The book of S. Khokhlov is an excellent practical guide for every lady who wants to build a happy relationship with a man, successfully marry, and also establish relationships in the family. A large number of women have already read this book, attended the author’s seminars, at which he reveals his secrets even more in depth. This allowed them to get almost phenomenal results.
The cause of all misfortunes is misbehavior
In his book “Men: Instructions for Use,” the psychologist writes that a boring life, hard work, harmful friends and the absence of a loving and kind person nearby are a direct consequence of the decisions that a woman herself made in her life. However, the psychologist writes that every girl can change this state of affairs. The secret to a happy relationship is to start doing things that previously seemed unacceptable, non-standard. This will allow you to get new results, and men will begin to pay you more attention.
The main condition for success
Every woman who dreams of happiness in her personal life will be interested to read a book, or at least a brief summary of it. "Man: instructions for use" - this is a real guide to establishing family happiness. And just a short description of the book will not be enough to achieve such a goal. In order to learn how to be happy and make her a man, girls need to read the whole book, where the author generously shares his tips and practical techniques.
S. Khokhlov emphasizes that readers must use new methods of interaction with men in practice. Just read the information just takes the time spent reading.
True understanding comes only when a woman begins to experience the principles described on a particular man.
How to attract your man and how to keep? This question is relevant for many ladies. And here, the psychologist warns, one cannot do without hard work on oneself. If you believe in a bright future, thinking that a man will make a woman happy, you can always be alone. The writer says that faith in a brighter future is a real fiction. Without her own efforts, a woman will never come for her. The “prince on a white horse” alone will not save a passive and embittered lady. After all, you can make happy only that woman who already has inner harmony, knows how to enjoy life in this world. If a lady is initially evil and unhappy, then not a single man in the whole world can make her happy.
Criticism - the destruction of love
It is very easy for modern women to criticize the stronger sex. This is because their minds are several times more attentive than men's. And this means that they see the mistakes of the beloved closer. And these mistakes cause the lady almost physical inconvenience. Silence about this is completely unbearable, but it will have to be done.
The strong sex always takes criticism with hostility - this cannot be avoided. No one will like being attacked. And for every unkind word a representative of the stronger sex will find a few more. Or he will simply run away to his “cave”, in which he can get rid of excessive tension. Or it will “follow” a bottle of alcohol, which will give an imaginary calm. If a lady does not want her lover not to be so uncouth, then you should not criticize him, but rather, stop doing this as soon as possible.
Also, the psychologist emphasizes that in no case should one wash the bones of his man. Even if he does not hear this criticism, she exerts influence on a subtle level: business partners begin to fail him, the desire to bear responsibility for his woman is lost.
About Feminism
The author pays much attention to the problem of feminism. Women are used to doing everything with their own hands. They are happy to take responsibility and begin to live in the same way as men - in constant stress. However, the female body is not adapted to such loads. This leads to health problems, hormonal disorders. In some doses, stress can be beneficial for men. However, the way women live — working in an unloved job, trying to survive, bearing the burden of responsibility for the family — destroys them from within. A real woman is able to receive help from a man. She also knows how to inspire him for worthy deeds.
First of all - own needs
Also in his book “Men: Instructions for Use,” Sergey Khokhlov writes about the importance of satisfying one’s own needs for women. As a rule, the outbreak keeper seeks first to satisfy all the needs of the family - she spends money on the children, the spouse, then you need to buy a gift for the parents. And then there is absolutely no money left.
It is much more convenient and easier for a woman to spend money on loved ones than on herself. And the author notes that this is an extremely dangerous habit. It is necessary to learn how to satisfy one’s own needs - to buy cosmetics and clothes, to register for special courses or to the gym, to fulfill small desires.
The thing is that if a woman gives everything without a trace, she remains emotionally devastated. She already has nothing to give to this world - including the man. Beloved interest in her begins to decline. The self-esteem of the girl is also reduced. However, she again makes a mistake, starting to try even more for the family. However, this is exactly the moment when you need to turn your attention to your needs.
The importance of emotions
A real man is always guided by reason. He lacks emotions, because he is forced to constantly control them. That is why he reaches for a woman. If she behaves towards him coldly and with restraint, this is fraught with serious consequences. A man can go hunting for those impressions that he lacks. At first it can be different hobbies and hobbies, he goes headlong to work, and then ...
If a woman puts a man any restrictions in this regard and at the same time does not herself provide him with all the necessary positive emotions - she thereby cuts the branch on which she sits.
Therefore, a lady should always monitor her own emotions. You can not accumulate negative, because it can completely destroy all the good around. A man begins to avoid such a lady, goes into himself. But things begin to crumble with him, too, because the woman could not properly inspire him.
A lady must definitely monitor her experiences. If they accumulate too much, they can be thrown out at the most inappropriate time for this. Beloved will be extremely surprised if his girlfriend makes a scandal over a dirty cup. He does not realize that anger and resentment accumulated in a woman for many days, or even months.
