn men and usually surrender "at the mercy of the winner."
She, he and she
It is good when strong love overtakes a lonely young man. This naturally, normally and fully fits into the concept of procreation. You can congratulate such a guy and say that he is lucky. Not everyone in life succeeds in experiencing the power of love.
But there are other situations that are not so joyful, at least for one side. It is about when the unequal man fell in love with another woman. On the one hand, for him it is a joy, but on the other - a great torment.
After all, he understands that in this way he betrays both his “official” woman and the lady of the heart. Men, being in this position, are aware that they hurt all the participants in this love triangle.
Of course, the one that was betrayed is the worst. They no longer love her, do not want her, her place in the heart of a man is taken by a rival. And while the once-dear woman is tormented by uncertainty and betrayal, her beloved man thinks: “What should I do? I fell in love, but I'm married! ”
Signs of love
The dilemma is not easy. It affects the fate of several people. Unfortunately for some, and fortunately for others, almost all married men have been married all the time, but fall in love with women on the side. Some explain this by the loss of feelings for a noble wife, others by the fact that they simply "covered" at the sight of a beautiful, sexy girl. It is interesting, but even 40-year-old men, wise by experience and life, are not able to resist this storm of emotions.
Scientists have long proved that falling in love, especially bright, lightning fast, is nothing but the result of our biochemical processes that occur in the brain. For this reason, a person is simply not able to control what is happening to him. He loses sleep, appetite, he is not interested in those things that have long been a part of his life. So, work moves aside, a man abandons his hobby, does not pay attention to his wife. And only one thought pulsates in my head: “What should I do? I fell in love ... What if it’s serious? ”
Leave or stay
In such a situation, giving advice is a thankless task. Firstly, no one ever listens to them, and secondly, if someone follows them, then he also blames the adviser for all the troubles that have occurred to him.
If we proceed purely from considerations of decency and elementary cleanliness, then an unfree man who has fallen in love with another lady should either leave her (if these are serious feelings, of course), or love her exclusively platonically. This may be the answer to the question: “What should I do? I fell in love, but I'm married! ”
Love without joy
Even if a man fell in love with a girl platonically, but at the same time continues to live with his wife. Is it honest with him? Somehow not very. It turns out that a man must step on the throat of his own song for fear of destroying his family or because of moral principles. To share a bed, a way of life with one, but thoughts to be with another? Nobody can stand it for so long.
What to do if treason is unacceptable, and living in the old way becomes unbearable? There are few options, and you need to choose the most painless for all interested parties. It must be understood that at the behest of the mind stop loving like this just does not work. Therefore, you just need to wait out, so to speak, the active phase of this period. It will last several months, maybe a year. Everything will end faster if you don’t see the one that almost destroyed life.
That is, everything must be done in order not to meet this woman, not to be in the places of her "dwelling". If this is a colleague, then communication should be reduced to zero, and even then, only on professional topics. Minimizing contacts really helps a lot. But there is such a thing as thoughts. They arise in the head sometimes without demand, and it is difficult to get rid of them. When once again you want to think about this girl, you need to accustom yourself to immediately switch your thought process to another topic. By doing this from time to time, you can completely get rid of unwanted memories, images and other things, which does not completely cope with the love obsession.
It will pass
At first it will seem that there is no strength to live without her, that you need to go to her, that she is the one and only, for which it’s worth the risk, leaving behind all the old. However, these thoughts will soon cease to appear, as the painful, oppressive feeling that has not kept living in recent months will gradually pass.
Soon, very soon, biochemical processes will cease to roam in the brain, and all experiences, torment and suffering will come to naught. This love can live forever, but love - only from a year to 3 years. You just need to be patient, but time is not wasted. Why spend it on meaningless experiences? It will be more productive to plunge headlong into some new business, focus on a career, you can go on a trip. By the way, long-distance travel is the best cure for heart pain.
Outside help
There are very difficult cases when a person is unable to cope with his obsession on his own. Someone goes to friends for help, and someone goes to a psychologist. Often these experts hear in their offices a question: “Tell me, what should I do? I fell in love, but I can’t be with this girl yet. ”
Patients with this problem are not uncommon. And they all want one thing - to hear from the specialist some simple and effective advice that would help them cope with this difficult situation. Of course, hoping that this will be so is simply ridiculous. The psychologist will undoubtedly help get rid of addiction (and a strong love is addiction to another person), but this will take time, because an integrated approach is required here. However, one must understand that in the end, no one but the person himself will be able to help him.
Love without memory. What to do with her?
We often hear in life from screen heroes: “That's all guys, I saw and fell in love with her forever.” What do young people do in such cases? Those who are a little bolder and bolder will immediately approach and get to know each other. Some do not dare to do this and pass or pass on. If they think about this girl for several days, then they begin to look for her throughout the city. The most desperate can post ads on poles with her signs: with a description of the exterior and the place where the meeting took place. He asks for help to find her, because he fell in love without memory. And someone preserves this romantic memory and lives on.
If the meeting took place, then it is not a fact that it will necessarily go to some other, important stage. Moreover, with close communication, a girl may not make the impression that was at the first meeting. And this is far from rare. Having fallen in love with some kind of image, you can be very disappointed in what a girl really is. Therefore, of course, you need to communicate in order to understand if yours is a person or not. Indeed, sometimes a beautiful face, eyes or legs do not guarantee at all that everything else will be just as beautiful (human qualities are meant).
Long live love!
You need to fall in love, they say, it is good for health, prolongs life and makes it more fulfilled, colorful and meaningful. The main thing is not to lose yourself in love, because in this format it turns a person’s fate into a nightmare. And this is no longer love, but an addiction that cannot carry joy and creation.
Falling in love at first sight does not guarantee love. In order not to miss your chance, you must definitely get to know the girl better. Or you can simply go further: let this bright meeting forever remain in your memory.