Hellinger's method is unique in its kind. It helps to solve a variety of life problems. A person watching from the side of what is happening may be surprised. In fact, not understanding what is happening, it is difficult to understand the actions of people. What is the Hellinger constellation method? It is worthwhile to consider this topic in more detail.
Bert Hellinger
Bert Hellinger - German psychotherapist, philosopher, scientist. He became known around the world thanks to his unique method of arrangement.
Bert Hellinger was born in 1925 in Germany. He grew up in a Catholic family. When Bert was ten years old, he was sent to foster education in a monastery, where the local Hitler Youth organization tried unsuccessfully to recruit him. In 1942, Bert Hellinger was called to the front. He fought on the Western Front, and in 1945 was captured. Hellinger was in the camp for a while, but he managed to escape. Returning to his homeland, the young man entered the Catholic Order and began to study philosophy and theology at the University of Würzburg. A few years later, in 1952, Hellinger took the priesthood and left for South Africa with a missionary mission. The priest continued his education in Africa. Here he received a bachelor’s degree in humanities, and with him the right to teach at a local school. Here Bert Hellinger lived for 16 years. He built his career from the position of a simple teacher to the director of the school, and later to the supervisor of all schools, which were more than 150. Bert spoke the Zulu language with ease, took part in various rituals and accepted the world outlook of the local people.
In 1960, Bert Hellinger left the Catholic Order, and interest in the study of phenomenology forced him to lay down. The former priest returned to his homeland. Here he met his future wife Hertha. In the 70s, Hellinger and his wife moved to Vienna, where he continued his studies in psychoanalysis. Later there was a new move, this time to the USA. Here, the scientist studied with Arthur Yanov in California. The study of transactional analysis had a tremendous influence on psychoanalysts.
Based on the methods of Bert Hellinger, a book was written, the author of which was the German psychiatrist Gunthard Weber. The book was a huge success, psychiatrists around the world gladly bought the publication.
For a long time, Bert Hellinger and his wife travel around the world, conducting seminars.
Hellinger's constellation method
As mentioned above, Bert Hellinger created a unique methodology of constellations. This system helps people solve problems not only in family life, but also in business, in the work team.
Many people were able to clarify their lives and get rid of troubles and life troubles with the help of the Hellinger method of constellations.
"Arrangement" means the position of a person in space. The Hellinger arrangement method itself is similar to a chess game in which each individual has his own place reflecting his image.
Many psychologists in the world use this system. Moreover, we apply the method not only to groups of people, but also to individuals.
The essence of the constellations
The description of the Hellinger method is quite simple. The essence of the constellations is that the client can solve his problem by referring to his family tree. It is believed that all problems are related to the family, the human race. To solve problems, you should contact your ancestors, get in touch with them and find out at what point in history something went wrong. Having solved the problem of his ancestor, a person will save himself from life's troubles and troubles.
Bert Hellinger has formulated several definitions that help the client. The Orders of Love is a system of laws, the violation of which at any period of time leads to certain phenomena, which are a problem for a person.
Bert Hellinger's constellations help to follow these laws and restore order in the system. This provides a solution to the problems voiced by man.
The arrangement works according to the Bert Hellinger method and with "family weaves". Family interweaving is the process of identifying unfinished business of the human race, which causes problems in real life. Such interweaving involves a member of a clan living in reality in a variety of troubles. From here came another law - the law of balancing the system. In order to achieve balance, it is necessary to complete the unfinished business of their ancestors, then life's troubles will disappear. The fact is that, finding himself in the interweaving of fates, a person lives someone else's life, acquires other people's troubles and troubles. The solution of affairs of a kind, the completion of unfinished allows to unravel the interweaving of fate. After the family interweaving is unraveled, the life of a real person is established before our eyes, he has a taste for life, and with it a huge powerful potential of forces and capabilities, previously inaccessible. A description of the Hellinger method can be found in the public domain, but this arrangement should be carried out by a specialist.
How to recognize the presence of a "family weave"
The description of the Hellinger arrangement method makes it easy to recognize the presence of a "family interweaving." One has only to pay attention to their problems, think about their essence, and most importantly, to understand whether the troubles have a real basis. A person may experience strong groundless fear, fierce jealousy, feelings of intense anguish and despondency, while not having real reasons for this condition. This means that these experiences were once real, not only in the life of the person himself, but in the life of someone from his family. The method of systemic constellations of Bert Hellinger makes it clear that circumstances are not accidental. You should not dump various unpleasant situations on a coincidence, because everything is natural.
