The term "bullying" - what is it? Translated from English, it means hooliganism. Bullying is a multiple negative psychological pressure on a person. This happens not only in schools, but also at work. As a result, the person to whom the negative impact is directed begins to experience constant stress. And as a result, I have to change my place of study or work. School bullying is distinguished by its cruelty, intransigence. And it should be considered separately.
Outward manifestation of bullying
Outwardly, bullying is manifested in an unreasonably neglectful and arrogant attitude towards a person (employee, student). His whole initiative is being questioned and taunted harshly. As well as statements and any actions. All this comes under stinging criticism.
Bullying as a social phenomenon: bullying by a colleague, boss
The bullying man is trying to prove that his victim is stupid and useless for the team. He can reach open humiliation, offensive accusations and insults. The attacker is not always a colleague, he may be the boss of the victim.
On the part of the leader, the manifestation of bullying only shows his incompetence and inability to engage in managerial activities. Behind the attack are professional inappropriateness and inferiority, which are determined by the degree of bullying. If bullying is done by an ordinary employee, this is self-assertion at the expense of others.
It is very difficult to resist such harassment. Colleagues most often take a neutral position, and rarely anyone begins to stand up for the victim, not wanting to interfere in other people's relations. Sometimes employees support the attacker, join his bullying. Especially if the boss deals with bullying.
Why are people bullying?
Bullying is a social phenomenon that helps to hide their failure by directing aggression towards another person. Fear of showing your own inferiority. The attacker thus tries to hide his weaknesses. Most often, this is an embittered person, incompetent in work.
Sometimes other employees join him. This means that some of the above qualities exist in them. But if the attacker is the boss, then supporting his actions may be a manifestation of fear of losing his job.
Opposition to bullying
An open negative psychological press aimed at a person, bullying - this is bullying. Understanding the reason why an individual or group of people does this will help you choose the right way to confront.
First of all, the victim should not give in to this pressure, panic - you should try to keep calm. And understand the reason for bullying. There can be many of them - personal hostility, a long-standing conflict, a desire to obtain the position of a victim, etc. Depending on this, try to develop tactics of behavior in relation to the attacker.
If you can’t cope on your own, you can try turning to the manual. Ask for a transfer to another department or branch. If there are no such options and there is no strength left to resist the onslaught of the attacker, it is easier to change jobs. Your nerves and health are much more important.
How to resist a bullying victim
Bullying - what is it? In other words - constant psychological harassment aimed at one person or group of people. You can resist bullying. Psychologists offer several options for solving this problem:
- work in such a way that it is impossible to reproach with professionalism;
- do not respond to the attacker in the same way and try not to respond to stinging remarks and insults;
- not to allow a breakdown in the form of a scream, open verbal conflict, scandals and rudeness (this only shows the powerlessness of the victim);
- find like-minded people (perhaps some have already been subjected to such harassment);
- identify colleagues who are disliked by the aggressor and try to find a common language with them;
- calculate every step and action.
Why does bullying appear at work?
Bullying - what is it? In simple words - a negative psychological impact on a person during which he is openly humiliated, insulted, criticized and all this is done in a caustic tone.
Most often, bullying occurs among ordinary employees. Although it can be aimed at individual customers of the company. Managers sometimes abuse their position, and there are often cases when they are even supported by managers.
According to the research, it was found that obedient, weak and modest workers most often become victims of bullying. These qualities can cause antipathy to their colleagues or superiors. But assertive and successful employees can also be subjected to psychological harassment, causing others to envy.
Bullying-capable executives are poor managers, not competent enough for senior positions, because they cannot cope with anger and lack communication and social skills. By such psychological persecution, they simply seek to maintain their power. To do this, do not disdain insults and humiliation against employees.
Bullying at work can also occur due to uncomfortable jobs, cramped spaces, poor equipment and working conditions. The pressure on employees to increase productivity in these cases, for the most part, causes a squabble in the team. And this may be the beginning of the manifestation of bullying.
Bullying is a consequence of a mental disorder
Psychologists have conducted studies that have established a link between bullying and personality disorder. In total, there are 11 types of mental disorders. Of these, 3 are most often found not among criminals, but among heads of organizations:
- theater disorder - characterized by insincerity, manipulation, egocentrism and increased need for attention;
- narcissistic - is characterized by delusions of grandeur, lack of sympathy and understanding, superiority over other people;
- obsessive-compulsive - characterized by perfectionism, stubbornness, dictatorship, cruelty and excessive dedication to work.
Bullying methods used in bullying
There are several key forms of bullying. They manifest aggressively, unreasonably, constantly and with excessive perseverance. At work, bullying can be in the form of:
- exhaustion of employees (work above the norm);
- blackmail, intimidation;
- appropriation of successes of others;
- concealment of information necessary for work (or its unreliability);
- isolation of the employee from the rest of the team;
- non-recognition of good work;
- A constant reminder of previous employee mistakes.
The impact of bullying on employee productivity and enterprise performance
Bullying is a long-term aggressive psychological (rarely physical) pressure on another person. It negatively affects the work of the team as a whole and the quality of work of the employee to whom such bullying is directed, in particular. One of the negative consequences for him will be stress. With the help of bullying a person is sometimes brought to suicide.
Harassment witnesses receive their dose of negativity. The situation at work becomes tense, and they try to move to another place. As a result, the organization may lose highly qualified employees. Staff turnover, lawsuits, absenteeism, mistakes in work, etc.
School bullying
School bullying - what is this phenomenon? In other words, aggressive psychological and physical bullying of one child by another (or a group of persons). Basically, this phenomenon begins to manifest itself from 11 years old. Often there is not only psychological pressure, but also beating. Gossip, name-calling and stinging jokes are called mobbing.
Almost 50% of children in Russia become objects of bullying. In the elementary grades, it can manifest itself in the form of school racketeering (robbing the victim of mobile phones, money, etc.). At the age of 11 to 15, stinging ridicule, humiliation, and boycotts begin. As a result, the child victim feels a sense of hopelessness, loneliness, pain.
Bullying always starts with one child. Then others join him. If the victim does not resist and the teacher does not try to stop the persecution, no one stands up for the suffering child. Sometimes sympathy for him changes to indifference and irritation.
In schools that focus on the education of human dignity, bullying is rare. Unlike educational institutions, where everything is left to chance.
Even strong schoolchildren can be bullied if a group of classmates or other children presses them. Often, the victims themselves unconsciously provoke the attackers. For example, their untidy appearance, increased sensitivity and vulnerability, these may also be teachers' favorites. As well as children, strikingly different in something from classmates.
Bullying - what is it and how is it manifested? The term can be described as long-term aggression directed at another person. Schoolchildren who have no respect for parents or adults become bullers. Such aggressive children often lack attention and understanding. By their actions they try to get them to be noticed. Some pour out longing for parental love, which is not, on other children.
Most bullers are dominated by narcissistic traits. These children do not have self-esteem and assert themselves at the expense of others. The first alarming signals that a child may become a buller are obvious egoism, aggression and a mental disorder.