Does life seem too complicated for you? Then you should develop a healthy nonsense in yourself. It greatly facilitates life. Having learned the art of calming the nerves, relaxing and not being puzzled by the little things, a person becomes happy and can live without stress.
You can change - change, can not - do not worry
The art of healthy nonsense is based on one simple rule: if something can be changed in a situation, then you need to make every effort to achieve your goal. Let's take an example. A person is late for work and worries about being late. He rides in a minibus and to eliminate traffic jams is simply not in his power. Does it make sense to be nervous and worried in this situation? Not. You will only wear out your nerves and achieve nothing. Your excitement will not accelerate traffic jams and will not accelerate your trip. What can be done? Call to work and say that you are late. After the call, release the situation. Why worry about what is impossible to change? Life without stress is much nicer. We must learn to accept the situation and act decisively. If you can’t change anything, calm down and go with the flow, optimistic that everything that happens is for the best.
Rejoice in the path traveled, not the goal
How does healthy nonsense work? A person must be able to accept his life as it is. It is foolish to worry about the future and worry about the past. Live for today. You need to learn to understand that the goal is good, it is a beacon in your life. But a person can swim all the time to a ghostly light and so cannot reach him. In order not to be disappointed at the end of life, you need to learn how to enjoy the journey. Do what you like. Do not do something for the purpose. Always think about the pleasure you have. You can lose weight all your life, go on diets and never achieve a perfect body. And you can support your figure not with exhausting workouts and fasting, but with morning runs or light stretching loads. You will definitely see the result of physical work, maybe not as soon as after a diet, but your body will acquire a beautiful relief over time and gradually become slimmer. After fasting, weight quickly returns, and after gradual weight loss, extra pounds will not return. Therefore, learn to choose activities to your liking and do not think hard about the ultimate goal.
Learn to enjoy the little things
How often do you smile and enjoy life? From time to time, once a week or once a month? You need to learn to enjoy every day. Healthy indifference manifests itself in an optimistic view of things. A person who enjoys every day lived receives more pleasure from life than a person who receives joy from time to time. Learn to see the little amenities that fate presents to you. For example, you can leave a house on a gloomy autumn day, and at that time, the sun will peek out from behind the clouds. Or maybe you wake up in the morning because for the first time in your life your son decides to please you with breakfast in bed. Learn to notice small surprises and tell fate for them thanks. When a person learns to see something good in every day he lives, his life changes.
Take it easy
How to become a nonsense? You need to stop cheating yourself. The easiest way to do this is to stop predicting your future and worry about it. Try to put up with the idea that you will like any lesson that fate presents to you. Whatever she gives you, you will come to terms with any outcome. Such a simple attitude to life helps a person to calm down and begin to live today. If you don’t think hard about tomorrow, life will become easy and beautiful. This does not mean that long-term planning should be completely abandoned. It’s just to be understood that plans may not come true. This fact should not upset you. The plan can not be implemented? You will compose a new one. Are you afraid that you will be fired from work? Why be afraid, you can definitely find yourself any other place and, possibly, even with a higher salary. Not worrying too much about the future, it will be easier for you to live in the present.
Don't count on people
You want to become a nonsense, but don’t know how to do it? Stop constantly relying on others. The less fascinated you are, the less disappointed you will be. People will not always do what you want. Sometimes they will let you down, betray or not fulfill their promises. Yes, it is insulting and painful. But do not attach importance to such situations. The man did not fulfill his promise? Understand the reason for his act. If you understand a person, then forgive her. If you understand that a person simply forgot about you or intentionally tried to evade his promise, say goodbye to such a person. It makes no sense to hold on to traitors and those who have undermined their confidence. Only rely on those who truly deserve it.
Treat all people equally
Despite the fact that you will be betrayed and deceived, you should come to terms with the idea that all the people around you are good. Sometimes it will be hard to believe, but it is. Man never does anything without a reason. If someone slanders you, it means that you hurt his feelings or he envies you. Do not be offended by the person for spreading rumors about you. His life is sad and sad. And if he chose such entertainment, then a similar method brings him pleasure. Treat this person well. Let him see that it is impossible to spoil your life with his efforts. Follow the rule "but we do not care." People who will treat you badly and not get a negative reaction in return will soon realize that you are a strong person who does not worry about what and who is talking about her. Yes, you shouldn’t keep in touch with such pests, but you don’t need to be angry with them.
Think less about what they think about you.
Living on the principle of "but we do not care", a person begins to experience true happiness. If you stop thinking about what people think about you, you can do what you always wanted to do. For example, enroll in dance courses or in a book club. Do not be afraid that someone will not understand and do not share your hobbies. You have one life, and you should not look back at others. You can make yourself an idol only from that person whose life suits you completely. But you are hardly familiar with such a person. Therefore, live the way you want, and do what you like. This is the theory of healthy indifference. A person should be happy, and if you are not satisfied with a highly paid position in a law firm, you can safely change your specialization and become an artist. Are you afraid that they will laugh at you? If you fail, you can always return to the practice of a lawyer. And if you drag out with the acquisition of new knowledge and skills, you may not have time to realize your talent.
Do what you like
A man should not be afraid to do what he loves. Even if today you do not succeed, this does not mean that tomorrow you will not learn a new skill. How to develop a healthy nonsense? We need to work on it daily. You must find time every day to do what you love. First, let it be only 30 minutes a day. Then you can increase the time to an hour, and then engage in all 2-3 hours. At any age, a person can master any specialization. Yes, it is possible that in some areas a person will not be able to receive awards and medals, but after all, the favorite thing in the first place is the pleasure of the process. Do you want to dance? Go to the nearest fitness center, sign up for a group and find like-minded people. Want to become an actor? Take acting classes and start playing in any theater group. It's never too late to do your favorite activity, remember this.
Don't be afraid to say no
Do you want to live happily? Learn to refuse. It is only in Hollywood films that characters can broadcast from screens about how cool it is to agree to all offers. In life, everything is a little different. How to develop healthy indifference? One must learn to refuse people. In order to be less nervous because you don’t have time to do something, stop promising that you don’t want to do or that you don’t have time to do. Thanks to this simple rule, your life will improve significantly. You will find time for what you like. You will not have problems due to the fact that you do not have time to do someone else's affairs. Yes, you need help, but only when you have time and desire for it. In other cases, refuse. Do not be afraid that people will think badly of you. You won’t be good for everyone. No one will laugh at you if you only help from time to time. But ridicule will not be avoided if you put on your neck a few parasites who will live happily at your expense.
Accept the idea that life always goes wrong
How to learn healthy nonsense? A person must understand that always something will go far from what was originally planned. If you immediately come to terms with this thought and begin to act, it will not be difficult for you to adjust the plan. And if you are not mentally prepared for failure, any deviation from the intended trajectory can become a tragedy for you. Remember, your plans are not an accurate map of the area. You must always be prepared for any surprises. It is advisable to have several backup plans in mind. If the main one does not work, then it will always be possible to implement an additional one. Do not be afraid to improvise. In the course of solving the problem, you may have some bright thoughts that can be immediately realized.
But what if your goal becomes impossible? Well, certainly not upset. Set yourself new tasks and try to implement them. After some time, you can review your original goals and decide whether to achieve them. And if you decide what you need, try to make the second approach.