The meaning of the word "flattery" is familiar to anyone. Each person uses this technique every day, sometimes we say pleasant, though not entirely truthful, words so as not to offend the person, in another case we want to like and impress, and it happens that these words become the main weapon in the hands of a scammer and a villain.
Meeting old acquaintances, we will rather make a compliment than focus on the minuses of appearance or other negative characteristics. Unfortunately, flattery is the norm of modern communication. If in this situation you start to show your opinion and reproach for your shortcomings, they will think of you, to put it mildly, as a rude person. It turns out that society itself imposes on us the standards of “ethical” communication and makes us lie and satisfy the opponent’s pride.
Another case, if a person is flattering in order to please and win over to himself. This may be due to fear of rejection or in order to quickly fit into someone else's environment. More often this method does not work, because insincerity is visible. Weakness of character or selfish goals make flattery the most important weapon of many people. If you do not fight this habit, then a liar will soon be unable to be natural and truthful. Flattery is a swamp that draws into the pool. The more often a person uses these dirty
tricks, the more he forgets about pure relationships and the less he believes in himself. Each of us met on his way those who meekly listened to speeches, and then “chanted” odes to them. Some pity such people, others annoy them, and others draw them to themselves and enjoy, amusing themselves with pride.
The world remembers such famous heroes and people as Sonya Zolotaya Pen and Ostap Bender. They amaze everyone with their ability to cheat and flatter. Not one man fell for the sweet speeches of the swindler Sonya, but at the same time she still remains a legend and has her fans. In her mouth, flattery became a blessing and an art of eloquence. For her, fraud and deception were the meaning of life and the only craft. If her gift was used for good! You can only imagine how many good and great things she would have accomplished.
For centuries, quotes associated with such a concept as flattery have passed from mouth to mouth, because people consider it a sin, for which it is worth asking for forgiveness from God. But still there is no escape from her. Social events, business contacts are built on flattering and “smiling” communication.
Flattery is evil, no matter what prompts people to resort to it, we hold the answer only to ourselves. Everyone's business is to be an honest and strong person or a sneak. It is not necessary to say offensive words, you can just keep silent or emphasize the real pluses. It seems that it is better not to open your mouth at all than to be a liar who seeks out words in order to win over a person. Everyone should strive for perfection - to be strong, truthful, honest and kind. Our life should not take place in the pursuit of good, but in the pursuit of spiritual good. If a person tells a lie and does it regularly, then you should think about his spiritual development. Life is short. We leave it “naked”, and only the memory of us remains on earth. Everyone chooses his own path every day and every hour, and let the road be bright and clean, and not built on lies. Flattery is a vice that must be fought.