The following vital moments can serve as simple examples of family interweaving:
- A person who monitors his health in the most thorough way, is fond of healthy lifestyle, is sick, despite all efforts.
- Smart, charismatic, beautiful, interesting, with a good character, he cannot find his soul mate, he is always alone.
- A person who understands the health hazard from eating harmful food, alcohol, and smoking addiction with his mind uses harmful products with great pleasure, unconsciously striving to approach his own death
In accordance with the method of systemic constellations of Bert Hellinger, all problems are on a subconscious level in a person, they arise spontaneously.
What is a placement request?
A request for a systemic arrangement according to the Bert Hellinger method is the voice of the client about his problem. Typically, a placement request is expressed in two to three sentences. A person should describe not only the current life situation, but also the presence of a desire to change something. The therapist helps his client find out his real desires. Many people freely voice those things that they do not want, but they cannot voice their real desires. For B. Hellinger's constellation method, it is very important to achieve the manifestation of the client’s true desires.
The constellator helps a person to understand the real essence of his problem and correctly formulate his request for placement. It is very important that a person really wants to solve a problem, find its root. It is the systemic arrangement according to the Bert Hellinger method that allows the client to realize what exactly needs to be solved or changed. Further actions depend on the person himself. Some are on the right track, others are resisting. It is worth noting that the rejection of the correct way to solve problems is the responsibility of the client himself.
Another important point in the methodology of systemic constellation according to Bert Hellinger is the presence of serious and reasonable motivation. In any case, the host will refuse a person who does not have problems or is trying on other people's hardships. Curious also has no place in the Hellinger system.
The constellation method can be applied to a variety of life situations, of which the following can be distinguished:
- various serious diseases, congenital pathologies;
- severe psychosomatic conditions;
- childlessness and infertility in women and men;
- accidents;
- problems with children;
- problems with parents;
- psychological trauma;
- psychological trauma for children;
- fear of proximity, maintaining distance with strangers;
- loneliness, inability to arrange a personal life;
- family troubles, disagreements;
- the presence in the family of people whose fate was tragic (suicides, abortions, early deceased, etc.);
- baseless phobias and fears;
- Depression, falling into a state of pessimism, occurring without the presence of obvious real reasons.
When does the family constellation approach work?
The Bert Hellinger family constellation method is suitable in the following situations:
- Family conflicts that recur at regular intervals.
- The difficult relationship of parents with their children and the inability to solve them.
- Treason, the presence in relations of third parties.
- Difficulties in family life caused by disability, the onset of disability, serious illness, drug addiction, alcoholism, abuse of children or parents, criminal records, incest.
- Violation of the correct hierarchy in the family.
- Work on anger, guilt, resentment, fear and anxiety, which are accepted from other people.
- The presence in the family of tragic repeating fates, evil rock.
- Early departure from the life of one of the family members.
- One of the family members has a serious intention related to the death.
The Hellinger method of family constellations almost always helps to solve home troubles.
Types of Participation
Participation in the method of systemic constellations according to Hellinger can be expressed in two forms. A client can become a "client", or maybe a "substitute."
Participation as a substitute can be quite an important action for a person. Having participated in someone else's arrangement, many understand their own problems, receive spiritual healing and decide on the need for their own arrangement or abandonment of it.
Participation as a “client” helps a person not only identify their own problems and troubles, but also solve them.
Placement process
In the process of placement, a person voices his request to the constellator. The client must name their problems out loud, as well as the desired result of getting rid of troubles. After voicing a specific problem, the client is asked to choose people who will become his deputies. Also, the client independently distributes roles to his deputies, that is, determines what role the person will play. The problematic person also places the deputies. He sets as he sees fit. It is worth noting that substitutes should not be chosen by reason, but by heart.
Some time after the start of the arrangement, the deputies begin to experience feelings similar to the feelings of the client. This is the spectrum of feelings that a client once experienced. The deputies begin to manifest the same emotions, often even facial expressions are repeated. Such actions are called substitutional perceptions. This information comes to the deputy through the information field. This phenomenon is not fully understood, because often the client and deputy are seen for the first time in their lives. These feelings can be manifested in a quick change in the mood of the deputy, which appeared for no reason from apathy, the repetition of the client's wishes, etc.
The therapist advises listening at this moment to his words, and if the deputy has an irresistible desire to say something to the client, then this must be voiced.
