Love ... Feeling, manifested in everyone with their own strength. But the symptoms of addiction are similar for everyone: the heartbeat at the sight of an object becomes more frequent, it can catch its breath, trembling in the fingers and in the whole body, sweat from excitement may come out, and even the temperature will suddenly rise. All signs of the disease are evident. Routes of transmission: eye contact, vibes, charisma. Treatment is not required if the object of adoration is infected with the same virus.
Sorry for the share of humor. But indeed, a person experiences inexplicable bliss, being in a state of love. Of course, if this feeling is mutual. The whole world fades as soon as we see a loved one. And at that moment we understand that we do not need more.
But it can also happen that the whole world will fade when relations suddenly cease. Before yesterday, a still uncontrollable question will suddenly become happy until unconscious: "How to forget a person?" And no matter what will be the reason. How to forget a loved one with whom so much connects? How to cross out memories and images? How to forget his first, such timid declarations of love? Days and nights spent together, plans for the future, such beautiful dreams ... Everything suddenly collapses and it seems that it makes no sense to live on. Without him. Is it possible to forget a loved one?
The answer is disappointing: no. It will stay with you. The pain will subside only with time. Do not think about how to forget your loved one. Finding ways will not yield results. Just try to live on. There is a film in which a son suffering from love and having lost all hope was also tormented by the question of how to forget a person. He asks his father: "What should I do now?" Do you know what father gave his son? The only correct one is: "Suffer!"
How to forget a person without experiencing pain, confusion, indescribable melancholy and heartache? It's impossible.
It also happens that suffering goes beyond the line when a person begins to suffer, already experiencing pleasure from his own torment. This is already a kind of masochism. A man closes on his own tearing torments of love, reveling in them, not noticing anyone, poisoning the existence of not only his own, but also of his loved ones. As a result, a protracted neurosis becomes the cause of other already physical diseases: headaches, fainting, ulcers, increase or decrease in pressure ... You can list endlessly for a long time. No wonder they say that the cause of all diseases is nerves. The statement is not without common sense. Many psychologists agree: love can be equated with such serious diseases as drug addiction and alcoholism. Even the ancient healers treated love with anxiety. Avicenna, who was the founder of Arab medicine, stated the following: “Love is a disease. Signs: melancholy; dry eyes, sunken, interrupted and returning breath; hearing poetry about love, he cries and grieves; there is no order in behavior; the pulse is erratic and uneven, like in grief dejected ... "
I can’t tell you how to forget a loved one, because a true lover cannot forget. But to alleviate the pain, returning to life, it is still possible. And here you have to delve into the depths of your soul, honestly putting everything on the shelves. After all, love can be disguised as other feelings. This is a sense of ownership (and unsatisfied), and affected self-esteem, and fear of being alone, and even too low self-esteem. And only when you learn to recognize these feelings, separating them from true love, will you take the first step towards return. "From a hundred petals you will receive only a drop of oil, from a hundred torments - only a drop of wisdom." How true this saying is!
Try to take a piece of paper and write a love story on it. And in the end, as a conclusion, add the phrase: "it was." Burn this text, which is now a bridge between the past and the present.
You have already enjoyed enough of your own digging and introspection. Now it's time to "lick" the wounds. Do not stay long in bed. Start your morning actively. Let it be a morning run or a walk with the dog. Everything is at your choice and according to your capabilities. Start attending gyms, pool. Decorate the world with yourself, make others look at you with admiration or even with envy. Visit a hairdresser, do a manicure, go shopping. It's time to change the image. Stop long conversations with friends and relatives on a tormenting topic. Plunge headlong into study, work. Plan your life in such a way as to limit intersections with your ex-lover. It is the former. Approve this status for yourself. Remember the famous words: "The ways of the Lord are mysterious." Who knows, maybe such strong feelings today were just a prelude, a kind of rehearsal, preceding a new, more powerful and sincere love?
Look at yourself from the other side. With the very one with which strangers see you. Believe me, this is a miserable sight. Do not let others feel sorry for themselves, because pity will very quickly dry up and be replaced by indifference. A pathetic person cannot be strong. Accustom yourself to the idea that the tragedy experienced today is a vaccine that will give immunity from failures and disappointments for many years, will not allow you to again be tormented by the question of how to forget a person ...
And a few words in the end ... Literature, as you know, has extraordinary power. Read when you have free time. Avoid the one-day heartbreaking butterflies, commissioned by publishers. Such romances and short stories are written based on a sensitive audience, experiencing or have just survived the tragedy. Mark such literature right away. Do not let cheap authors make money on your feelings and raise your rating on you. Although ... There is one wonderful work about the feelings of the unrequited, which I still highly recommend reading: the poem "Moscow - Petushki" (Erofeev). This work will really help you look at yourself from a different perspective and reevaluate what is happening.