The development of technological progress has led to the fact that people close to each other now communicate less and less. Sometimes even sisters and brothers stop seeing each other, at best, they use the phone and the Internet for communication, since now you can see each other on the monitor screen, even if you are thousands of kilometers from your interlocutor.
Narrowing the circle of relatives
More recently, close people lived in large families, trying to settle, if not under one roof, then at least in the neighborhood. Relatives shared common interests, they helped each other cope with difficulties, celebrated holidays together.
Now native people communicate in a narrower circle. Mostly grandparents, children, grandchildren.
Why don’t we know our second cousins and, frowning, we ask ourselves: “Shurin - who is he related?”
The fact is that with the development of society, the facilitation of living and working conditions, people have become more independent from each other. Previously, for example, in order to wash clothes, it was necessary to find two or three hours of free time, now this issue is solved by a simple click of a button. People communicated more closely, because help was needed, without the support of relatives and friends it was hard to live.
Family ties
When two people decide to start a family, not only they, but also their loved ones become relatives.
A young wife acquires her mother-in-law and mother-in-law, which her husband's parents become for her. For them, she will be a daughter-in-law, or daughter-in-law. In the person of the spouse's sister, a young woman finds a sister-in-law, and her husband’s brother becomes a brother-in-law for her. The newly made spouse will intermarry with the father and mother of the wife, who will acquire the status of caring father-in-law and mother-in-law. The brother of his second half with his wife will now be his brother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The wife's sister and her husband are sister-in-law and brother-in-law. Yesterday's bridegroom will become a father-in-law and mother-in-law. If the newlyweds live in the family of the spouse, then they can also call him a prima, that is, those whom they accepted. After the wedding, the parents of the young become matchmakers to each other.
Three groups of kinship
- Blood kinship - this group combines immediate relatives. For example, mother and son, brother and sister, father and daughter.
- Possessors - that is, people become “their own” through marriage. Hence such names as sister-in-law, brother-in-law.
- Kumovsky ties. Relatives in this case become the rite of baptism (godfather and godmother).
Shurin - who’s related?
So, brother-in-law is none other than the brother of his wife. What word did this name come from?
"Shurin's eyes are squinting." Probably, this proverb says that the loving brother of the wife closely watches whether the young spouse offends his sister.
The word brother-in, most likely, has a common root with the word "sew". That is, this is a relative who is “sewn” to a young family through a sister’s marriage.
Interestingly, in English there is the word sure, which should be translated into Russian as true, reliable.
Shurin is someone related to your family. In most cases, he supports the young, helps them. This relative can become the godfather of the child of the couple, which will further strengthen intra-family ties.
The sister's husband - the brother-in-law should understand this - needs his help in establishing relationships with his wife and her parents. These two men can get along well, especially if they have a slight age difference. Common interests will make them true friends, and the family will be stronger, friendlier, stronger.
The strengthening of such a connection is undoubtedly influenced by the intra-family mentality. In order for the brother and husband to become closer and dearer to each other, the sister must remember that there are holidays that they can celebrate together. If she will communicate more with her brother’s wife, organize general feasts, invite her to walk with children, then men will definitely be better to communicate with each other. The brother-in-law's wife, by the way, is a young daughter-in-law's family. If the brother does not have a wife, then his sister can take care of introducing him to a pretty unmarried friend who can become his soulmate.
Who is the brother-in-law
The brother-in-law is the husband of the sister's wife. These relatives, as a rule, are reliable, because they both became relatives after marriage and equally feel the features of the character of the father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Relations between brother-in-law can develop in different ways. In some families they become friends, communicate “in their own way” and even make friends. It is rare, but it happens that the relationship of these relatives in a marriage does not add up.
It’s normal if there is a slight rivalry between father-in-law, which is expressed in good-natured jokes during joint gatherings.
To strengthen the relationship between these men, a lot can be done by a spouse and sister. For example, you can go family together to nature or relax. However, you should not organize such events too often and intrusively. It is much better if communication is desired, but for this you need to have time to get bored one after another.
Sister-in-law
The sister-in-law is the wife's sister. She is the wife of her brother-in-law. Basically, the sisters communicate with each other very well, support each other. This is especially often manifested when both of them have children.
Sometimes, however, two women can compete with each other a little. This is not scary. Healthy competition leads to better relations between husband and wife.
Kumovsky ties
Kum and kuma for a child can be both close relatives and friends of the family. It is impossible to give advice unequivocally whom to choose as godparents.
If, for example, one of your relatives will be them, then to the question about who is the brother-in-law and brother-in-law, you can always answer that this is the godfather of your son or daughter. They will become even more dear to you through the baptismal rite of your child.
Close friends can also be good godfathers. Such a "kinship" will contribute to your rapprochement, strengthening friendship ties.
How to communicate with property owners
These are people who, it would seem, are not direct relatives for a young family. However, communication with them can significantly affect the relationship between husband and wife.
When a spouse communicates with a brother of his second half, he must remember that brother-in-law is someone who is close to his wife in a relative way, which means that misunderstandings in interacting with him can adversely affect his relationship with his spouse.
For newlyweds, it is important to support each other and not talk badly about the relatives. After all, they have now become one family. Just as a husband must remember who his brother-in-law is responsible for, his wife should not forget that the brother-in-law is the brother-in-law of her husband.