Very often, young mothers complain that they can not find a common language with the child . At the same time, everyone compares the already grown baby with the newly born baby and envy those mothers who, not knowing the worries and problems, calmly raise their children. However, such a comparison is stupid, because for a certain age their habits are also characteristic, therefore, it is necessary to learn to distinguish the usual activity of a child from a developing "problem". In relation to naughty babies , the expression "difficult children" is most often used. They may not listen to their parents at all, be too independent, harmful, stubborn, but do not forget that these are just kids. With proper education, even difficult children become the most ordinary, quiet, affectionate and loving kids.
Problems of this nature most often arise in young parents who are still learning how to raise their first child. The slightest mistake, and the baby is already starting to behave badly. And in this situation, we can say that it is the parent, not the child, that is to blame. It is always necessary to remember that it is our communication with children that can cause both positive and negative results. It is natural that the crumb, who constantly hears only the cry of his own mother, sooner or later becomes indifferent to him. As a result, an embittered teenager grows out of a normal baby, who in the future will raise his children in the same way. Therefore, difficult children are nothing more than the result of parents' improper upbringing.
Raising the voice on her child, the mother often justifies her behavior by the fact that she is afraid to accustom the baby to such behavior. On the one hand, the fear is really understandable, because if the child does not hear “no,” but receives permissiveness, he will be able to behave in absolutely any way and very quickly get used to it. However, the situation is twofold, and you should learn to see the line when you can raise your voice for a child, and when it is better to let him do what he wants.
Let's imagine that your baby stopped listening and does only what his heart desires. First of all, you need to understand that raising difficult children is a painstaking and long process, so be patient. What positions are suitable in a similar situation, we will tell below.
- Do not forbid him everything. Such jerking and constant prohibitions only embitter the baby and do not give him freedom. Let him try to draw on the wall - it will be easy to erase, but he will see that he was allowed to. In the future, you just need to explain to the child that you can draw on paper, and the walls should be clean. Repeating this several times without screaming, you will see the result in a few weeks.
- Do not scold him at all. It acts too much on your child and creates a number of complexes. If the baby has done something out of the ordinary, it is better to quietly tell him that this should not be done than to break out in an angry tirade for half an hour.
- Never hit a child. This approach is immoral.
- Do not protect him from everything in the world. Very often, the mother tries to protect her child from any problems. It is advisable to do this when the child is still very small, but the grown up baby needs to make some nonsense and mistakes. This is an experience that will definitely come in handy in the future. Giving your child a detailed briefing for each action, you risk raising a person who is not able to make independent decisions.
Difficult children are re-educated very quickly if done correctly. Let your child feel your care (but not excessive), and then everything will be fine and seamless.