Technological progress is evident in our time, but it does not allow people to cope with the sense of meaninglessness of their being. Existence seems gray and empty to many, and dealing with this feeling is quite difficult. It would be nice for a person who suffers from such a problem to ask himself the question: if someone decided to write a book about his life, what would it be called? "Empty and sad life" dedicated to monotonous existence? Or would it be a publication called "Adventures and adventures of a desperate daredevil"? To transform our being from monotonous and boring into interesting and full of meaning is within our power. How can this be done?
Ask yourself some useful questions to clarify the situation.
An empty life is one in which we lose the opportunities that reality provides every day. For example, we want to do what we love, but we come up with hundreds of excuses not to do this. The guy wants to approach the girl, but hesitates. An elderly woman wants to take interesting courses, but it seems to her stupid. As a result, each of them lives an empty life. To understand yourself, it is useful to answer a few questions:
- When was the last time you sincerely laughed? What brought you joy?
- Do you have any friends? If not, where can I meet new people?
- Where did you manage to visit farthest from home? How long have you been traveling?
- What was your last long walk?
- When was the last time how to sweat? Did you give your body physical activity in the last month?
By answering these questions, you can understand the current conditions of your being. And perhaps these answers will provide the necessary motivation to turn an empty life into a conscious and meaningful existence.
Forget about fear
Many of those who suffer from the monotony of their being experience many fears. Some of them are conscious, while others are visible only from the side. However, in any case, fear slows down our existence, making it of little interest. It is impossible to make an empty and holistic life full of meaning if fear alone lives in the soul. Many are afraid to be embarrassed, to be refused, to look stupid. But what will happen otherwise if we do not follow up on our phobias? In reality, nothing special - the world will not collapse, and everything will continue to take its course.
Our decisions are in our hands
The empty life of empty people is, in reality, their own choice. If such individuals do not want to overcome their own fears, then they limit their own capabilities, make themselves dependent on the situation. They should remember that our being is not always just joys and happiness. No one will try to organize ideal conditions for us, as if we are greenhouse plants created for measured and well-fed conditions. Everyday life is full of challenges that we accept or not.
The empty life of empty people leads them to the fact that sometimes they don’t even want to lift a finger for their own happiness. “I will not be able to open my own sports school, because so many problems are associated with this,” the young man tells himself. However, what is behind this phrase? The usual fear of failure. In such cases, we forget that it’s much worse to do nothing than at least try to take steps towards the dream.
To communicate
One of the questions above was about whether you have friends. “Life has become empty,” we often tell ourselves, when for some reason we have to lock ourselves in four walls, or if existence passes along the beaten track “home - work - home”. Lack of interaction with new people or with old friends can actually create a sense of the meaninglessness of being. Man is a social being, and this cannot be taken away from his nature.
Our drawback is often that we go against those natural things that are embedded in us by the creator (or evolution, whatever you like). No need to lock yourself in. If you wish, communication can be found anywhere - to attend courses or classes, meet someone on the Internet, go to relatives, in the end.
Try new
“I’m living an empty life,” a man tells himself, consciously refusing to let novelty into his daily existence. You can’t cope with monotony if you do the same thing every day. Look at the image of some exotic dish. Looking at him, the thought may arise: how can people eat this? Most likely, for them it is just very tasty. And those who have not tried unusual food just show the courage to do it.
How about trying something new in your life? Maybe you would be interested in skateboarding? Or ice skating? You won’t find out until you try it in practice. So the next time you see someone riding a horse, ask if this person could let you ride for at least five minutes.
Define your values
Often life seems empty when a person himself does not know what he would like to strive for. Most of our existence, we turn to others to answer us the question of what is important. In childhood, our plans and goals are led by parents. As we grow older, friends, partners and colleagues influence us. Not to mention the media, which constantly impose on us the ideal of a happy life. But how many of us really think about our own dreams?
Ask yourself a few questions:
- What are the biggest problems I see in the world around me? What are their reasons?
- Who is the most important person in my life?
