As soon as the girl gets married, she receives another additional title - “daughter-in-law”. It is not difficult to understand who it is, but there is enough confusion on this issue. Girls are angry and resist, considering the nickname offensive. Why?
Who is the daughter-in-law for?
The Dahl dictionary gives a fairly detailed definition of this concept. The daughter-in-law is the wife of the son to the father. Only the priest, that is, the head of the clan, can call a new family member that word. This has some historical roots. The word "daughter-in-law" is believed to come from "demolish." A woman should patiently listen to what the head of the clan wishes to tell her, to do any work, sometimes to bear and beatings. Maybe women, not even knowing the traditional meaning of the word, feel its meaning, and therefore consider it offensive. Even the sound itself is associated with something tough, if not cruel. Say the word "daughter-in-law." Who invented it and why? In those days, when every piece of bread was obtained by hard work, for the kind of excess mouth was a burden. But the continuation of life was required. Here is a new member of the family who was not capable of hard work, but performed, so to speak, reproductive function, and they began to call scornfully - daughter-in-law.
Modern traditions
I must say that now people do not particularly think about the correct definition of family ties. To the question: “Daughter-in-law, who is this?” - Almost half of the women cannot answer. Now more appreciated is the ability to build a pleasant relationship, rather than kinship. So, in many families a woman is affectionately called a bride, not a daughter-in-law. Naturally, in the event that initially she showed herself as a loving wife and a good mother. For such a woman they arrange surprises and holidays, they perceive them as a native person, and not as an addition to their son.
Holidays for the beloved daughter-in-law
Friendly families will not refuse to organize a wonderful fun holiday for any member of the family. In accordance with folk traditions, the father-in-law should organize the anniversary of the daughter-in-law. After all, only he has the right to make her "demolish" everything in the world! Let it not be beatings and reproaches, but jokes and entertainments! Be sure to include a section in the scenario of the holiday with a story about who is your daughter-in-law. Who does this does not matter! The main thing is that, as a result, the “bloodless” relative feels herself the most dear and beloved. You can find simple and sincere words in which each of the relatives and friends expresses his warmth and love. Then the title of "daughter-in-law" will not be offensive, but pleasant.
Funny greetings
As you know, joint fun and joy unite people. You should not forget about this when preparing birthday greetings to your daughter-in-law. Funny surprises will always be out of place. In the case of harmonious relations, soft humor will please everyone. If the family cannot accept a new member in any way, then with a joke you can smooth out roughness and unevenness in communication. For example, the father-in-law can beat the old tradition, according to which no one could talk to the daughter-in-law until he gives her a present. And if the same gift follows, then the woman is a talker! You can buy two identical things and present them during the evening.