Managing emotions is primarily their adequate expression. However, many ladies make a serious mistake here. They either begin to lock themselves in, driving negative emotions into the unconscious and translating them into psychosomatic diseases. Or they pour negative emotions literally in buckets with or without. Especially if the man is weak and tired.
Selfishness male and female
Also, psychologist S. Khokhlov in his book "Men: Instructions for Use" writes about the difference between female and male self-love. Most often, men are blamed for such a shortcoming as egoism. After all, the stronger sex always first of all thinks about itself, and only then - about everyone else.
A woman, on the other hand, seeks to help everyone around, to “curry favor”, in order to later receive large “percentages” in the form of approval. However, the difficulty lies in the fact that her relatives are completely unaware that their mother or wife drives them into debt. As for male egoism, it is in this respect more transparent and simple. In the book “Men: Instructions for Use,” the author emphasizes: when a woman begins to demand her own, a man sincerely does not understand what they want from him. An example is the women of the era of the USSR who so threw themselves and exhausted themselves that this led to excessive demands on their own children.
The psychologist emphasizes that a woman needs to put her own needs above the needs of other people. Doing this is critical. After all, only in the case when a woman loves herself, she is able to love other people. How to inspire a man? First of all, learn to draw energy for yourself. It is as difficult for ladies to do this as a man to learn to think about others first, and then about himself.
Each reader may have already met women who exhausted themselves so much that they turned into real emotional “black holes”. They already have absolutely nothing to give this world. They not only do not know how to inspire a man, but they are not able to give joy to themselves. Such a woman believes that she is not loved because of any negative qualities, since she is trying hard for loved ones. And so she begins to make even more efforts. However, this does not lead to the desired result. And after that, she has only two options - either to get seriously ill (since negative emotions accumulate in the body and begin to destroy it from the inside), or turn into a real “vixen” and break off relations with all loved ones.
How to behave on a date?
Usually, girls who first meet a man behave as follows: the gentleman tells her about his own achievements, while she smiles and listens. The author of the described book for women gives a large number of different tips on what should be the behavior of a woman on a date. And first of all, she should behave naturally, also tell the story of her own life. At the same time, you should not be afraid to tell your secrets. A lady can say that she reads special books for women. Such frankness is able to hit a man. Sometimes it is not easy already during the first meetings to talk about your shortcomings. Or, for example, a woman may be afraid to tell the truth about having a child or a loan. However, this must be done: as the author emphasizes, there is absolutely no reason for embarrassment.
What does it give? Firstly, it allows filtering irresponsible men already at the first meetings.
Secondly, it allows you to interest the object of your sympathy. He will understand that the girl shares her difficulties with him not as a potential candidate for husbands, but simply as with a friend. This behavior distinguishes the lady from other women. There are very few sincere women, and a real man will appreciate the ability to tell the truth about himself.
And finally, the third plus of such tactics is getting rid of negative feelings. The secret to a happy relationship is sincerity from the very beginning. A woman tests her own ability to open to another person. If during a date it is difficult to do this, there is nervousness and a feeling of embarrassment - perhaps you should be careful with this man.
Reviews
Many readers write that they really liked the book by Sergey Khokhlov. They managed to radically change their usual reactions to the behavior of men. The relationships among some girls were relatively good, but after the information received from Sergey, they became ideal. After the girls apply the advice from the book “Man: Instructions for Use,” lovers begin to give expensive gifts. The state of happiness and contentment in life transforms girls. An unexpected bonus is improving women's health. After all, the advice that the psychologist offers in his book helps balance the psyche of a woman and prevent exhaustion.
Readers also point out that Khokhlov’s book “Man: Instructions for Use” helped to build relationships, relieved them of negativity. The information received from the psychologist, for some, became a real salvation. Indeed, often a woman may not notice obvious things while in a relationship.
The book that changed life
The book describes how men work and what should be the approach to them. After all, the stronger sex is the so-called "single-tasking system." Its representatives can do only one thing per unit of time. In addition, it is difficult for men to express their feelings. Girls who managed to understand this after reading the book indicate a significant improvement in relationships.
For many girls, the work "Men: Instructions for Use" became a turning point in their personal lives. The reviews of such ladies are filled with thanks to the author. After all, the modern generation of girls is forced to deny their femininity. They forgot about who they really are, they are afraid to once again ask for help. It is for such ladies that this book was written. Despite their name, readers emphasize in their reviews, the book is written specifically about women and for women. It allows you to better understand yourself, to put everything in its place, to get out of the vicious circle of "work - home - work."
The book allows a woman to recover after a difficult period in her life - for example, after a divorce, when the lady has neither the strength nor the desire to do anything further. The simple tips offered by S. Khokhlov in his book allow one to avoid many problems in various fields. It will be useful to those who are just entering the path of relationships. The reviews of various readers say that this is really a valuable publication for those who want to find happiness and love.