According to Russian legislation, the age of children, in which it is already possible to stop completely dependent on the mother and become pupils of a kindergarten, is 1.5 years. Until that moment, parents receive benefits for the care of their baby. Many psychologists of the old school also argue that this is the best time for children to get used to kindergarten, motivating the child with this age of awareness where he is better, so the first days in kindergarten are less painful. But often the baby can hardly adapt in a new environment.
Why difficulties arise in the period of getting used to the kindergarten
However, it often happens that for the first time a child comes to kindergarten at 4 years old, or even at 5 years old. The long line for getting a place in a municipal children's institution, the ability of a mother to be on maternity leave until her baby is 3 years old, and grandmother assistants all play a role. And by this time, the baby is already forming the basics of critical thinking, he asks questions: “Why are they leading me there? Why should I part with my mom? Why should I obey someone else’s aunt? ” This complicates its adaptation in the early days of kindergarten. However, you can always find a way to pave the way as carefully as possible so that children are used to a new life painlessly. When the decision to send the baby to kindergarten has already been made, at first it was not he who was worried, but his parents. After all, they perfectly understand: if before the child spent all his time with his mother in a mode convenient for both of them, now he will have to get used to a completely new environment, new food, new requirements, which makes huge changes in his life. No matter how parents prepare for this moment, accustoming the baby to a regime close to Sadikovsky, changing the menu and conducting training classes, it is impossible to recreate the conditions of the preschool institution in their home. What to do so that these changes do not become a great stress for the baby? After all, the hatred that arose in the early days in kindergarten will determine the attitude of the baby to stay in institutions for children for months, if not years ahead.
Psychological attitudes for the child
As the reviews of kindergartens from parents show, a lot depends on the teacher, who will become their replacement for the whole day five days a week. Therefore, if there is an opportunity, it is better to get to know the teachers of the group in which the baby was registered in advance. You should not leave the child in the kindergarten, as a thing, hurrying to leave as soon as possible - this will cause him shock and further protest, which will be difficult to overcome. It is important for the baby to feel safe and to be sure that he was not left there. It is necessary to mentally prepare him with stories about where he will go, what awaits him there. Usually, children tend to communicate with peers, so such a conversation can be an incentive for the desire to get there.
In the early days in a kindergarten, it is better to leave the child only until lunch: he will be able to chat with other children, play new toys for him, but will not have time to miss his mother and father. In some kindergartens, parents are allowed for several days to sit in the field of vision of the baby. So he will perceive such a trip to the kindergarten as an ordinary walk with his mother - this is also an alternative option for more successful adaptation of the crumbs.
The first days in kindergarten, the child is still captured by new opportunities, new friends, and if parents help him to get comfortable correctly and calmly, then every morning will not begin with a spoiled mood for him and adults.