Almost every adult knows this line well: "Love has passed, tomatoes have withered." And many use these words in various everyday situations when it comes to bright feelings, alas, ordered to live long. When it seems that life is over, all the best has already happened to you, and ahead of you - tomorrow, a week, a month, a year - nothing new will happen. Depressing feelings of sadness, hopelessness, loneliness, hopelessness, longing for those days when a loved one was always nearby settle in very firmly, all weekends, weekdays and holidays were lived together - with trips to nature, going to the theater, cinema or cafe, and had dreams for the future, plans for the next vacation or another family purchase.
The origin of relationships
But in the beginning she was love. Sudden, indefatigable, selfless, tender and tremulous, passionate and overwhelming, incomprehensible and elemental. Indeed, on our huge planet only a person can experience this feeling - a feeling of deep affection for another person. The phrase "Love has passed, the tomatoes have withered" seems ridiculous and insignificant at the time of the emergence of feelings.
Despite the fact that among the many manifestations of love, one can distinguish three of its main types (love of parents for children, love of children for parents, love of spouses), this bright feeling remains one of the strongest attractions of two people for the purpose of connecting and general replenishment of life.
It all starts pretty beautifully and romanticly. And it seems that all this will last the rest of his life. But, to the great regret of some and the frank (perhaps even caustic) joy of others, even strong feelings tend to “weather out”. And what: love passed, tomatoes wilted? Can it really be so? It turns out, yes, it happens quite often.
Not a tragedy, but still ...
It does not matter at all for what reason the extinction of feelings occurred, which yesterday filled the hearts of two lovers. Perhaps the lovers were disappointed in each other due to some situation; perhaps the time has come for parting ... Love has passed, the tomatoes have withered. However, it is sad to be aware of this situation. Although everything happens in life that makes it interesting.
"Love has passed, the tomatoes have wilted." After all, there is some kind of sadness and a certain bitterness in this expression, right?
Why does love leave?
Some of the scientists who are engaged in the study of this feeling, believe that love does not dock with the emotional state of any person. Most likely, she is close to feelings of thirst or hunger. Based on this, it can be assumed that a bright sense of romantic love is simply a biochemical need of any person. If you go along the path of investigation of this assumption, then you can quickly find the answer to the question: “Why does such a beautiful and strong feeling disappear somewhere?” When a person wants to eat, he is quite capable of opening the refrigerator, getting food out and getting enough.
It is possible that exactly the same story is happening with love. A man wants to fall in love, he meets someone who looks at least a little like his dream, and that’s all - a spark flashed, and the bonfire of feelings flared brightly. At the beginning of a relationship, it is impossible to imagine even a short period of time without a loved one. But ... love passed, the tomatoes wilted. Everything disappeared without a trace, and even a slight fog does not remind of the remaining ashes.
And only with the help of this expression, consisting of only four words, it is possible to say with some irony or slight nostalgia about an already passed feeling.
"Father" of famous lines
"Love has passed, the tomatoes have wilted." Who is the author of such a simple but very sad poem? It is thanks to this person, Oleg Savostyanov, that the expression has gained immense fame. His poem has been quoted everywhere. And not only quoted. Craftsmen with a sense of humor even wrote a lot of different variations on the theme of departed love and tomatoes not of the first freshness.
There are a lot of such “rewritten verses”.
Berries and feelings. What do they have in common?
Love passed, the tomatoes wilted. Where did such a rather strange comparison come from?
Tomatoes and love. What could be less similar? If you wish, and with some degree of imagination, you can see the association between how love fades and this plant fades. But the matter here concerns the tomatoes themselves.
If the word "tomato" is translated from French into Russian, then it will sound like "apple of love." Yes, and they used to grow it in an ordinary pot, like an ornamental plant.
18th Century Green Jewels
Couples in love most often came to romantic dates, designated in the gazebos. And the arbors themselves were decorated with just pots or beautiful boxes with tomatoes. Girls 200-250 years ago could pin a twig to the corsage of their dress, on which the harbinger of the berry blossomed. It was this twig that was a symbol of love. Of course, none of the young ladies, plunged into the abyss of love, did not want to abandon such a modest, but so much meaning for every young (and not so young) person of decoration.
It also happened that some of the enchanting fairies ceased to appear in public with a twig pinned. Then the whole public understood that something sad had happened.
About me and about you
"Love has passed, the tomatoes have wilted." A verse can be recited endlessly, each time finding in it something very personal, as if it was written only for you.
"Love has passed, the tomatoes have wilted." The author of these lines did not expect such attention to his work. The poem by Oleg Savostyanov has become very popular. Indeed, many had a similar situation, when love was at the very top, I wanted to sing and jump to the ceiling, and then all of a sudden - bang, and that’s all. Of course, this notorious “bang” doesn’t come out of nowhere and doesn’t come all of a sudden. Most likely, something happened earlier, something that could not but affect the perception of his soul mate and led to a huge disappointment in a person.
And it is precisely this “something” that becomes a strong enough and significant impetus to ensure that relations, which may already be in a shaky and fragile state, gradually become more transparent and more illusive. Yes, at first everything is always fine. There is absolutely enough strength and energy for everything: to build a house, and to plant a tree (let alone a whole garden), and there remains a restless desire to visit a theater, museum or night club. Unfortunately, such euphoria is short-lived. The couple begins to look more closely at each other, periodically looking for dirty character traits that do not inspire particular sympathy, and actions that cannot become the partner’s pride. So it turns out a strange thing: at the beginning of a relationship, love burns like a star, and at the end - the berries wilt too soon.