We live in a very difficult world. We are surrounded by people who can think and say anything. They got into the habit of imposing their opinions on anyone. Thus, they can lead a person off the right path. In most cases, this happens. A number of questions arise: whether to listen to someone else's opinion; who should be listened to, and whose advice should be ignored or rejected in principle? Today we will try to shed light on these issues.
About the opinions of others
There is one very bright allegory on this subject. The woman looks out the window and sees that the neighbor’s clothes are drying, but there are a lot of dirty spots on him. She thinks to herself: "What a messy neighbor! She can't wash at all." She watched and criticized her roommate for several days. It all ended with the woman washing the windows. And suddenly it turned out that the neighbor’s linen was clean, just a housewife all this time looking at things through her dirty windows.
So you can compare most of the opinions of others. They are essentially unreasonable and, as a rule, only reflect the flaws of the critics themselves. As they say in one quote about someone else's opinion of themselves:
When you are voiced your opinion about you, stay even in any case, praise or blame. Your interlocutor voices the state of his mind, but not you.
Such criticism in modern society is more than enough. Often, such people, who in every possible way reproach others, are driven by envy. Otherwise, why should they blame someone? They just want to lower others to their level in order to seem better, while not working on themselves.
Is someone else's opinion always harmful?
Criticism without special reasons, the imposition of one's subjective opinion on others are all characteristic features of those people who do not feed bread, let them criticize and teach someone life. But not all people are like that. You can meet a person who can give good advice on any issue, express your opinion. For example, a specialist in any field can help those who are incompetent in choosing services, material, product, or something else, seeing that they need help. And he will not act badly, but will express his authoritative point of view.
So the opinion of others must also be taken into account, because they will more than once be able to simplify our lives. Among those who want to annoy, there may be those who can advise and advise on any specific problematic issue.
Opinion of mentors and seniors
If the opinion of yourself from outsiders is not so strong and important, then things are different with the opinion of elders. That's why they are elders: parents, teachers, "elder" friends who are wiser than ourselves. It often seems that if one of the mentors teaches us and, as we think, criticizes us, then they are bad, short-sighted and do not understand the essence of the situation. “After all, I'm really good, I'm right,” we often think.
But, oddly enough, their opinion of us is not erroneous. Over time, this can be understood. With this unpleasant method, we are changing, becoming better, and realizing ourselves. And by stupidity most often it seems that they are putting pressure on us or something like that. As stated in the quote about the alien opinion of the philosopher and famous writer M. Zhvanetsky:
Do not ask the opinions of those who agree, ask those who object.
This is so, because it is always pleasant when we are patted on the head and repeated again and again: "What a good, cool, wonderful you are." Not. Thus, a person begins to degrade, because he thinks that he is perfect, everyone except him is to blame. But this is not so. Who, if not real mentors, can point out our shortcomings and mistakes? Gingerbread alone is very difficult to make a person better. One quote from someone else’s opinion reads:
People ask for an opinion, but expect only praise.
Asking for an opinion, people often want to establish themselves in the eyes of others. But, almost always, they hear from others not quite what they would like.
Quotes about the opinions of others of great people
He who finds himself loses his dependence on the opinions of others. © Albert Einstein
This is indeed so, because Einstein was so enthusiastic about physics at one time that he did not know whether he was going to dinner or had already come from him. How much he was absorbed in his thoughts. So the great physicist confirms this quote about the opinions of others in practice.
Humbly bow your head before the facts, but proudly lift it in the face of the opinions of others. © Bernard Shaw
The main idea of ​​this statement is that one does not need to be ashamed of some unpleasant facts about oneself. We are all not perfect. Don't worry about what others think of you.
Respect for the opinions of others, the mind - a sign of their own. © Vasily Klyuchevsky
Here is another point of view regarding opinions from the outside. It says that in any case, whether the opinion is good or bad, it must be respected. That is, to be respectful and tolerant towards others.
Here are some more quotes about the opinions of others.
The only thing I don’t like about you is your eternal: “What will people say.” "People" do not build your life. And mine and even more so. First of all, think about yourself. You yourself have to arrange your life. Can you really let between you and your desire become what others think? © Theodor Dreiser
Whatever you think of, do what you think is fair. © Pythagoras
I don't give a damn about public opinion. More venal substance than public opinion does not exist. © Tigran Keosayan
The majority opinion is always erroneous, for most people are idiots. © Edgar Poe
To summarize, I would like to wish readers to be immune to the opinions of others, because it is a very big obstacle to personal success. Be happy!