Have you been circled around your finger ?! Agree, the unpleasant feeling of being cheated. Is it possible to determine whether a person is telling the truth or lying? Of course, you can, even need to! There is a whole technique for recognizing lies. You do not need to be a qualified psychologist or physiognomist. Behavior, facial expressions, gestures of a liar themselves will give you the necessary truthful information. How in time to fix a clear dissonance between "falsehood and truth"? Learning to trust not your ears, but your eyes.
Who usually tells a lie?
Telling the interlocutor a lie, deceiving him, the liar man practically does not think about what visual signals he gives.
There is a fairly common expression: catch in a lie. What does it mean? This means that expose, open evidence of someone's guilt, catch someone in a lie.
Modern psychology distinguish the main four types of people who are inclined to tell a lie.
- If a person wants to be smarter than the rest. Usually this type of people takes an active part in debates, discussions, proving to their opponents their great life experience and more than one higher education. In order to convict such a person of lies, you just need to ask a few clarifying questions on the topic under discussion. The liar will respond in a generalized, general phrase. Here is the first clue.
- The second type characterizes self-serving people. Usually such liars say a bunch of compliments. So he tries to “lull” the vigilance of the interlocutor, seeking selfish gain for himself. Usually such people become scammers who deceive the gullible and naive. Sergey Mavrodi is a vivid example of this.
- The third type of liars is the most interesting. This type includes people who have the ability to lie from birth. For them, this is art. Usually they have great acting data, so they quickly circle anyone around the finger.
- The fourth type of people are pathological liars. They are comfortable living in their own lies. They come up with a fantastic life (the confidant of the President, test pilot, dad - the chief judge of the city, etc.). Such people believe in their own tales so much that they get out of any uncomfortable situation.
Often such liars have a low social status.
The truth is on the left
How to convict a person of a lie? Look at his left side. Usually a person is outwardly tense enough, although he tries to hide it. From the point of view of neurophysiology, a person is less able to control the left half than the right.
For example, if a person is a right-handed liar, then during the conversation he will vigorously gesticulate with his left hand. If the right hand is practically not involved in the matter, then be completely sure that the person is lying.
Another mismatch: the left side of the face is more active. A person is definitely insincere with you.
Lies - at the tip of the nose
Own nose betrays, as they say, giblets of us. If, when communicating with you, a person twitches with the tip of his nose or takes him aside, then think about the sincerity of his words.
If a person inflates his nostrils, it means that you are not particularly trusted.
The nose is quite sensitive with respect to lies. You will want to scratch it exactly when you are lying. In science, this fact is known as the "Pinocchio Effect."
Moreover, the lie is scientifically substantiated. When untruthful, blood pressure rises. This affects the nasal mucosa. The hormone catecholamine is produced. Then the stimulated blood pressure of the end of the nerves is connected to the process of “issuing the truth”. Itching appears. Therefore, if the interlocutor rubs his nose, eyes or just touches them - he is dishonest with you. Moreover, this fact is scientifically confirmed.
Hands ... where? Gestures
The interlocutor in communication with you is trying to hide, put his hands in his pocket or just close his palms, then with some certainty you can say that he is hiding something from you. This factor is especially pronounced in children.
Hide your palms or vice versa - open them - these features can be used against you even in a typical market. An experienced seller immediately pays attention to your palms if you refuse to buy something from him.
If you cover your mouth with your hand, then this is an external manifestation of a desire not to let slip, not to say too much.
If the interlocutor strains the muscles of the mouth, bites his lips, it means that he is already caught in a lie.
Gestures cannot be trusted only if they are systemic, that is, a person constantly uses them.
Phrases - "talkers": verbal signs of a liar
Honestly ... Do you often hear? This is the number one phrase that helps to convict of a lie. After pronouncing it, it is better to listen to what information will follow.
Usually liars say template phrases:
- You have to believe me.
- I am telling the truth, you know me.
- Can I cheat? Never!
- I am frank with you.
The essence of deception is not even hiding what he says, but how. The timbre and rhythm of the voice changes - this is a reflection of insincerity. If the interlocutor has long pauses, hesitations, and difficulty pronouncing the next sentence, beware. His tone may change due to the fact that he can not completely control himself. If the interlocutor speaks with you calmly and in a low voice - most likely, he is telling the truth.
Gestures add information to you that you are a liar. If the gestures and words are inconsistent, think about the true intentions of the person.
If a person is lying to you, emotions can “rage” on him. Outwardly, it will resemble a sapper who walks through a minefield.
Pauses in speech. The attention of a liar is usually out of focus. He literally picks up the words that need to be "lied to." In this case, long pauses of 5-10 seconds are formed. Watch carefully how the person speaks to you.
Repeats your question. To win a little time, a liar will immediately repeat the question for you. Yes, it's a few seconds. But a liar is usually enough to come up with an answer to it.
And the last: in a conversation, a liar will always talk about his innocence. Is there anything for the innocent to make excuses for?
Conversation poses
Conceal even a pose during a conversation can tell a lie. For example, a person is in a tense uncomfortable position, which is not typical for him. He crawls on a chair, tries to sit down more conveniently - these are signs that the topic of conversation is unpleasant for him or that he does not agree with your point of view.
Liars can lean on some object or cross their legs. If a person is sincere with you, then his posture is quite comfortable and relaxed.
