Human life is bizarre and unpredictable in its manifestations and attacks of fate. The black stripe changes to white, the white to black, successes are followed by turmoil and adversity, which later again are replaced by success and happiness. And so in a circle. It is not always good or constantly bad. Some obstacles regularly appear that a person must overcome in the course of his life. But how not to react to the negative, periodically creeping into the life of everyone?
The harmful effects of negativity on the psychoemotional state of a person
What is negative in itself ? This is a set of external factors that cause discomfort and place a person in conditions of psycho-emotional imbalance, making him feel restrained, irritated, under pressure. The impact of negative on the consciousness of any representative of society adversely affects the indicators of his self-esteem, well-being, mood. Under the influence of negative vibrations of an unflattering action directed against a particular person, the latter begins to experience great excitement, tension, confusion, and even to some extent fear. Therefore, this phenomenon must be fought. But how to learn not to react to the negative?
Negative in personal life
Sadly, it is a fact: a person himself is the source of any negative. In addition to living substance in the form of a rational creation, there is no one else to radiate negative energy in the direction of their own kind. One person is able to immerse another in a state of despondency and oppression in a matter of minutes with his word, deed, action. A rebuke, a remark, a sharp word - any statement can hurt, deliver very unpleasant, painful sensations and cause emotions of indignation, anger, rage, fear. And such a negative can manifest itself within absolutely any circle of communication and field of activity: in personal life, in the professional field, in the educational sphere, in neighborly or comradely relations - in a word, anywhere.
How not to react to the negative that occurs between two people in a relationship? Quite often, such a problem occurs in dysfunctional families, where the head of the family in the person of a man is an alcoholic or just an ardent lover to be intoxicated. How not to react to the negative of the husband, who constantly radiates manifestations of anger, aggression, insults towards the spouse is absolutely unreasonable and baseless? There are two ways out: either adapt to abstracting from his psycho-emotional instability, or threaten such a rogue with leaving the family.
Another source of the spread of negative energy in relationships between people in love is jealousy. An overly jealous young man is capable of his distrust and constant interrogations to plunge his other half into a state of despair and deep gloom. It is necessary to deal with such manifestations, because sooner or later such relations will either come to a standstill or give a crack and break through the most unpleasant stream of critical events.
Negative at work
Often, due to relocation or loss of previous work, people have to change their workplace. And, unfortunately, far from always colleagues are happy to meet a newly arrived specialist in a new workplace. High ambitions, professional envy, personal career failure - all this provokes people to attacks of aggression directed against the newcomer. The negative radiated by such colleagues puts the person in the framework of dejection and psychological discomfort, along with which a stable stumbling block is developed between them, affecting the quality of work of the victim of such attacks. How not to react to negativity at work and stay true to one’s job is a rather complicated but solvable question. Psychologists recommend that every malicious demarche of colleagues respond with a smile, restraint, ostentatious indifference, and sometimes calm, but weighty argument in the case in response. This will shock, disarm and render harmless the aggressors spewing out attacks and make them calm down.
Negative between peers
A similar model of behavior is possessed by a society of young people in universities, institutes, and other educational institutions, where youth often encounter misunderstanding with each other. The process of formation and psychological development of adolescents is often identified with violent manifestations and emotional instability in everyone's worldview. And the negative energy shown by some individuals in relation to their own kind is easily explained by conscious immaturity and the final stage in the formation of a person as a person. How not to react to the negativity and insults of peers who constantly make fun and regularly remind of themselves with tart and caustic words? To prove himself and repulse the offenders by paying them back with the same coin, or to nullify their nit-picking by utter indifference to their actions - everyone determines for himself the most suitable way out of the situation.
Negative in the family
Family ties are no less often tested for strength in the form of cases with the division of property or division of real estate. This is probably one of the most difficult tests through which native people pass, bypassing a test for relations with each other. How to stop reacting to the negative on the part of the sister, who remained dissatisfied after the unfair, in her opinion, verdict regarding her part of the property allotted to her in the parent will? How to avoid constant conflicts on this basis? Give her the missing part of parental savings, quarrel and stop talking with her, or try to resolve the swelling scandal by other, more loyal, related methods - everyone has the right to make his own choice.
Interpersonal negativity in society
How not to react to the negative of an evil old woman in the morning transport that erupts from her mouth with or without cause? An excellent way out of the situation is headphones. An indifferent reaction is the most correct reaction in this case. But how to get rid of negative attacks from a neighbor, dissatisfied with loud, in his opinion, music? Again: cold indifference or a compromise will help get rid of the annoying grumble.
How to deal with negativity
Any situation related to the negative behavioral model of the surrounding society must be resolved. You can’t constantly give in to attackers, you need to be able to fight. If a person is attacked, he must be able to fight back. If senseless and irrelevant grumpy chatter is imposed on him, he must remain indifferent. Looking at the situation, you need to choose a model of behavior that as quickly as possible helps to resolve the conflict and get rid of manifestations of external negative.
What prevents the manifestation of negativity
There are a number of methods and principles of a behavioral manner that do not allow the negative energy ejected by the surrounding society to break through the wall of opposition aimed at it as a counterweight. How not to respond to negativity? Psychologists recommend the following actions:
- managing your territorial space and staying in your own comfort zone;
- abstracting from malicious attacks and the negative impact of others;
- limiting the circle of communication only to positive people;
- maintaining a sense of humor and stability of the psycho-emotional state.