What does the phrase "having - not appreciating, but losing - crying" mean?

Very often in speech there is such a winged expression: "Having - we do not value, but lost, weep." Many even believe that this is a Russian proverb. However, this is not entirely true. After all, the phrase "Having - we do not value, but having lost, weeping" has an author who gave her life.

Who came up with these winged words

Some people believe that they came up with the famous expression “Having - we do not value, but losing - crying" - a contemporary author, some poet who wished to remain anonymous. Actually, this is facilitated by the fact that many fans of indulging in versification introduce these words into their works without reference to the present author. Thus, they mislead the reader, who ascribes this wise thought to the poet whom he first encountered.

However, at first the phrase “Having - we do not value, but having lost, weeping” was used by the playwright-vaudeville singer S. Solovyov in 1844. True, she sounded a little differently: “What we have, we don’t store, lost, weep,” and appeared as the name of one sensational performance in those years.

Who helped these words get fame

Later, a decade later, already in 1854, this expression was used in the collection “Fruits of Meditation” by Kozma Prutkov. It should be clarified that in fact this author as such did not exist. “Kozma Prutkov” was a pseudonym under which the Zhemchuzhnikov brothers Alexei, Alexander and Vladimir, as well as the poet Alexei Tolstoy worked. Therefore, many are mistaken, attributing to them the words "Having - we do not value, but losing - weep."

Who said this phrase first, we now know - Solovyov in his vaudeville. But she became famous thanks to the co-authors of “Fruits of Meditation”. So we can assume that this “wisdom” has several “parents”.

The meaning of the words “Having - we do not value, but having lost, weep”

This phrase has a deep meaning. The words themselves can be attributed to any side of human life. And the main thing is that people do not know how to value their present, always want more, which is why they curse what they own.

Speaking of what the saying means, we can recall such a caricature. A man complains that he has unfashionable sneakers. And a man who doesn’t have legs at all moves in a wheelchair. That is, having legs, few people think about what a great happiness this is. But having lost them, the disabled person fully understands how great it was to live, walk, run, even in unfashionable shoes before.

Having become rich, a person often recalls his hungry student years with awe. Yes, once it was difficult for him, he even, perhaps, considered himself a martyr, he wanted more. But, having received everything that was dreamed of, for some reason a successful businessman is sad and crying about those years when there was not enough bread, but there were friendship, devotion, love, youth, health.

Love while you love!

This catchphrase also applies to human relations. Children often swear with their parents, do not listen to their instructions, offend them with their rude words. Many consider themselves deeply unhappy due to the fact that, in their opinion, they got "ancestors" who do not understand them. Growing up, children understand that they have no one in the whole world closer than their parents. Only by that time the mother and father were already becoming old, sick, exhausted due to turmoil in families, the initiators of which were the children themselves.

And sometimes you feel how difficult it is without a mother or father, how strong their devotion and love are, even in youthful or even childhood. And then the teenagers will curse themselves a thousand times for not taking care of the relationships that were given to them by nature, that they did not appreciate the happiness that they got.

How many calls to protect our loved ones we hear from adult daughters and sons! We hear, but always take to heart. Many consider parental loyalty mandatory, take for granted, do not value.

Not renounce loving!

Spouses, long accustomed to each other, cease to rejoice in their family relationships. How many foolish jokes have been written on this subject! The husbands of their wives are called cobras and snakes, and in return they give their soul mates no less vivid epithets, calling them goats, rams and in other words. We are talking about the most ordinary married couples in which there are no special problems - only the fading of passion. And it seems like separation should make both of them happier, but no. This is where former lovers understand that losing a spouse or spouse is tantamount to spiritual death.

The same applies to friends and lovers who think that everything that is happening now is frivolous, not so valuable. Therefore, between close people often happen quarrels, misunderstanding. And only after the break, people begin to understand how important the old ties were to them. But, unfortunately, it is not always possible to restore lost relationships.

With the light hand of poets

Poems have this feature - figuratively and succinctly summarize the essence of thoughts about life. Therefore, often in two lines contain very capacious thoughts and conclusions that the thinking poet comes to. And so there are modern sayings about life, which are included in our speech.

“It’s impossible to run away from yourself, no matter how fast you run!”; “Laughing is not at all a sin of what seems ridiculous!”; “To shame a fool, to joke about a fool and to argue with a woman is the same thing as to draw water with a sieve. God save us from these three! ”

Often sayings and proverbs become lines from fables. They, being the moral of this short work, reveal many aspects of human passions, shortcomings, mistakes. In this regard, the fabulist Krylov probably belongs to the palm.