The main condition of the Hellinger constellation method is listening to all participants to their own inner feelings and thoughts.
As a result, the arrangement shows what feelings and problems are in the human soul. In the case when everything is going well, the constellator, client, and deputies understand the real state of the human soul. Then the constellator offers one way or another way to restore the system. In the case when the client follows the proposed path, all the members of the constellation begin to notice the positive dynamics and be aware of it.
Result of constellations
The effectiveness of the arrangement may be different. Not all customers achieve the same results. The effect depends on the following factors: the client’s willingness to look at the cause of the problem from a real point of view, open his soul and let someone else in, the professionalism of the constellator, and the willingness of all members of the system to solve problems.
Psychologists around the world, as well as a variety of psychological programs, have recognized that the Hellinger method works in 70% of situations. The system helps to cope not only with family troubles, but also with serious diseases caused by unresolved situations in the human race, as well as a violation of family history or family ties. Bert Hellinger’s systemic family arrangements saved many families.
Constellation Superstitions
There are several superstitions associated with the Hellinger constellation method:
- Fear of participating in someone else's arrangement. Some people are afraid to take part in someone else's arrangement, because they think that other people's problems can “stick” to them. It is worth remembering that, taking part in someone else's arrangement, a person takes on the role of deputy. A foreign problem cannot be attracted to a person if it has nothing to do with it.
- Some people believe that deputies cannot be trusted. It is worth noting that those in the role of deputies cannot pass off their emotions to strangers, this is proved by repeated experiments. In such experiments, simultaneous group constellations were carried out and deputies showed the same emotions and feelings.
- The myth that constellations are like magical rituals. It is worth noting that the arrangements according to the method of Bert Hellinger are not magical rites. Moreover, these are generally different things. Problems on constellations are not resolved at the click of a finger. This occurs during a laborious and responsible process.
- The presence of a positive result. Many people are mistaken, confusing a positive result with a good one. The fact is that the result that helped solve the client’s problem is positive. The main thing is that the result allows a person to start living his own life.
Reviews about the constellations
On the open spaces of the world wide web you can find a variety of reviews about the Hellinger system. Many people who attended the scientist’s seminars are delighted with his methods. Such a seemingly simple solution to the situation raises serious human problems hidden at a subconscious level. The constellations helped many people around the world to solve quite serious problems that they could not get rid of in other ways. Many customers who use the Hellinger method say that they were able to start a new life. They had a powerful life potential, strength, finally, people just loved life.
Couples also resolved their conflicts using this system. According to their reviews, conflicts ceased, harmony, love, understanding and respect reigned in the family.
People who attended the training because of physical illness also leave positive feedback about the Hellinger method. Many of them were able to overcome their diseases, finding out the cause of their origin. Apathy, severe psychosomatic conditions have also been repeatedly managed to solve using this technique. Patients are satisfied. Trainings of this type are especially good for severe depression. A person simply pulls himself out of a difficult life situation, finding the cause of the disorder in his subconscious.
Of course, in addition to positive enthusiastic customer reviews, there are also negative ones. In fact, not everything is as smooth as it seems, because even psychologists do not approve of this technique one hundred percent. Most likely, people whose problems could not be solved could not fully open their souls and pull the problem out. It is also possible that it was not possible to clearly articulate their troubles and voice their own desires. As already mentioned above, it is quite difficult for a person to admit to himself that he really wants. . , . . , . , , .
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Some participants in the constellation complain about wasted time and money. In general, no matter what causes the client to fail, a negative result is also a result.
Based on the foregoing, we can conclude that the method of Bert Hellinger really works. It is based on the work of the human subconscious. Participating in a systematic arrangement, a person establishes a connection with his family tree and solves the unresolved problems of his ancestors, completes their unfinished business. The system is not magic or hypnosis, it is psychology. The Hellinger method communicates the client and the deputy at the level of information fields. Each of the deputies helps the client to understand what is happening and to understand the cause of their troubles, and an experienced constellator offers one way or another way to solve the problem. Psychologists around the world approve of this technique.
Of course, every system crashes. So the Bert Hellinger method is not perfect. He cannot solve absolutely all problems. And yet many are satisfied. The percentage of people who remained unsatisfied with the method, although not high, still exists. In any case, before resorting to solving troubles by the Hellinger method, it is worth trying to understand yourself and your soul yourself. Perhaps this technique will also be effective.