Man has in his arsenal many qualities that distinguish him from representatives of the animal world. One of these properties is emotionality. This is the ability to reflect the content of mood, experience, character. Not all people are the same in terms of emotionality. Some too generously share their mood with the world, not hiding anything. Is it good, is it easy for such people to live? Others seem closed, cold, unemotional. Coldness is also not liked by society, it is equated with closeness. And non-emotional people shun. In this article we will talk about emotionality, its varieties, and how to develop it for those who are lacking.
A way out for emotions
You probably could hear the phrase: "Give vent to emotions!" This is not an accidental expression, it is firmly anchored in our language. We are not passive slivers in the river of life, but are constantly washed by its waves, sometimes voluntarily or involuntarily participate in real storms. Every day we experience a lot of emotions, and our mood changes from major to completely minor. In order not to go crazy with all these experiences, a person has the opportunity to share them with the world - this is his emotionality. This begs the question: why aren't all people equally emotional? Let's try to figure it out below.
What prevents the release of emotions
Even shy children behave naturally and do not hesitate to demonstrate what they feel. Agree that no kid will hold back tears if it hurts, or laugh when it's fun. It follows that we begin to close with awareness of ourselves as individuals, that is, with age. Most often this is an answer to life circumstances. The child does not hesitate to express his emotions until he is ashamed of his parent or teacher: "Do not laugh so loudly, it is indecent!" Or: "Why did you dismiss the nurse, well, just like a girl!" Several such comments from a person who is considered authoritative do indeed affect emotionality. The child begins to behave more restrained and realizes that calm behavior does not cause any complaints from adults. "Going quietly - you will continue," and the baby gets used to withholding his mood from the world.
Coldness as a result of past grievances
Sometimes emotionality (expressiveness, in other words) can be hidden for another reason. For example, a harsh reaction to openness will cause a desire to no longer show emotions. Imagine a young man who has stepped over shyness and ardently confesses his love to a girl. Instead of acceptance and reciprocity, he is rejected by a beautiful lady, and is also subjected to ridicule. Will he have a desire to be sincere in the future? Most likely, he will put on a cynic mask and will behave coldly with the opposite sex once and for all. We all faced a negative reaction of a particular person or society to openness, and this always leads to the same result. We become more restrained, we understand when it is appropriate to be natural and open, and when it is worth portraying a "poker face", even if you want to scream.
Man is not passive, and his reactions to the world are not something stable. Therefore, hiding your emotions is more a defensive reaction than a distinguishing feature of character.
Emotionless as a mask
Do not divide people into “emotional” and “unemotional” ones. It must be taken as a fact that behind the mask of a cold person ardor and openness may be hidden, but it is precisely because of these features that the personality may have suffered. Is there any way to remove this mask?
It is difficult to forcibly affect the temperament and emotionality of a person. The person should have his own desire to become more open to the world, not be afraid to show his emotions and experiences. After that, expressiveness is just a matter of time.
Develop emotionality
High emotionality still has more advantages than low. It is for this reason, if you feel that you are not temperamental enough, you can develop such a quality in yourself. Below we give three really effective and simple ways to develop such an important quality as emotionality. The levels of passion, of course, are different, and from quiet you will not turn overnight into the soul of the company. But it will turn out to be more open and more emotional quickly enough if you train and do not neglect simple exercises.
Useful Exercises for Developing Openness
- Chat. "Cold" people are often not very sociable, they do not like noisy companies, casual acquaintances. But it is here that you need to relocate yourself. There is no need to climb to get acquainted with passers-by on the street and visitors of entertainment establishments, start by saying that do not repel those who want to get to know you. People will not even try to get to know each other if you have a “sour mine” on your face, but a light smile definitely makes you communicate.
- Smile again. If you feel that you are unsociable, that it is difficult for you to have a simple conversation with other people, then make it a rule to just smile. “Wear” a smile on your face in the morning when you are still in bed. You may not have a reason for a sincere smile, as soon as you open your eyes, but stretching your lips as just a mechanical action will allow your facial muscles to get used to this condition. A habit is developed for 30 days, and 90 must pass in order for it to consolidate. First you have to smile through strength, but every day a laid-back smile will be given to you more and more simply. And let you not be hyperactive in communication, a friendly facial expression will attract people to you like a magnet.
- Dynamic meditation. This way to loosen up and open up may seem strange, but it is not just effective - you will understand its effectiveness immediately after meditation. Emotionality is just the same openness to the world. And dynamic meditation will allow you to reveal the internal reserves of sensuality and give an outlet to the accumulated. What is the essence of such a way that will enhance the development of emotionality? You do not need to sign up for special courses, you can conduct a session of dynamic meditation on your own and no less effectively. To do this, you need to retire to some uninhabited place in nature. You must be sure that no one hears or sees you, that no one is watching you - this is an indispensable condition. Then begin to behave insanely - scream, dance in a wild style, do in the physical sense everything that comes to your mind. At first it will be difficult, but as soon as you start, you will realize that you like it, and such an exit of emotions is made easier and simpler.
Is excessive emotion helpful?
Increased emotionality is another side of excessiveness in the matter of the manifestation of feelings and the degree of openness. Surely you know such people - a shirt-guy in a team, a person on the board who does not have secrets and secrets from anyone. Is it good to be like this, or is such a temperament more likely a disadvantage?
First of all, let's talk about the advantage that a person possesses, whose character trait is great emotionality. This is the presence of an extensive circle of acquaintances, the ease in meeting new people, the opportunity not to be bored alone. At first glance, it might seem that it is indeed better to be an open person than emotionally limited.
But there are also disadvantages in the lives of such people. Due to this openness, the public knows literally everything about the life of this person. High emotionality - this is precisely the factor that leaves no room for secrets, secrets. In addition, such a person can be considered mentally unstable, because he will not hide his joy or bad mood.
How to become more calm?
Great emotionality can bring personality no less difficulties than coldness and detachment. There are no exercises to become less passionate; ordinary common sense will help you here. Excessive expressiveness is appropriate on the stage or in a home environment with people who know you well. But a strong manifestation of your mood and inner feelings will not be approved by colleagues or a boss. "Filter" what and how you say, how you behave.
Become an observer of yourself, since it is even more difficult to turn from a very open person into a rational person than vice versa.