In Russia, they necessarily talked about how the deceased was a man, what he did for a kind. Speech at the funeral is, on the one hand, a tribute to his memory, at the same time - a way to alleviate the grief of relatives. The heat coming from the soul, when a person shares his memories, acts like a balm for the wound caused by loss. With this in mind, you need to prepare for the mourning event. I must say about what a person is dear personally
what you have achieved in your life, which was especially valuable to him.
What to include in the speech?
Speech at the funeral should be positive and mournful. Do not describe in detail the biography of the deceased. The main emphasis is on the good qualities of his soul. Only when faced with the departure of a relative to another world do you understand that the material, to which we all strive, is dust. Not for the fact that he knew how to earn money, people remember. But rather, for what I could share what I had accumulated, I saw who needed help, I knew how to say a good word in time. Therefore, farewell speech at a funeral usually contains facts that characterize the deceased on the positive side. His personality is described from this point of view. It is not a sin to talk about to whom he was kind, what he did, and so on. The speech at the funeral must necessarily contain information about how the deceased was useful to society. (Let it be of little use - but it was!) It is necessary to end the speech with a phrase about how you deeply grieve and regret the loss. For example: “I will miss your timely advice” or “I will miss your wise words” and so on.
Who makes the speech at the funeral?
It is not specifically established who should speak the mourning words. Usually this is entrusted to a person who knows how to control emotions from among the relatives of the deceased. Funeral speeches at a funeral should not be accompanied by tantrums and tears. It is advisable that a person speak who knows how to create an atmosphere of cohesion and trust. It will be easier for relatives, and the soul of the deceased will not suffer. It is recommended to prepare the words in advance. A printed version is best to have with you. So a person can spy if he forgets everything from excitement and grief. It is best if the mourning words are spoken by the closest relative to the deceased (children, spouse).
Some tips
The speech at the funeral should not be prolonged (no more than five minutes). Consider the degree of grief of the participants in the ceremony. Long rants will only aggravate their pain. But small mean words are not suitable for a mourning speech. Parsimony of speech can offend those present, humiliate the deceased. It is necessary to put the warmth of the soul into the performance itself, to make it touching, but not plaintive. It is necessary to vividly describe the most important moments for the deceased, which he valued above all. The fact is that the soul of the deceased at the time of burial is still between the worlds. It will be easier for her to leave if she feels the peace and tranquility of her grieving relatives. It is believed that with our stormy mourning emotions we only keep and disturb the soul of the deceased.
In conclusion, I want to say that the mourning words must be well prepared and thought out so that the person who pronounces them can convey the degree of his respect for the deceased and the power of regret about his death.