Often, when starting a new business or encountering an unfamiliar situation, a person begins to doubt his own abilities, experiences insecurity. What is self-doubt? How to deal with it? Getting answers to these questions helps the science of the human soul - psychology.
Definition of a concept
Insecurity is a fear, internal fears associated with a biased assessment of one's own capabilities and forces. Fears that shackle a person, preventing him from growing and developing further, causing him to hesitate when resolving any issues, performing actions - all this is the definition of what is self-doubt.
Causes
Self-doubt begins to form in childhood, and the child correctly evaluates his abilities and has confidence. Misunderstanding, incorrect (often underestimated) assessment of the baby’s abilities in the future will lead to the fact that the little man will turn into a clogged and weak personality, depending on the opinions and desires of the people around him.
The main causes of self-doubt:
- Parenting. The influence of authoritarian parents or the pressure of one of them on the child provokes the development of uncertainty.
- Environment. Pressure from the society in which a person develops negatively affects the formation of personality. Taunts and bullying gradually destroy it.
- Ignorance of own "I". The inability to listen to an inner voice, to communicate with one’s subconscious, to reject one’s own real role in society - all this creates favorable conditions for the development of uncertainty.
- Uncertainty in the goals and meaning of life. When a person has clearly defined goals and a strong desire to achieve them, he develops confidence in his abilities. In the case of an individual who is unable to choose his own path and figure out what is his prerogative in life, the feeling of insecurity and his own insignificance grows like a snowball.
- Bad experience. If in the past a person was faced with a situation that caused damage to the subconscious, then such an unsuccessful experience can teach him to believe in himself.
The above causes of uncertainty are not considered the main and only true. According to experts in the field of psychology and sociology, there are a lot of prerequisites for the appearance of doubts about one's own abilities.
Impact on human life
A sense of indecision has a negative effect on the daily activities of the individual. What is self-doubt? This is, first and foremost, a manifestation of disrespect for oneself and one’s needs, the staging of others ’desires above their own. It is difficult for a person experiencing uncertainty to work, communicate, and build relationships with the opposite sex.
When a person encounters problems in a situation incomprehensible to him, wants to overcome them, but begins to doubt his own abilities, this is normal. Another thing is when a man or woman, by virtue of their own fears and insecurities, silently endure bullying, humiliation and do not even try to change their lives for the better. This requires the intervention of a specialist, since usually such individuals are rarely aware of the fact that they are victims of their own subconscious.
Fear and self-doubt destroy the life of a person, make it impossible for him to exist in society. There are cases when a sense of own worthlessness, uselessness to this world, insecurity in their capabilities provoked suicide.
Signs
In order to prevent the further development of the inferiority complex in a timely manner, it is necessary to listen to yourself and identify the first alarming calls from the subconscious.
The main "symptoms" of uncertainty:
- Inexplicable fear of new tasks and communication with people.
- Constant bustle, being in which, a self-doubt man escapes from internal discomfort.
- Dependence on the approval and opinions of others, unwillingness to be yourself.
- Attempts to assert oneself at someone else's expense.
In addition, it is worth noting that insecurity makes a person led, agreeing to any desire and decision of a stronger person. The leader receives almost complete power over such a person.
Examples
In everyday life, people are often underestimated. They occupy low positions, do not seek to surpass their surroundings in anything. In communication with them, any hint of exaggeration or a lie is easily revealed - insecure personalities like to “embellish” facts.
Some examples of self-doubt:
- When meeting a person with low self-esteem, he will never reach out first, will not utter a greeting.
- In a collective, a person, upon receipt of a proposal for a higher position, in most cases refuses it, without good reason. That is, a person rejects an offer without even trying himself in a new role.
- In communication with women, a man, unsure of his abilities, will allow a woman to play a dominant role (if there are relations, otherwise he will not be able to connect two words in a conversation).
- A woman will be completely dependent on the opinions of others. She solves any, even everyday issues, only through discussion and advice from her friends and friends.
How to fight? Advice
What is self-doubt? This is an internal struggle, a protest for the introduction of any changes in life. As M.E. Litvak said, our enemy is in the reflection, and it is worth dealing with it, as the remaining problems will go away by themselves. To combat insecurity, it is important to understand and realize the fact that the problem is not in the world around us, but inside the person, in his attitude to himself and his life.
How to overcome fear and self-doubt? It is enough to be guided by the simple tips presented below:
- Try to praise yourself as often as possible, even for the smallest successes. Record on paper the cases that ended in your favor - this will help to increase self-esteem.
- Do not be afraid to refuse people. Take into account not only other people's interests, needs, but also your own desires.
- Do not reproach yourself for misconduct and failure, conduct an internal dialogue with yourself. If you think that you don’t have enough strength to implement what you have planned, ask yourself a question, is it really that complicated?
- Focus on positive thoughts. No need to head deep into problems - it takes both time and effort.
In the fight against the inferiority complex, the most important thing is a sincere desire to overcome it and gain confidence in your abilities.