Marusia Svetlova is a famous Russian writer, psychologist, presenter and author of the trainings. She teaches people that by managing their thoughts, you can find harmony in the family, excellent relationships, success, health. Maroussia has written 16 books, the most popular of which will be considered in the article.
Biography
Marusia Svetlova celebrates her birthday on May 8. In what year the writer was born is unknown. This is not indicated either on the author’s website, or on its pages on social networks, or in books. However, knowing the psychologist’s 35 years of practical experience, one can roughly imagine how old she is.
Marusya was born in a small Soviet workers' village. Her parents, like all locals, worked in a single enterprise, the family lived very modestly. The girl dreamed of being a journalist, writing books. In high school, she firmly decided to enter the faculty of psychology at Moscow State University. Marusa succeeded, despite the fact that relatives did not believe in her and discouraged.
All her life, Svetlova worked by profession. She was a psychologist in a public and then a private school, wrote expert articles for magazines, led columns at several radio stations, taught psychology at a university, and traveled with training seminars across the country. Later Maroussia opened her own training center in Moscow. To her, businessmen and entire organizations signed up for training. Svetlova also has a second education - she graduated from the Russian-American Institute of Psychology.
After many years of living in the capital, Maroussia is tired of the bustle. Now she lives near Belgorod in her own house, surrounded by nature. The Moscow center continues to work, its employees help organize trainings in different cities. With the spread of the Internet, it became possible to teach and help people remotely; this freed up time for writing new books.
Personal life
The first marriage of the writer ended in divorce. In her books, Marusya Svetlova tells that relations were destroyed in many ways through her fault. She was brought up according to Soviet traditions, thought that she should all, completely forgot about herself. Maroussia took on too much, did not allow her husband to appear as a responsible man. She did not value herself, so her husband became indifferent, infantile. Divorce, a daughter of preschool age, perestroika, lack of money, uncertainty - all this could break a woman. However, the trials became the beginning of a new life for Marousi, they launched internal changes.
The “new” Marusya Svetlova respected and appreciated herself, therefore she “pulled” a worthy man into her life, with whom they now have a harmonious, happy union. Spouse Anatoly Duplev, who in the past was engaged in construction, supports Marusya, is the lead and co-author of some trainings at the Svetlova center.
The writer has three grandchildren. The younger ones are two weather girls and the older one is a first year student, studying abroad. Maroussia likes to spend her free time at needlework, drawing. She plays the guitar, is engaged in ceramics, attends spiritual seminars, retreats, places of power.
“Thought creates reality”
This is the name of one of the most popular books of Marousi Svetlova. Here are its main points:
- Sustainable thought, conviction is like a computer command that the Universe accurately performs. If you think that there is not enough money, mutual love, good working conditions for everyone, then it will be so.
- Thought creates a way to get what you want - easy or complex. The author of the book describes the time when she was preparing a group of students for state exams, as a beginning teacher. Maroussia said: “Today's topic is very simple. It has only a couple of main thoughts. I will explain them to you, you yourself will understand the rest, you are smart. You can easily pass the exam. ” The other group was taught by an experienced, respected teacher. She scared students that they would fail, that they would not be able to understand difficult material. As a result, the Svetlova group received high marks, while the other was struck by low results.
- Thought chooses information. If you think that there are no normal men left, there are only alcoholics around, then even in the most decent place only such people will catch your eye.
- Thought determines the behavior of other people. If you rebuke the child that he is a slut, criticize your husband for being irresponsible, they will show these qualities more and more.
- Thought can work a miracle. Maroussia gives an example of a patient to whom an experienced surgeon said that he was powerless - the injuries were too extensive. The doctor added that a man can save himself if he repeats: "I am recovering, my condition is improving." Grasping this opportunity, like a straw, the patient recovered.
In the book “Thought creates reality” Marusia Svetlova advises not to start solving problems until the mind is put in order. Karma, fate does not exist - there are parental attitudes that limit. Beliefs can be changed even when surrounded by those who think negatively. We need to stop watching news, political debates, talk shows, where they discuss problems. These people try to convince viewers through the screen that the world is hostile, that nothing depends on a small person. Even the competition of singers and dancers instills the idea that you have to fight hard for your place under the sun, and only one will win. Affirmations do not help because the leap is too great from "I'm timid, I can't imagine anything" to "I'm strong, confident, I can." Positive beliefs must be formed in small steps so that there is no resistance.
“Money in your life”
Marusia Svetlova, as the author of this book, teaches to get rid of material difficulties. Here's what you need to do:
- Believe in your ability to raise money. Then there will be new opportunities, vacancies, the right people to meet.
- Do not take current work as a punishment, a duty. Do not waste energy on resistance. Find a mission in your business. Not “I clean”, but “I create cleanliness, order, comfort”, not “I sell cosmetics”, but “I make women beautiful, confident.”
- Become worthy of a lot of money. Improve qualifications, try to do your job even better, fall in love with your product, find interest in the profession.
- Easy to accept money. Some refuse, feel embarrassed, even when they are treated to something, pay for the fare.
- Easy to let go of money. Do not think painfully about spending. Give to others or spend on yourself. Money is a stream, it cannot stop, because the source is man himself.
- To admit that money can come not only from work. They are won, found, received as a gift or as a thank you.