Eyes
A liar will never look you in the eye. Direct eye contact is his enemy, and yours is salvation that will help to convict the interlocutor of a lie.
Most of the conversation, his gaze will be directed to the environment, raised up and down, supposedly considering something.
Facial expression
Experienced liars are not easily caught in a lie. Sometimes they “reprogram” their body language. For example, they openly express boredom, yawn, use an open pose in conversation, and speak slowly.
Usually liars have a fake smile. Thus, the liar will try to outwardly reduce distrust on your part. How to distinguish a sincere smile from a fake? If a person smiles at you sincerely, then he will form small folds at the corners of the eyes - “crow's feet”. In the case of a fake smile, a liar uses his mouth only.
A liar will often blink. This is a manifestation of his excitement. Of course, if he has no problems with his eyes.
Simulated surprise. When a sincere person is surprised, then his eyebrows rise. If a person only creates the appearance of the joy of meeting you, then his only intonation in his voice will change.
How to bring a liar to clean water? Rules-const: I can’t shrug my nose
Condemn a lie as an interlocutor? Use effective methods:
- Take simple steps in a conversation. Enter with him in one rhythm. Be on his wave. It will be more difficult for him to lie to you. At the same time, you should not blame the interlocutor for lying in the forehead. Better pretend not to hear this information. Let him repeat it for you. Usually, earlier and later information is not consistent with each other.
- Ask direct and suggestive questions. Connect your expressive facial expressions and gestures. They will force liars to respond quickly. At the same time, you need to ask questions so that the liar has a feeling that he is caught in a lie, and you already own all the information for a long time.
- When talking with a liar interlocutor, ask for his advice for a friend who is in an awkward situation: they lie to his eyes. If you have a sincere person, he will help with advice on recognizing lies by changing gestures and facial expressions. He will tell what he knows. If the interlocutor’s motives deceive you, then he will start to laugh it off and get nervous.
- Look at the expression of the liar’s emotions. His speech may incoherently begin and abruptly end.
- Between what has been said and emotion, little time passes. Usually, a sincere person has an emotional coloring along with spoken words.
- If the liar's facial expression does not match what was said, be sure that he is lying.
- A slight smile or only facial muscles participate in the expression of emotions, then he’s definitely hiding something from you.
- Telling a lie, a person physically manifests this. Shrinks in a chair, strives to take as little space as possible on the chair, clasps his hands to himself and takes an uncomfortable sitting position.
- A liar will always avoid meeting your eyes (although this does not apply to pathological liars).
- A liar will constantly turn his body away from you, while tilting his head. Know - this is a sign of an unpleasant flow of conversation between you.
- In a conversation with you, a liar will put a kind of "protection". For example, a napkin, a vase, a chair. So, he arranges his "defense".
- Ask to tell the story or information in reverse chronological order. To make up a story is half the trouble, but turning it upside down is difficult, it will turn out to be a mess. Try it yourself!
- In questions we learn as much as possible details. Usually liars do not pay attention to details. Therefore, learn as much as possible: what was the color, object, person, what they talked about - anything.
- Be silent and show external distrust. Drive a liar into extreme stress. Literally tell him that you do not believe. In this case, look intently into his eyes. Of course, the situation is unplanned for a liar. And it is at that moment that important details will open.
To master the ability to recognize lies, you need to learn how to compare all the factors in one picture. The result is an accumulation of signs that betray lies.
How to convict a man of a lie?
Lies - the beginning of problems in the relations of each couple. The main thing - trust in the partner is lost. And it doesn’t matter at all who first launched the lies mechanism.
How to convict a husband of a lie? A common question that women ask. Usually the spouse feels the deception intuitively, on a subconscious level. Typical signs of a liar husband:
- does not look into the eyes;
- actively touches parts of the face;
- if the conversation takes place in a public institution, for example, in a restaurant, then the man between himself and the interlocutor will create an invisible “defense”: a glass of wine, a dish with food, etc.
- cross his arms in front of him - a manifestation of unwillingness to let into personal space.
To deceive female intuition is almost impossible. Therefore, in order to justify suspicions, arrange questioning with addictions. Remember, in the details - the whole point.
How did I catch my wife in a lie?
Men are still spies. The first “symptoms” of a liar wife:
- stops digging, jealous, bitchy and naughty;
- complaisance will soon be replaced by anger - a sign of remorse;
- a man will be accused of treason - this is a kind of "defensive" move in advance;
- new friends will appear (as in that joke: Olya means Kolya);
- frequent business trips;
- external manifestations: shine in the eyes (which happens only in a state of love), blush, new dresses;
- in case of an uncomfortable question, it will begin to “swarm” in your purse or frantically search for something;
- very constrained in movements;
- nervousness - a change of support from one leg to another;
- straightens clothes, shakes her.
Eyes - a mirror of the soul and ... the truth. Look closely at your spouse. If her eyes run, she does not look in your face, then these are obvious signs of lies. Of course, external manifestations alone are not enough, the fact of incrimination in a lie is much stronger. Make her tell the truth: ask a lot of clarifying questions.
Outgoing people usually lie - extroverts are more than introverts. Moreover, sex has nothing to do with it. Women use lies to relax their interlocutor, and men - to assert themselves. Lying is not an innate ability, but an acquired one. And a person begins to lie by 3-4 years. Do you often lie?