Today, the ability to communicate is valued even more than the ability to speak beautifully. Glossy industry has led to the fact that almost every woman has a complex, and not one. When someone sees in himself a lot of flaws that seem completely incorrigible to him, a man’s isolation appears, to cope with which, especially without outside help, is not so simple. But nothing is impossible.
Be confident in yourself!
How to become liberated? Before understanding this issue, you need to understand that your excessive modesty in communication is not the norm at all. Long gone are the days when women were calm and submissive, and men ruled the world. Today, a girl has the opportunity to provide for herself, wear jeans and more. The main thing is that a woman can be as active an interlocutor as a man, and even start a conversation first.
And this is not a lack of politeness or arrogant character, but just the ability to accept oneself. Emancipated girls are not at all those young ladies who easily meet guys in a nightclub, they are those who love themselves. Moreover, they know about their shortcomings, but, unlike the bulk of the population, do not think about them hourly. Excessive modesty is unusual for them. Such women know how to present themselves from the right, better side, and therefore none of those who are familiar with them simply does not notice any shortcomings.
Psychological problems
However, becoming so is not so simple. From a scientific point of view, the psychological barrier is to blame for self-doubt. This obstacle is very real and tangible. Since such a barrier is a kind of block of consciousness that does not allow you to do anything. This can interfere not only with acquaintances, but even with simple communication. If, for example, it’s hard for someone to just say “hello” to their old friend, should you seriously think about why this happens? Perhaps he is too dissatisfied with himself, it seems to him that he does not reach a fictional ideal and he is ashamed to say to people: "Hey, this is me." Although the matter may be not only in the person himself, but also in his acquaintance, communication with which is simply unpleasant. Then this is no longer a psychological barrier, but simply hostility towards this person. Therefore, it is not worth worrying about such situations.
Sort yourself out
So, if you see the need to combat your shyness, that's good. But inner freedom is unattainable without introspection. Think about what the reason for your insecurity is hidden, it is good if the answer to this question is found independently.
If nothing happens, you should seek the help of a psychologist. Individual consultation is ideal, because if you yourself do not understand what you want, it is unlikely that online communication will help you. A competent specialist reads information about your personality not only by what you tell, but also by your appearance, clothing and other non-verbal factors. All this is noticeable only in person.
Communicate more
How to become liberated? Another important point is that you cannot learn to communicate without communication. Remember that you will feel scared and uncomfortable only in the first minutes of a conversation. Then comes the moment when the voltage dissipates.
If approaching a stranger seems to you to be too complicated, try starting with active communication with someone you already know. Greet you at a meeting, try not to look away from the person you are talking to. Suppose there is someone in your environment with whom you feel particularly embarrassed. Make an appointment with someone you both know. Try to establish contact with a difficult interlocutor.
It often seems to us that someone is dissatisfied with us or laughs at our behavior. Sometimes it is, but it happens that we come up with ill-wishers ourselves. Try not to think that someone doesn't like you, it makes you vulnerable. Even if your fears are not unfounded, be higher than those who are dissatisfied with you, not for their sake, but for your own sake.
Self-esteem
If you’re already communicating well enough, but you still haven’t been able to figure out how to become liberated, perhaps the problem is in self-esteem. The main mistake here is that many women think: if they were thinner, if they had a flat stomach or a big chest, or an elastic butt, they would be 100% self-confident. But the truth is that, as soon as we correct something in ourselves, the complexes do not go anywhere. Finding more and more shortcomings in their own appearance or in their education, upbringing is a favorite pastime of all self-doubt.
This way you will never be satisfied with yourself. But this does not mean that it is impossible to gain confidence. You just need to act a little different methods. Then you will make a confident woman. Try to pretend to be the
one you want to become, your ideal. Surely this woman does not hunch, does not knock down socks on her shoes, and certainly never looks at the floor from hopelessness.
She knows her worth, and therefore her head is always raised up, her shoulders are straight, and her thoughts are clear. The advantage of this approach is obvious: pretending to be confident, you will soon become such. Because you stop looking for your own shortcomings. You will consider yourself the one you want to be, and she is
an example for you
to follow. Therefore, if you are a model, then why worry about dubious shortcomings?
Self discipline
Very important in life is self-discipline. Yoga or any other physical exercises will help to develop it. Sport helps us, giving us the opportunity to rest spiritually, it improves our attitude to ourselves, but only if it is not perceived as another tool to combat flaws.
Go in for sports and choose what you like. After each training session, you don’t need to run after weights and a centimeter. Because monitoring your body and wanting only the best for it is one thing, and fanatically torturing yourself for self-improvement is another. Exhausting workouts have not made anyone happy, and an unhappy person cannot be self-confident.
Foundation of happiness
Inner freedom is a state in which a person, under any circumstances, can choose what he likes. Moreover, this condition depends only on fears and passions. All your fears are worth conquering.
If you get hung up on your own passions, you also can’t achieve inner freedom. For example, a person who loves money. Now we are not talking about the rich, but about the one who is addicted to banknotes. A person suffers not only from a lack of money, but also from the possibility of losing them, thereby limiting himself.
Internal freedom will increase as we begin to rid ourselves of fears and passions.
Conclusion
How to become liberated? There can be many answers to the question, and almost all of them are universal. To be able to communicate with others, you need to understand what you want, and then just go to your own goal. It’s easy to rebuild yourself with a positive attitude, it’s hard to deal with your fictional shortcomings. Even if you have some disadvantages, think: what if you know about them? And if this is true, then why are you trying every day to impress both yourself and those around you that something is wrong with you. Communicate and fear nothing.
Even if at the very beginning of the journey it will be difficult for you, never turn or back down. Do not give up without a fight and every day try to be better than you were before. Read, start new hobbies, acquaintances, and it is quite possible that the next nice person will be the very prince for you. And if you look at the street from the window of your apartment all your life, then no horse and prince will definitely shine on you. Today, princesses have long saved themselves from the towers themselves, and they also learned to deal with dragons pretty well, the main thing is to act. Then you will understand how liberated girls behave.