- Learn to want. Create new desires. Many, especially women, have been “serving” their family for so long, fulfilling the wishes of loved ones, that they have forgotten how to dream of something for themselves.
- Do not be content with little. “Others don't even have that ...”
- Learning to ask from other people. Do it confidently.
"Parenting in a new way"
This is a book on how to find a common language with a child, create a trusting relationship. Marusia Svetlova writes that the problems arise due to the fact that parents communicate with the child arrogantly, report him. Phrases like “why not?”, “I don’t hear the answer”, “do you have a conscience?” humiliate. He understood everything from the first word, a look, and already repented. Over time, long moral teachings become so familiar that the child stops listening to them. Adults conclude that he is either stupid, or defies education.
How to be? Firstly, it is necessary to separate the child from the act: not “slut”, but “done sloppy”. Secondly, you should talk, try to figure out together why he did this. For example, a fight to protect yourself or someone, to throw out anger or earn respect. It is necessary to show the attractiveness of the goal - to learn to behave so as not to offend others. In the book “Parenting in a new way” Marusya Svetlova recommends that adults see the child kind, good and tell him about it. Then he will strive to become what he is considered.
"The happiness of being a woman"
This is the name of the book in which Marusya Svetlova urges to abandon the old programs, according to which the woman served the family, the team, but forgot about herself. She had to give birth, educate, teach, control, tidy up, cook, make purchases, look after elderly relatives, take care of her grandchildren, work full time, always look perfect, not show emotions, give way to her husband.
In the book “The Happiness of Being a Woman,” Marusya Svetlova asks women to finally remember about themselves, loudly declare their desires, learn to praise themselves. The writer by her example shows that when a woman gets used to love herself, she becomes a person worthy of respect, people around begin to appreciate her and protect her.
"Dreams Come True"
This is the name of another very famous book by Svetlova. The psychologist lists the reasons why the desired is not realized, here they are:
- Feeling unworthy. The woman wanted a foreign car, but when she received it as a gift, she constantly got into an accident. All because she felt unworthy of an expensive car. When I sold a car and bought a domestic cheap model, everything worked out.
- Forcing a dream. The man at the training asked how he could make himself want to find work, achieve success. In fact, he was already used to sitting at home in front of the TV, sleeping after dinner. He liked it, there was no dream of work.
- Dreams imposed by others. A man wants a car to be like everyone else, and he enjoys walking. Another dreams of fashionable, expensive resorts, and he likes to relax in the village.
- Dreams of the well-being of loved ones. “I don’t need anything, if only the children settled down, got married, acted.” Often our idea of the well-being of our relatives is very different from their own idea of happiness.
- Lack of energy. I dreamed about one thing, it didn’t work out - I gave up, then about the second, about the third. For a dream to come true, you need to fill it with energy, that is, live with it for a long time.
In the book “Dreams Come True” Marusya Svetlova offers a step-by-step plan for achieving dreams:
- Do not give the dream too much importance, treat it childishly, easily;
- if the dream is too large, break it into small parts;
- Do not rely on the opinions of other people about the possibility and impossibility;
- Do not rely on your own past failures;
- become worthy of a dream, feel like those who already have, who have already achieved.
Interesting Facts
Marusia Svetlova first became convinced that thought creates reality when she entered Moscow State University. Then the circumstances seemed to be against her: her parents did not support, her friend did not believe, she knew the ticket in the last exam by three, and for admission she needed five. Marusya was not trained by tutors, she did not have a pull. She did it because for two years she presented herself as a student and did everything to fit her dream.
When the writer was a young mother, another incident happened to her, which turned life 180 degrees. Marus was to return to the store a defective pram. These were times of shortage, returning the goods was almost as difficult as buying them, having defended the night queue. It was necessary to go to an appointment with the store director. When talking with the boss, Maroussia behaved like a begging, humiliated person, timidly mumbled. As a result, the money was not returned to her, and they were also made guilty. Despondently wandering home, the woman suddenly regained sight: so this is where all her misfortunes came from. She constantly behaves like a victim, so those around her treat her like that. If she went to the store with the thought “I respect myself, I have the right, I will get the money back”, everything would have turned out differently.
Trainings
The last seminars of Marousi Svetlova took place in Moscow, Belgorod, Krasnodar, Rostov-on-Don, Chelyabinsk, Irkutsk, Yekaterinburg and other cities. Two-three-day training. Classes last 7-9 hours.
Names of trainings: “Long live the body!”, “Me and people in my life”, “Man and woman”, “Create your happy life”, “Life management”, “Gorgeous woman”, “Money in your life”, “ Training of sexual success ”,“ Training for parents ”,“ Confidence - how to gain it and not lose it ”,“ Create your happy life ”.
Reviews of readers, participants of trainings
And the books of Marusya Svetlova, and trainings, and webinars bring people back to themselves. The psychologist helps to get rid of strangers, restrictive programs, teach to become a positive, confident person, the master of his life.
Participants note that the trainings have a very warm, sincere atmosphere. The presenter does not “break” people, she does everything to make them comfortable. Readers say that Marusi’s books are written with love for people, her softness is felt. Svetlova admirers compare her with a lighthouse, a firefly, indicating the path to happiness.