Have you decided to learn to defend your point of view and influence other people in ordinary dialogues? To do this, you first need to familiarize yourself with the basic theoretical information on this issue. In our article, just 8 effective tips will be presented that will allow you to learn to adhere to your position even the most notorious person. Also at the end you will find a short video in which there are some more useful tips.
Do not impose your opinion on other people.
Thinking about whether you need to defend your point of view? Discussions on this subject can be found at various thematic forums, however if you came to us, then you are not interested in empty talk, but in effective methods that will allow you to persuade the interlocutor even in the most disadvantageous situations. In this and subsequent sections, you will find some tips on this.
So, for starters, you should be well aware that you should never impose your opinions on others. Any person should be able to correctly express their point of view and argue it with good reason, regardless of whether others share it. However, it often happens that people simply try to impose their thoughts or worldview on others, because they believe that their views are the most correct. Understand that no one wants to hear that their life all this time went in the wrong direction. Even if you are 100% aware that you are right, learn to defend your point of view as unobtrusively as possible. To do this, you can use the following turns: "Think as you like, but it seems to me ..." or "I respect your point of view, but here you are wrong, because ..." In this case, people will listen to you with interest sooner or later change their minds.
Learn to say no in disadvantageous situations
How often does it happen that we agree to some dubious enterprise, although it is initially disadvantageous for us. A colleague invited you to a friend's anniversary, but you could not refuse him, even though you had more plans to work on that day. A familiar situation, isn't it? As a result, you have to go to a futile event to the detriment of yourself only because you can’t say a solid no. It should be understood that a person has every right to agree or refuse a certain offer. Before giving a positive answer to a gamble, analyze in detail the fact whether it will bring you more benefits than losses.
You are probably wondering now: "How is this generally related to the fact that I want to learn to defend my point of view?" Everything is extremely simple. If people from your environment see that you are able to give a negative answer in situations where there is no benefit for you, then they will subconsciously respect you, which means that the opinion that you have on a certain topic will be perceived seriously. Even if a person hears from you an absolutely opposite point of view, then at least he will think about what you told him. Indeed, only truly strong-willed individuals can say “no”.
Do not get hung up on the opinions of others
The ability to defend one’s point of view is also inextricably linked with whether a person knows how to pass other people's words. Do you think people will trust that person who is very easy to convince in the opposite direction? That's it! Learn not to get hung up on the words that other people tell you. This does not mean that you should not respect someone else’s point of view at all. However, if you know that your worldview is correct, you should fundamentally uphold it, or at least not change it in those situations when they try to convince you. If you do not learn how to do this, then it will be quite simple to manipulate you, so you should not get hung up on other people's thoughts, even if these thoughts come from a very authoritative person.
Learn to articulate your words
In order to leave time for constructive criticism after the dialogue, it is necessary to learn not only to defend your point of view, but also to sufficiently formulate those thoughts that are born in your head. To do this, try to discard the excess momentum and concentrate on the main thing - those words that will make your interlocutor change their point of view. The easiest way is to write out the main and unconditional arguments of your position and start any dispute with them. If you manage to confuse your opponent from the very first words, then winning a dispute will not be difficult. The most important thing is to formulate your speech competently, comprehensively and clearly. Then it will seem to other people that your arguments in other matters will be no less convincing.
Boost your communication skills
Now you understand how important it is to be able to defend your point of view? If you do not learn to convince other people on important issues, then sooner or later someone will convince you. To prevent this from happening, try to pump your communication skills properly. Simply put, learn how to communicate with other people. This process is quite complex and requires several years of training. However, if other people see that you can communicate on different topics, then they will subconsciously begin to trust you.
If you decide to start a dispute with another person, then you should keep maximum calm. Respect the opinion of your opponent, but in no case do not take his side in those cases when he, in your opinion, is wrong. It’s not worthwhile to engage in dialogue in elevated tones or, moreover, to switch to personalities - this is the lot of weak and insecure people who do not deserve the trust of others. Try to remain calm and have an adequate outlook on things even if there are not one, but several opponents in the dispute against you.
Learn the psychology of influencing people
If you want to learn how to defend your own point of view, then it's time to start studying the psychology of influence on other people. You can manipulate your interlocutor with the help of various psychological techniques. Each person has special unconscious points that you can put pressure on to force you to do whatever you want. If you are even a little familiar with these methods, then you understand what is at stake. A change of point of view is only a small part of what can be achieved with the help of such manipulation. Try to study more psychological literature on this subject and constantly look in other people for the values that they value.
Argument your words correctly
Everything is pretty simple here. To properly defend your point of view, you must first learn how to correctly argue your words. Your arguments must be clear and logical, so that your opponent is 100% sure that you can be trusted. For example, in psychology there is one rather entertaining method of persuasion. Try to ask the person more questions during the dispute, the answer to which will sound short and simple: "Yes." If there are really many such questions, then a person will begin to subconsciously doubt his own rightness and will take your side. However, ask only those questions that are directly or indirectly related to the subject of the dispute.
Know when it is best to defend your opinion
Unfortunately, many people do not even think about whether to defend their point of view at the moment, because sometimes situations may arise when disputes are inappropriate and it will be best to remain silent. The fool will express his opinion everywhere and always, and the sage will wait for a convenient moment when the words bring maximum efficiency. For example, instead of proving to his colleague that he was wrong about working methods during the lunch break, you should wait for the general meeting and raise this important topic on it. If you manage to convince the majority of those present, then the opponent simply can not disagree under their influence.
Conclusion
We hope that now you better understand how and why you need to defend your point of view. The ability to convince other people is a quality that is inherent only in strong-willed individuals who can manage dozens, or even thousands, of people. To develop such a quality in yourself, you should read more psychological literature and watch developing videos. We leave one of these videos to you for viewing.
The author of the video really knows how to convey his thoughts simply and clearly, as evidenced by the name of his channel and the size of the audience. Happy viewing!