We come to the world against our will and we are not destined to choose parents, brothers and sisters, teachers, classmates, relatives. Perhaps this ends the circle of communication that is sent from above. Further, human life in many respects begins to depend on himself, on the choice he makes.
The right circle of people
The formation and upbringing of an individual depends primarily on parents, grandparents, and then on all the others. No wonder they say that the right circle of communication is the key to a successful life.
The concept of a successful life does not necessarily include wealth. Successful can be called a person who, summing up his life, receives some satisfaction from what he has lived. The moral component is of great importance.
In the first years of life, it is the people around who help to perceive the world, affect the worldview of the child. There is a well-known saying: "Tell me who your friend is, and I will say who you are." In a sense, a person is a reflection of all those people with whom he constantly encounters. And if the familiar circle of communication in which he rotates or lives is mistaken in something, then the person will be partially or completely mistaken, even having a bright personality.
How to expand the circle of friends, if necessary? There are many answers to this question. To become more sociable, you don’t need to be afraid of people, you have to be open, but not too trusting. Sincerely interested in the life of the interlocutor, to help at least with advice or deed - all this will help to make friends and acquaintances.
Energy vampires
In addition to the worldview, the psychological atmosphere at home, at work, at school also affects us. If people around are prone to pessimism, they see everything in a bad light, are suspicious and irritable, or vice versa - overly sociable, optimistic about their lives, then their influence forms a character for better or for worse. Psychologists advise how to avoid fire eternal whiners and "losers" in life. Such people were designated as energy vampires, sucking life juices from loved ones, not allowing others to realize themselves as a person.
Therefore, sticking to successful, energetic people is much more beneficial for mental development.
A person becomes healthy both on a physical and mental level. It doesn’t matter what your circle of contacts is at the moment, if you want to move forward for the better, then surround yourself with those who live a similar life, adopt their habits, lifestyle, of course, taking into account your own personality.
Modern subcultures
In young years it is easy to fall under the influence of both a good and a bad company. For example, now many subcultures have developed, the appearance of the representatives of which already speaks for itself. There are so-called metalworkers who wear long hair, skin, metal rivets and so on, rappers are characterized by wide sliding trousers, sneakers, shapeless jackets of huge sizes, Goths wear black clothes, “mow” under the vampires. There are many communities, so business people, office workers are obliged to come to work in formal suits with ties, women must wear elegant shoes with heels and so on.
And each society has its own morality, and from the point of view of the participants in this society, their morality is the most correct, others do not live as they should. The circle of fellowship of some people professing the Christian faith may differ from another Christian society like heaven and earth.
Many sects distributed around the world pursue their policies, lure people to themselves in different ways, promising them material wealth and the "kingdom of heaven." Many fall for the bait, become members of a sect, from which it can then be much harder to get out than to get into it.
How to understand - is this your social circle or not?
Not so long ago, in communist times, Soviet people lived and glorified their leaders, the party, believing that the rest of the world is licentious, unfair, corrupt, and so on. And from the point of view of the West, we were limited and zombie people.
Entering into one society, you need to take a closer look, who is in the social circle, what morality is preached. At the first stage, a person is attracted by new interests and prospects, he enters into an unusual circle for himself with caution. Then, having become accustomed, wariness and restraint in a person disappear and give way to adaptation. He becomes an active member of society, fulfills all sorts of instructions, and, making progress, he grows in the “career” sense.
But, inevitably, the third stage begins - disappointment. Maybe from the side some parties, especially “star ones”, seem attractive, alluring, but becoming a member of such societies, seeing that there is simply no real development and progress in them, but the same conversations, a circle of thoughts, one and the same is constantly visible. the same paraphernalia, a person begins to get bored, he becomes uninteresting.
Understanding comes that it is necessary to change not only the range of interests, but also your life in the bud.
Insight time
It is human nature to change, strive for the best, so when a breakdown of worldview occurs - this is the most difficult moment in the life of each of us. The most severe psychological stress. It seems that the unshakable world is collapsing, everything that you knew before, had a price, now has depreciated, it makes no sense. But this is a blessed time - a time of insight, the discovery of a new level of knowledge. Everyone should carefully peer into the present and remember that past circle of communication, dragging into the swamp of everyday life.
The past will continue to make itself felt for a long time, each member is reluctantly released, especially in sects. The members of the sect begin to convince the departing that he has not yet fully understood the righteousness of the chosen path, must stay and continue “his path” and so on.
If, nevertheless, the decision is ripe, you need to leave, for your own implementation. In general, a person should not limit himself to only one circle of communication, whether it be a school, workplace or the Internet. To search and find is a valuable and interesting process in life, because a person is created in the image and likeness of God, creativity is inherent in each of us.
Man of my circle of friends
This concept includes people united by common interests. Each of us from above is given talents that need to be realized throughout life, and not buried in the ground. The tendency to a particular area is manifested in childhood. Attentive parents can easily notice the talent of the child. Some people like to sing, others like to draw, some are sociable, easily become leaders, others, on the contrary, are shy and have poor contact with children and adults.
All positive qualities need to be developed, and with negative ones - gently negated. So, an uncommunicative child should not be thrown into a kindergarten “headlong”, it is better to gradually bring it with other babies, while the presence itself is present.
An overactive child must be able to be held in his hands, without limiting his freedom. The social circle of children is more violent than an adult. Children are happy to make fun of the shortcomings of others, without thinking about the consequences, so if a kindergarten kid or schoolboy gets a humiliating nickname and can’t defend his own position, this nickname will live with him for a long time, maybe until the end of days.
Conclusion
The role of the teacher, the class teacher and, naturally, the parents, in many respects becomes a guiding star for the fragile soul. If the child comes across the right, good parents and teachers, we can assume that he was lucky in many ways in life.
As an adult, in difficult days for himself, he will remember the instructions of his elders and life will not seem so cruel and unjust.