Happiness ... What is it? Why does everyone want to find it? And how to find happiness if the concept of it is very vague? Great scholars argued before our era about the concept of "happiness." So, for example, Aristotle thought that happiness is the soul of a bright person who helps at the first call exclusively to everyone.
Well, in the modern world, happiness is called one hundred percent satisfaction of a person with their life.
The concept of happiness - individually
To find personal happiness is the hardest task for a person. Why? Because for one individual, happiness is having a piece of bread every day, and for another, a healthy child. Psychological assistance is very common among people who are depressed because of "I'm unhappy." People have been dreaming about something since childhood, and when they realize that the goal is still far away, they become unhappy and become depressed. Why is this so? Is the motivation weak or is the dream unrealistic?
There is no definite answer: each person has his own idea of happiness. For some, the answer to the question "how to find happiness?" simple: realize yourself, achieve material well-being. And someone will answer: without a strong family, happiness cannot be seen. And some will even say that they have not yet understood what they want in this life and have not yet felt themselves happy.
To start the path to happiness - there must be a goal
“I wish you happiness” is a rather frequent wish on a person’s birthday, isn’t it? And what is happiness and how to find it - no one suggested. How to find happiness in life for a poor person?
To some, an inner voice will tell you: "Start with a goal ... What do you want?" A man begins to frantically delve into himself: what does he most want, what does he lack? Very often the answer is fast, but some take a lifetime to find a goal. Much depends on the individual’s environment: if a person grew up in poverty, then perhaps prosperity will become his happiness, something that he lacked so much. An orphan, most likely, will dream of a big family, set himself this goal and will go to her, craving happiness.
How to find happiness? Methodologies
Quite often, a person can confuse real needs for happiness with those that society imposes on him. Advertisements play very well on people's feelings, thereby forming “false needs,” especially material ones. How can a person understand these difficulties, how to realize their needs for happiness?
There is Maslow’s pyramid of needs, the essence of which is the initial satisfaction of lower needs for further advancement to higher. For example, a person is dissatisfied with his work and earnings. Dismisses and seeks one on which they will respect and pay much more, but, as often happens, he doesn’t. As a result, he sits at home, without money, with low self-esteem and a feeling of desolation. Even worse, if he is the only earner in the family. What is left for him? Just thinking that he quit in vain was not so bad there.
Do you really need changes?
And these changes will help answer the question: "How can I find happiness for me?"
The technique is as follows: we take paper and pen, draw up questions and honestly answer them. “If I quit, what will it give me?”, “Why should I?”, “Which of my needs will be satisfied?”, “Do I really want this?”, “In what other way can I satisfy my need?” ? " etc. When a new desire appears, we act in the same way: we sit down and write. After your honest answers, you will definitely understand - you need this desire in order to become happy or not, you will understand that a lot of desires are imposed on us by society. Fulfilling your true desire will definitely bring you happiness.
Is it necessary to work on yourself to become happy?
Without harmony with yourself it is very difficult not only to achieve happiness, but also to understand - what you need specifically for happiness. There are five ways to achieve your harmony:
- Always respect yourself and be yourself.
- Consciously and consciously relate to the life being lived.
- Always understand that only you are responsible for your life.
- To live without being "obsessed" on trifles, not to attach great importance to them.
- To be able to be grateful to yourself for your life, for what you have now.
If you observe the above, you can be in harmony with your soul, which will lead to calmness and joy in life, an understanding of personal happiness. After all, as you perceive life, so it will pass: either calmly and measuredly, or in experiences and failures.
If happiness is family for you
How to find love and happiness? There are a lot of tips, both from a neighbor on the porch, and from eminent psychologists. But few understand: love and happiness are inseparable concepts. Love makes a person the happiest, inspires, gives strength to overcome problems. There is an old saying that tells us: "Alone in the field is not a warrior." Some forget about it and try to cope with all the "gifts" of life alone. They forget that everyone at a certain stage needs the support of their loved ones or a friendly shoulder. If a person has a strong family, with people who love him, then the problems are much easier and faster to solve. Entering family life, a person should understand that now all difficulties, sorrows, illnesses are not personal problems, but common ones. The same goes for joys and happy moments - all in half. It’s not without reason that spouses are called “halves”, and in order for a joint life to be harmonious and happy, the family should be built on mutual respect, trust and love.
Psychologist's advice is sometimes very necessary
Psychologists very often help those who can not cope with their problems. By the age of forty, someone did not understand what he wants from life, while someone at the age of twenty had already experienced, seen, and generally sees no reason to continue living.
The biggest mistake in achieving family happiness is anxiety. When a person does not understand what family happiness is for him, he begins to rush around, listen to the stories and tips of other families, often “unsuccessful”, and sow doubts in his soul. Do not do this. If you have not found harmony in yourself, it is better to listen to the opinion of a specialist or one whose family seems ideal for you.
Another step to happiness in the family is to stop avoiding the problem. They do not need to be avoided, they need to be addressed together. After all, all problems hide in themselves strength and self-confidence. As soon as you stop avoiding them and begin to decide, you will immediately feel how your family is becoming stronger and more united.
The most important thing in achieving a happy family is the birth and upbringing of a child. This little man brings joy and harmony. The child needs to be taught how to deal with difficulties and enjoy life by example. The kid, unlike parents, remembers everything and copies the experience gained. Therefore, you must be a worthy example of a happy person for him.
So how is it “right” to live? Psychologist's advice
Everyone strives for family happiness - this is the highest level of well-being. But on the way to this level, many stumble over everyday life, material problems, illnesses, distrust ... And they go down, retreating in front of difficulties, cease to believe in their strengths and in support of loved ones, become self-contained.
How to find happiness in your personal life? The recipe is simple: be frank with yourself, know how to listen to yourself, discard unnecessary imposition of models of the “right” life. Learn to appreciate everything that your life presents to you, to overcome difficulties with dignity, and to meet a new day with a smile. Support your family - because you are for the world scale “one whole”, one organism. Friends of the family can only be those people from your past life who respect the choice of “your family half”, who do not pose a threat to the well-being of the family. The rest should be weeded out, because, as they say, a black sheep spoils the whole herd, and such sheep are not needed on the way to harmony. Develop and improve your life only if you feel the need for it. How to find family happiness, how to understand the meaning of life? This question is not given to everyone, but if you could, then you’ve found harmony.