A funeral dinner can be held in many cafes or restaurants. When choosing an institution that provides a menu that meets the traditions of Orthodoxy or another faith, it is necessary to take into account its cost and location.
Orthodox funeral dinner is held three times. On the day of the funeral, the first wake. Then after 9 days. And here is the third funeral dinner already on the fortieth day.
The tradition of remembering the departed comes from the distant past. Such rituals are in other faiths of different nations. This is due to the hope of people for the immortality of the human soul. In Christianity, this custom always comes down to a memorial meal. But do not assume that this is a simple meal. A memorial dinner is a special ritual that is held to remember a dead person, show respect for him and remember his good deeds.
It is customary to remember the deceased with kutya, pancakes and jelly. Each person who comes to the pan is put on a pancake and poured kissel. In a cafe, it is permissible to put caviar to pancakes, cold fish snacks or include stuffed pancakes in the menu.
As a rule, people of the Orthodox faith during prayers offer prayers to Christ, asking him for peace for the soul of the deceased. All actions that occur during this event are filled with a special sacred meaning. On such a day, everything is of particular importance, which is why the menu in the memorial meal is special.
Before you begin to remember, you should read the prayer "Our Father." Then ninetieth psalm or hold a lithium. Throughout the feast, it is necessary to remember the deceased. Conversation at this time should be pious. You can’t laugh, swear, sing funny songs, remember the wrong deeds of the deceased.
It must be remembered that the main dish in the memorial meal - kutia - is a special porridge made from wheat or rice, which is seasoned with raisins and honey. Grains in such croup must be whole.
The kutia should be lit or at least sprinkled with holy water. Each of the people present at this event is required to try it. This dish means eternal life. The grain from which kutya is made reminds that a person, like this grain, sprouts, that is, is reborn, in Christ. There is no such thing as reincarnation in the Christian faith.
It is often believed that an abundance of food at a memorial dinner signifies great sorrow. It is not, the food on the table should be the easiest. This is especially necessary to remember when remembering during fasting. What is important here is that the assembled people remember the deceased.
You need to know some of the features of this ritual ceremony. If commemoration in Lent takes place, then believers transfer them to the sixth or seventh day of the week, because at this time the fast is very strict. If commemoration is held in a cafe, then all men should traditionally be without a headdress, and women, on the contrary, should be with their heads covered. This is a certain tribute to the deceased person. These are the features of the memorial dinner among Christians.