Man often lives in the illusion that the mind is capable of controlling everything and everything. This is not true. Our actions are largely controlled by the subconscious, and we do not always give an account of what is happening. The body quite often gives alarms, while it is difficult for a person to find a logical explanation for this. This phenomenon is called an incomprehensible situation, from which a way out is required. The article offers various ideas for solving the problem, as well as reviews of people who have chosen one or another option.
Stereotypic reactions
Man often resembles animals, acting in certain circumstances according to established patterns. His reactions are a little more complicated and less predictable, but brought to automatism. Why it happens?
In conditions of limited time, a person, as it were, frees the brain, which is able to concentrate on tasks of paramount importance. When a certain signal is received that does not affect vital interests, a stereotype is triggered, and the brain immediately gives a response. Consider the examples of some well-established patterns described by R. Cialdini in the monograph "Psychology of Influence":
- More expensive is necessarily better.
- Any service should be answered with a response service.
- You always need to give in to someone who is ready to give in to us.
Stereotypes penetrate our lives so much that we are not always able to be aware of our actions, perceiving what is happening as an incomprehensible situation. This is often used by manipulators who have studied human psychology well.
Manipulation example
A fairly recognizable situation, when in a store along with an expensive purchase we are offered related products. Surprisingly, this often works. And to the acquired foreign car we additionally buy rugs or a stereo system.
The principle of contrast works: the cost of the car and rugs, for example. The latter, against the background of the astronomical price for the car, seem to be just free. And only at home we realize that we were wasted on the goods that we do not need at the moment.
Did our body signal that we were in a difficult, incomprehensible situation? Definitely. Surely during the dialogue with the seller there was a feeling of slight anxiety and discomfort. This is the main indicator that a person becomes an object of manipulation. They do not build sincere, trusting relationships with him - they use him. In fact, only one task is solved - to sell the goods.
Any stereotypical situation can be used by other people. For example, the Hare Krishnas give a passerby a flower, and then they ask to donate to the temple. And he quite often responds, because he is used to the fact that any service requires a response. He returns much more than he received, because it is psychologically difficult for him to be obligated to anyone.
What to do in an incomprehensible situation
If a person is in a situation of discomfort and inexplicable anxiety, the main rule is to gain time. It is required in order to react meaningfully, analyze what is happening and make an informed decision.
This is also evidenced by popular wisdom. Everyone knows the proverb:
The morning is wiser than the evening.
For Jews, it sounds like this:
In any incomprehensible situation, go to bed.
You can find such advice on youth forums that has a lot of positive reviews: “You don’t know what to do, get the phone and scroll through the menu. Continue to step number two until the answer arrives.”
Solution ideas
How to analyze the situation in order to make the most balanced approach to decision making? It is very important to understand your true interests and needs, separating them from the desire to follow a certain image in the eyes of others.
Sometimes a person chooses the sequence of behavior that objectively harms him. For example, he continues to support the image of a proud and principled person, sacrificing relationships with loved ones.
To avoid this mistake, it is necessary to develop intuition, trusting first of all your feelings and emotions. Then a way out of an incomprehensible situation will be found as soon as possible:
- If you are worried about a quarrel and related negative emotions, make peace. Ask for forgiveness and you will immediately feel light.
- If you can’t make a decision for a long time, being in a state of frustration, do it. Respect your choice and accept it as the only right one.
- If you are tormented by fear of an adult or a boss for what you have done, admit it. The punishment is not terrible, but his expectation.
- Follow the rule: in any incomprehensible situation, take the risk, improvise. Strive to discard previous experience and perceive the problem as if you were seeing it for the first time. If you did not trust men before, break this tradition by entering into a new relationship.
Psychological advice on stress relief
The decision must be taken on a bright head, relieving stress. How to work with anxiety in order to maximize the use of the resource in a traumatic situation?
To do this, you need to understand what signs our body gives, signaling a problem. As a rule, the state of a person resembles the state of a pinched hose:
- The body gives out multidirectional signals: somewhere numbness is felt, somewhere - excessive excitement.
- There is a feeling - neither inhale nor exhale.
- Stiffness and tightness appear in the body.
Each can have its own characteristics: one, for example, achs in the region of the solar plexus, the other has headaches.
The main advice of psychologists: in any incomprehensible situation, make active movements. You can not suppress body signals that indicate anxiety, because this can lead to psychosomatics. The body will be helped by a hot or contrast shower, deep and not superficial breathing, dancing, any physical activity that relieves stress.
Where the person’s attention is focused, there is energy that allows you to cope with the problem.
Reviews
With problems arising from an incomprehensible situation, body therapy methods work best. This is indicated by clients of psychologists and psychotherapists. They also say: everything that helps relieve stress helps. This is a full sleep, rest, friendly support, humor, physical activity.
Most people make decisions on their own. At the same time, they focus on the fact that they had to turn to outsiders for help. It is very important that the request is understandable and addressed to specific people. The nature of man is this: he often does not provide assistance not because of inner callousness, but because of a misunderstanding of what is required of him and whether it is required.