Nowadays, it is fashionable to be a strong spirit person. It’s not even a matter of fashion, but of necessity. The modern way of life leaves us no other choice. Constant competition at work and in personal life, growing needs and
a catastrophic lack of free time - just give a little weakness, and the cycle of life events will throw you ashore, like an unnecessary load.
In such an unfavorable atmosphere, a person must not only constantly maintain their positions, but also improve themselves. Inconsistency between the needs of society and their own forces to meet needs is the main cause of stress and depression.
What should be the ideal person of the 21st century? Smart, educated, well-groomed, law-abiding, educated, self-sufficient? Yes, self-sufficiency is what distinguishes a spiritually mature person from a notorious individual. This maturity causes respect, envy, the desire to imitate and the gamut of other conflicting feelings. It is believed that a self-sufficient person is something isolated, self-enclosed and self-supporting, free from the opinions of others and other prejudices. But does such freedom mean the presence of happiness? And is a person self-sufficient who has not reached certain heights, but is satisfied with his current state of affairs? In what areas of life does this quality manifest itself?
From the point of view of psychology, self-sufficiency is the ability of an individual to overcome his problems and satisfy his needs with his own forces. The main qualities of a self-sufficient mature person are the absence of fear and the full acceptance of responsibility for their actions. If such a person does something, then he does it first for himself and for his relatives, the opinion of those around him is not a necessary attribute at all, praise and respect is rather a pleasant addition to the satisfaction that has already been received from a job well done. Self-sufficiency can manifest itself in different areas of life:
1. In the economic - it means the independence of decision-making in domestic matters.
2. In social - means the recognition and competence of a person in those matters in which he is engaged. At the same time, it is important for the individual to be satisfied with himself and his work.
3. Psychologically, it means accepting oneself, the absence of fear or discomfort before possible loneliness. A man is not afraid of his internal problems, he has something to do alone with himself. However, self-sufficiency is
not the lack of affection or love for anyone at all. This is only the absence of addiction.
As regards such a controversial category as women's self-sufficiency, only one thing can be said here: excessive ostentatious confidence and strength can help build a career, but in relations with representatives of the opposite sex they are inappropriate. Failure to follow this simple rule often leads to problems in personal life.
Self-sufficiency is not an innate quality; it is acquired in the process of development and social adaptation. It can be developed purposefully by working on yourself. Remember that only you are the creator of your life, responsible for everything that happens in it.