Probably there are few people who would not have experienced punishment with a belt. But which of the parents is thinking about how such an upbringing can affect the future of the child? And even more so, no one thinks about what is happening in the baby’s soul at the time of punishment and after it. Indeed, in fact, he experiences psychological humiliation, feeling himself morally destroyed by his own parents.
If in some countries you can get a term for corporal punishment of children, then with us this is the norm. It gives many parents a real pleasure to show their power over a defenseless child. Punishment with a belt only cripples the soul of the child, but does not educate him. Of the children who suffered severe beatings, people with a mental disorder eventually grow up. Some of them are not able to do without psychotherapeutic help.
In addition, a child who has experienced punishment with a belt will later be prone to lies, hypocrisy, and resourcefulness, if only to avoid punishment.
Such children look intimidated, they are constantly harassed by the fear of making a mistake and unwillingness to punish them later. This leaves its mark on the psyche of the child, which subsequently affects its future behavior.
It will be difficult for an adult who has been the subject of violence in childhood to succeed in life or career growth. He will respond to ordinary standard situations, criticism or comments too nervously, excitedly. It will seem to such a person that they are biased and unfair. Also, he will not be able to conduct a conversation within the framework of etiquette with his superiors. And indeed, in any life situation, he cannot do without screaming, anger and rage. Therefore, such a person will experience certain difficulties in this sense both at work and in relationships with people around him.
So it turns out that when parents are too keen on corporal punishment of the child, they, without noticing it, lay the foundation for his future life failures and disappointments, but not success.
Often, parents tear off their own bad mood or any everyday failures on the child, again, without thinking that he acutely feels the injustice of such an attitude, and the worst thing is that, along with fear, he may have a feeling of anger and revenge towards to mother and father.
Punishment with a belt gives rise to a feeling of self-doubt in a child’s future. If we compare people who have not achieved a high professional level or career growth with successful managers or supervisors, then they are essentially little different from each other. Only some achieved a lot in life, thanks to confidence, primarily in themselves, in their actions and deeds, while others showed indecision, the prerequisites of which was their children's upbringing. Realizing themselves in life for such people will be very difficult, and sometimes even impossible.
Parents who have used punishment for children with a belt deprive them of the ability to solve the simplest everyday problems on their own in the future, not to mention more difficult life situations.
Children who are systematically subjected to corporal punishment are deprived of their own interests and needs. Parents decide everything for them, right down to which institution to enter, which profession to choose, and, finally, which life partner to choose. But if you think about it - this is a real tragedy for children. They live not their own, but a strange, sometimes empty and meaningless life
Therefore, it should be concluded that such physical and psychological punishment, humiliation of human dignity is fraught with the fact that parents who want children to be happy actually destroy it with their own hands.