- What are my dreams, plans, aspirations?
- What are my values? How much does my current lifestyle correspond to these values?
These questions cannot be answered within one day. Some take this whole life. Therefore, it is worth returning to them again and again.
Define your "success zones"
When life is empty and meaningless, people usually don’t even appreciate what they have. However, in fact, at this moment they can own a lot. For example, these are time reserves; the talents and skills that they have; opportunities provided by life. If life goes empty, it’s useful to start by identifying areas where your talents might show up. In order to achieve a conscious and meaningful existence, we must learn to look beyond our comfort zone and soberly assess our talents and abilities without underestimating (or overstating) their significance.
Everyone has talents
Everyone has unique features that can make us successful. Everyone can find a way to make the world around them better, while enriching their own lives. Do not let social values ​​and judgment prevent you from following your dream. After all, it is precisely talents and abilities that can lead you to the meaning of being. Those who do not seek to realize their unique skills ultimately find themselves forced to work for others, to follow values ​​imposed from outside.
"Empty life, empty happiness," they say to themselves, buying another car or an expensive fur coat to meet the requirements of society. However, the joy of consumption quickly fades away; and after making purchases, you need to return to an ordinary existence that does not bring a sense of satisfaction. Someone again has to go to a gray and dull office to spend long hours there until a happy moment when you can go home. Someone should attend classes and lectures at the university in the specialty chosen by his parents or friends. Such is the reckoning for the inability to determine one’s abilities and find ways to realize them.
Empty life: what to do if stagnation is around? Challenge as a solution
Most adults have more than enough everyday problems. But when a person thinks about what the meaning of his being is and why it constantly seems to him boring and monotonous, in such cases, perhaps, there is just not enough “pepper”. Sometimes such shakes are provided by fate itself. For example, a person suffering from depression and despondency suddenly learns that he is not all right with his health. And if he does not urgently change his lifestyle, the consequences will be the most unpleasant. Immediately, such a person has a goal: he begins to take care of himself, eat healthy food, play sports.
In some cases - which, however, can be called happy - higher powers (or God) pardon such people, and do not send them additional sufferings that could sober them up and get them out of a state of stagnation. However, no one says that in such cases a person cannot challenge himself on his own. Think of a goal that could be a real challenge for you.
It can be not only the conquest of the mountain peak (although this option, perhaps, will be suitable for someone). Going to university, losing weight by 20 kilograms, paying out a loan spent on charity - some of these ideas may seem insane, but they will quickly allow you to find the meaning of life and not become discouraged by an existential vacuum.
Stop reflecting too much
A lot of stress and anxiety can result from a tendency to analyze and think about your own destiny. We think too much and take too little action; We are trying to understand what awaits us in the future, but the feeling of hopelessness from such a concentration on ourselves does not go away. In fact, at such moments we are simply wasting our time.
The reality is that, regardless of our mental abilities, we cannot predict our future. Events can sometimes unfold in the most unpredictable way - in the event that a person stops reasoning for too long and aimlessly and instead takes on concrete actions. Recognizing the unpredictable nature of life, we can stop endlessly thinking and evaluating situations and begin to live in the present. This allows you to open your mind to the possibilities of today.
Believe in yourself
When a person begins to struggle with the meaninglessness of being, finding new hobbies and goals, he may encounter one problem: gigantic competition. Unconsciously, for this reason, many people are locked in their seashells of everyday monotony, as this saves them from additional psychological trauma. For example, if someone wants to open their own business, he discovers that there are thousands of organizations involved in the same business. And in order to provide customers with a good product, it is necessary to have really significant competitive advantages.
Self-doubt crippled many, again dropping them to routine and monotony. However, when we stop believing in our own or imposed from outside negative beliefs about ourselves or about those things that we want to do, this allows us to make life brighter and more saturated. It is impossible to succeed in a few days or even months. In order for life to cease to be empty, it is necessary to take small steps and do it daily. Only then will it become possible to find the right direction, to get rid of insecurity, monotony, boredom.