What can be called a man who loves many women? A voice from the audience: "Loving - this is the definition that suits him." That's right. And now we’ll deal with what men and women are and what kind of quality it is — lovingness.
Two types of attitude towards a woman: as an object and as a subject
Before we paint in all colors what love is loving (we will understand this a bit later), we need to make some methodological remark.
Erich Fromm wrote the wonderful work “To have or to be” (1976). All its salt is that a person can relate to the world and other people, based on two opposite worldview systems. The foundation of one is the orientation toward possession, when the world and other people are presented only as things and devices for achieving one’s own goals. The other involves equating to being, when each element of the world is perceived as a full partner. They differ theoretically quite simply: one eats love ("to be"), while the other only wants to rule and receive ("have"). Armed with the necessary theoretical knowledge, we turn to the answer to the question, loving - who is this?
Hank Moody as an example of a man who truly loves women
The graphic image of the hero of “Lascivious California” will help people who do not like scientific definitions know who such a loving man is. Hank has many women, and he loves all of them in his own way. In the first season, he has to go to his father’s funeral, and, as is usual in the films, he starts to remember him. Among other things, the son clearly hears in his head the phrase of his father: “I loved all the women whom I met. Someone is 10 years old, and someone is 10 minutes. ” Perhaps this is the best definition of love that can be given.
In turn, Hank, who rejects his resemblance to his father in any way, behaves the same. He loves women completely sincerely and disinterestedly, demanding nothing in return. As you know, the hero resents his father for abandoning his mother. We think after this the question should not arise, loving - who is this? Everything is very clear. Nevertheless, I would also like to talk about the male consumer.
Alphonse - this one who lives off women
The figure in question, although traditionally not characteristic of Russian reality, is sometimes found. Currently, when values ​​are mixed, men are becoming more feminine and infantile, sometimes they allow themselves to live, relying on a girlfriend, this kind comes across more often. And it would not be so scary if a man depended on a woman due to various not very pleasant circumstances or sudden life conflicts, but no. Unfortunately or fortunately, but this is some meaningful way of life.
Classical literature also knows such cases. As an example, we can take one of the main characters in the story of A.P. Chekhov's "Gooseberry". Remember, there one of the brothers married a rich widow, and then brought her to the grave for the sake of his dream - a manor? This is an extreme example of Alphonse. In this case, when we ask ourselves: “Is he a loving person?”, The answer will be negative, because love doesn’t smell like love here.
On the other hand, gigolos can formally be considered loving, but for them this quality is only a tool, and they skillfully control both their emotions and the feelings of another person.