Another's soul - darkness. And the female is an impenetrable questrum. A dozen possible answers to the question, what is “ahem” in a female way, converges to the same answer - mean, like a male tear, and uninformative. It’s as if the author is afraid of karma, and that they will nevertheless find him ...
Speaking of karma ... On one of the sites, the answer was an equally interesting question: "Trying to find God?" And this provided that previously there were no requests for such topics. And below the postscript, that he can answer you right now.
Most likely, he alone knows what "ahem" is feminine ...
But let’s not disturb for trifles ...
Psychology
There was also a very entertaining site where, with long complex sentences, a person painted about the same “ahem” from a psychological point of view. This, according to the author, is a sign that the defendant needs to take a break. Your question is a little awkward, led him to a standstill. If communication took place in real life, the matter would end with pursing lips and coughing.
Ahem ... Well, maybe.
Smart sites
Surprisingly, even Wikipedia piled an article with the answer to this vital question. This is an inexplicable interjection, which has the root of "ahem."
But the most interesting thing is that even Wikipedia was not able to give an example of its use, and wrote that it is missing. Here it is, the breadth of female logic!
Smart books
Inexplicably, but a fact: about "ahem" is written even in smart books. In particular, in the new dictionary of the Russian language “Explanatory and word-formation”, which in 2000 was published by Tatyana Efremova, candidate of philological sciences. But the main thing, as you managed to notice, Tatyana Fedorovna is a woman. Perhaps that is why only she studied this issue.
If you believe the dictionary, "ahem" means bewilderment, reflection and irony, and is used exclusively in colloquial speech.
There are options for coughing, but here the camp of knowledgeable people is divided into several categories: someone writes that it would be more correct to write “khem”, and someone closer to “khe” ...
Smart women
If we move away from the “female theme”, then in the normal language “ahem” is an abbreviation. It refers to one of the elements of the power line, which is called "hook mounting clamp". If you get even deeper into the philological derby, you can find such interesting options: the Continental Hockey League; “Ahem” - something cooler than “ahem”; Kemerovohimmash; the blood of Christian babies; control of metrological characteristics.
Therefore, before thinking what she had in mind, decide on the conceptual apparatus. And find out who she is: hockey player, electrician or chemist ...
Well, seriously, men, just ask: "What did you mean?" And you will be happy ...