The song "Be Kinder" is becoming more popular. But is the idea becoming more popular - to change for the better? Yes, people want to get better, but alas, many are not looking for kindness at all. Perhaps the whole point is a vague understanding of the word "kindness"? Why was kinder becoming prestigious?
About the meaning of the suffix
People confuse two concepts: good and kind. We’ll talk about the first a little later, and now about the second. A derogatory suffix indicates that kindness is not real. Dobrenkie also come in several forms. Firstly, weak, spineless people who simply cannot refuse or punish (you saw such school teachers). Secondly, these are lazy people who can not scold the subordinate, because they do not care, it is easier for them to smile and not bother. Thirdly, these are hypocritical evil deeds who pretend to be good for the sake of profit. The last category is the most unpleasant and dangerous.
The kindness of the strong
To be kinder does not mean to be weaker. Only a strong person can afford sympathy, warmth and tenderness. Namely, these manifestations make a person kind. And when it comes to a strong person, you understand that his kindness is not from self-interest and not from spinelessness. To be kinder means to be ready to give without expectation of reciprocity. Truly kind people are respected and loved. Remember the image of Melanie from Gone With the Wind. An unshakably strong personality stood behind a dim appearance and tenderness , this was especially noticeable when it came to moral values.
Start with yourself
The Bible requires loving others, as we love ourselves. Start by loving yourself. This does not mean that you can "turn off" self-control and lower the bar of self-requirements. This means that you must separate the emotional and intellectual “I”. A lot of people say that they want to be “kicked” to the result. In fact, they just want feedback. Very many agree to an unkind attitude to themselves only because it is difficult to get other attention. And an unkind attitude injures the most pachyderms. Imagine you have a best friend who makes mistakes. So, this best friend is you. Regardless of circumstances and mistakes, you need a warm emotional attitude and support. It’s difficult to be kind in relation to yourself, but it is from this that you need to start the path to kindness.
If faith doesn’t scare
You may need the support of people who also want to be kind. In this situation, turn to believers of the denomination to which you belong. In any traditional religion, mercy and kindness are valuable, find sincerely faithful people among your friends - and learn. Typically, a believer's kindness stems from self-interest and understanding of what is happening in the soul. This is worth learning, perhaps reading the fundamental creations of the Holy Fathers, for example, "Kindness" or "Ladder."
Even if you don’t feel the natural talent for kindness in yourself, you can learn to be kinder. Just try to look for the good in yourself and people - and enjoy it. What begins in our mind necessarily continues in reality. And this is not a “secret”, but the truth mentioned in the Bible. Kind people really live happier.