Many parents care about the question: "What should I do if I get a deuce?" Scold him or forgive him? How to behave in this difficult situation, read below.
How to behave a child?
Everything happens in life. Happiness is never permanent and limitless. Especially for schoolchildren. After all, children can get different grades. Today, the son brought the five, and he is praised. And what if I got a deuce? Every child knows: for such an act they will not stroke him on the head. Therefore, as a shy cat, a son (or daughter) can simply hide from you the fact of getting a deuce. Naturally, this will not be their fault. After all, children's behavior is a reflection of parental behavior. And if the child is not saying something, think about it, and how often do you do it?
What feelings should a deuce have in a baby shower? Feeling of shame. That's all. Normally raised children will not hide a bad assessment from their parents, because they know that they will not scold them for it. The child must understand - the main task that adults entrusted to him is to study well. And he will try with all his might not to fail. Frankly speaking about your mistakes and mistakes can only be a strong personality. Therefore, appreciate if your child tells you about failures.
How to behave to parents?
Son gets deuces - what to do? Try to accept this fact and forgive the child. After all, you will love your child anyway. Do not shout and curse, let alone cry. Remember: you won’t help with tears. Parents for a child are an example to follow. The child looks and remembers your reaction to his bad marks. In order not to fall low in children's eyes, try to keep a cool face. It should be said to the child that in life everything happens and a deuce is not the end of the world. But at the same time, the student must understand: the result of his studies is still important to you. Therefore, you should not behave as usual. We need to talk with the child about how he received a bad mark and what he now plans to do with it.
It is difficult to understand that a schoolboy is already a big person. Therefore, many parents panic when their children give bad grades. What to do if a child gets a deuce? Try to understand: your child is already quite large in order to be able to take responsibility for their actions.
If you already decided to scold, then you need to do it right
What if your child got a deuce at school? If you decide to scold the child, then you should scold him precisely for a poor rating. Do not remind the child of everything that he does wrong or does not do at all. If the deuce is for an essay, you can recall a child of his unwillingness to read. But do not immediately try to kill all the birds with one stone and condemn the student for the fact that he does not help around the house, does not collect his toys and treats his brothers and sisters badly. In general, one must learn not to recall past sins in disputes. This will only ruin the relationship, but will not bring any benefits. The child must understand that you condemn him precisely for a poor assessment, and not for the fact that he is not good. The main thing for children is to feel the love of their parents.
Work on bugs
Everyone can make a mistake. Unlearned lessons,
broken vases or bad words that break from the child’s tongue are problems not only for children but also for parents. After all, it was they who brought up their child as it is.
What to do if a child gets a deuce? We need to work on the bugs. Put your child on the couch and talk to him. After all, not always a bad mark is put for ignorance of the subject. Sometimes teachers draw a deuce for behavior or because they treat the student badly. In any problem, you need to be able to separate the cause and effect. This child must be taught from an early age.
Schoolchildren are almost adults. They can clearly explain why they got unsuccessful. If the deuce is posed for poor knowledge of the subject, you need to find out why the child could not answer the question. Perhaps your child is too shy, could not connect the two words, standing at the blackboard. In this case, you need to work to ensure that the child overcomes the fear of public speaking. If the deuce is set for behavior, the child should be explained: the school is not the place where you can indulge. Well, if a poor mark is really an indicator of a lack of knowledge in the subject, it may be worth hiring a tutor.
How to prevent a further decline in performance?
What if the child received a deuce? We must try to help him. But this does not mean that you will have to do homework with him, much less for him. The student must take responsibility for their actions, and parents - give him the right to choose, as well as recommendations when and how to do homework. If the student wants to do the exercise on Friday night, let him do it. Well, if he decided to postpone everything until the last moment, this is also his right. The main thing in this situation is not to interfere, but at the same time to follow: all lessons must be done on time. If the child does not understand something, he needs to be told so that he is not afraid to ask for help. Parents can help solve a complex equation. The best that adults can do is to teach the child to love school and not to prevent him from going his own way.