Very often we use the word "spontaneity" in our speech. What is this from a psychological point of view, how is it characteristic and to whom is it characteristic? Let us now try to understand these terms, as well as get to know them with real examples. Perhaps someone will discover this quality in themselves or in their loved ones.
General wording of this definition
Spontaneous behavior means that a person does only what he wants at a particular moment in time, and nothing more. This is characteristic of animals and children, which is why we all admire both of them. With age, such “sharpness” and momentality in behavior disappears, and it is replaced by advance planning, submission to a schedule (to one's own or another's), and this, as psychologists say, destroys us as individuals. They compare the extinction of spontaneity with the psychopathology of everyday life, and this term is used here not in the medical sense, but more in the social sense. That is why it is important in your mature years to “remember” how good you were in childhood, when spontaneity directed your feelings and actions. That it was the most accurate and faithful reflection of yourself and your inner world, not stained by social principles.
How and why spontaneity is suppressed
At a very young age, our parents and kindergarten teachers teach us what is good and what is bad. We are forbidden to be late, not to eat porridge, forced to make beds and wear specific things that we most often do not like. At the same time, the slightest disobedience on the part of the child is in every possible way punished, and this, in turn, leads to the development of fear. It is this fear that stops in us the development of that very, true personality, due to the fact that it blocks spontaneity. That this is bad, and that it is impossible to raise children in this way, doctors have learned not so long ago. However, there are many nuances in this matter, since each of us is part of a society where there are rules and principles, and if everyone will fulfill his momentary whims, the world will go crazy. However, this is already philosophical reasoning, and now we will try to become a little freer ourselves, based on what is available.
Drop the frame of society
Think for a moment that all the prohibitions that revolve in the head of every person related to his childhood. Now you are a full-fledged adult personality, therefore, you can safely forget about them. We are concerned about what others will say if we perform one or another action, since in childhood we were scared by the fear of being ashamed, due to which spontaneity was blocked. What is this if not a pathology that prevents us from living? With absolute certainty we can say that absolutely all people are indifferent to what you do and how you behave. Any insane act committed by you in a public place will only pay you short-term attention, but in a few minutes everything will be forgotten about this, including you. Therefore, behave more freely, do not limit yourself to childhood, remember that we live only once.
Learning to be free
The development of spontaneity in adulthood can take place in various ways, and it depends on the characteristics of your psyche. Someone reading this material on their own will think that he is already free, and will finally do what he had not decided on before. Other people may not be so strong, and they will need the help of a professional in order to open up. In any case, one must remember that there is spontaneity of the subconscious, spontaneity of consciousness and spontaneity of behavior. Each subsequent term follows from the previous one, therefore, having adjusted all your thoughts, allowing yourself to be yourself, you will become a different person. And, most likely, your whole life will be transformed, or maybe it will change radically.