Developing, a person lives. You always need to be in search, try to get new knowledge, learn new skills. However, for this, one should be in harmony with oneself. In this article I want to talk about what it means to find yourself. How can I do that? What will happen if you do not look for yourself?
What does it mean?
At first glance, it might seem that the phrase “find yourself” is too sophisticated. However, everything is much simpler. Everyone is constantly on the lookout for something better. It is precisely dissatisfaction with the current life situation that stimulates one to go further and further in the search for oneself. To put it simply, looking for yourself means setting new goals and gradually achieving them, while gaining a lot of new knowledge and useful skills and abilities.
What does a person who has found himself feel? First of all, it is satisfaction. However, this condition will not last long. Very soon emotions will calm down, as a result, emptiness will return. Therefore, it is worth saying that you can not find yourself and stop. Even if a person has mastered a certain skill and wants to constantly enjoy it, in the process of work he will always develop, mastering more and more new facets of a certain business, looking for more and more opportunities to improve his personality.
the main thing
What can a person who has found himself, who knows his place in life, advise? First of all, learn to set personal goals of varying complexity. Well, of course, be able to reach them. This is the main rule that gives a person an impetus in life and makes him develop and improve. In addition, setting life goals perfectly helps to cope with stressful situations and without any problems to overcome difficulties that so often arise on the path of life. And this is a great bonus on the self-search trail.
What you need to know
What can be advised to a person who keeps repeating: “Help me find yourself”? First of all, it is worth saying that the search process is often long (taking into account the time frame) and laborious (taking into account the costs of forces and energy). Therefore, self-searching can last for years, sometimes for decades (in fact, it takes a lifetime). However, this should not be upset, because the process itself is already self-improvement of the personality, gaining valuable experience. In addition, you need to remember a few more points:
1. The goal should be to your liking, i.e. match the desires and mood of a person. Someone else's goals (parents, friends, public) - this is not at all a search for oneself, but imitation or submission to someone else's will.
2. The goal should be achievable (not overstated), but not too accessible. It is good if there is a person’s motivation for positive actions and self-improvement of oneself as a person.
3. The goal should make the person "burn." She must beckon, attract, be desired. At the same time, visualization of the future helps a lot, as well as other elements of tuning oneself in the right way (for example, you can set yourself smaller goals every month, which will lead to achieving one big one).
Where to looking for?
An equally important question that most people may have is: “Where can I find myself?” So, psychologists say that the two large whales on which each person's life rests are family and work. It is here that you need to look for your own meaning in life, to improve in these areas. It is worth mentioning that the two indicated important areas are so wide and unlimited in any way that in them you can grow and develop personally all your life, constantly forming new and new goals.
About the time
What else can a person who has found himself suggest? An important rule: do not put off until later. Do not think that today you can perform the necessary mechanical actions for life without developing at all. You need to start looking for yourself since childhood. The learning process, the choice of a profession, the search for hobbies are all elements of self-search. And do not stop in this matter. Mature age is not the time when you need to start looking for yourself, then you can already summarize and pass on the valuable knowledge and experience gained over the years to the next generations. It is important to remember that life is a constant search process.
And if you do not look?
It is important to remember the following: only a person who has found himself or is engaged in a search is truly happy. He can be successful and even rich. However, some live just like that, not thinking about tomorrow and not developing their own personality. It is worth saying that today there are quite a lot of such people. Where are they? On the streets under the fences, in the pubs. Even if everything is not so scary, then often the facial expressions of such people are very unhappy, they simply do not feel the colors of life. A person who has no purpose does not have a sense of existence. The search for alternative options begins, as a result - withdrawal into a fictitious reality, the development of various kinds of dependencies.