The happiness of the child is what each parent should give the baby. Unfortunately, not everyone understands how to make their child happy. Today we will talk about what happiness is for people, individually for children, and what mistakes parents make when trying to make their offspring happy.
Happiness for women
Of course, having a baby is happiness for any woman. Thus, all that the female half of the population needs to be cheerful and joyful all the time is her family. No matter how careeristic she may be, no matter how hard she is at work, every woman wants to love and be loved.
Thus, gradually, the female half of the world's population sets itself the main task - to make happy their family and offspring. Sometimes even to the detriment of one’s own interests and principles. This is far from always appreciated. Nevertheless, such a goal is the best that a girl can accomplish.
For men
Now many can say that it is important for men to be valued in society, to be successful and wealthy. In fact, this is not the case. If a person is brought up correctly, then he will never chase money. And in the world there are many examples when rich people who can buy a whole island with all its inhabitants were not happy. But why?
The thing is that for any person, for a man or woman, the most important thing is the happiness of the child. Photos and videos where the baby smiles and laughs are simply invaluable shots that will remain in your memory for life. So, the happiness of the child is the meaning of the life of any parent. Unfortunately, many make terrible mistakes that can cause great harm to the baby.
Spoilage or happiness
Many parents think that the happiness of the child is a constant wealth in the family, a lot of toys and popularity among the rest of the children. So, adults begin to buy kids expensive, but unnecessary things, compete with other parents and teach children how to value love and attention in monetary terms. In truth, this is a huge mistake.
In the course of such actions, children grow up, to put it mildly, spoiled and always dissatisfied with everything and everything. It will be extremely difficult for such a person to live among the rest. Happiness for a child is something else. He needs your real attention, support and love. If you try to express all this through some material objects, the baby will grow up to be a materialist and will appreciate only those who can give him something. When parents grow old, such a child is unlikely to care, and indeed communicate with the elderly and infirm "old people." But there are more serious mistakes that parents make in trying to make their child happy.
The nose is not in the business
Already in their teens, children often hear the words: "I know what is best for you." Parents tend to often utter such phrases, thinking that their thoughts and their realization are the happiness of the child. This is actually the wrong approach. But why? Indeed, the older generation has many years of experience behind their backs; they know exactly how and what their child should do in order to be happy and successful!
Remember yourself at any age. Probably, your interests quite often did not coincide with the opinion of your parents. From here quarrels arose. It is one thing when parents try to control a really really small child, and quite another - when they literally climb into the life of an adult who has risen to his feet.
The happiness of the child is what he decides for himself. This is not your opinion, not your interests and not your life. Remember that. Never go where you are not being asked - you can secure a bad reputation and ruin your relationship with your children for life. Try to come to terms with this and get into conversations only when asked about it.
How families collapse
There are frequent cases when a seemingly very decent family, with a good income, falls apart before our eyes. Children stop communicating with parents, parents begin to hate their children. None of them dare even think about the first steps towards reconciliation. Society in this case begins to "spread rot" the youth, although this is not entirely correct.
The fact is that the happiness of a child is his own life. The one he dreams about and strives for. When all dreams, desires and needs are suppressed, discontent grows. It accumulates every day and at one point spills out. This is where family problems, quarrels, scandals begin. Teenagers can leave home, adults can remove old people from their affairs and life in general.
Probably, many have heard about how they say "sissy", "daddy's daughter" or "wilo". Similar names sound insulting. And in this case, as a rule, they begin to blame the younger generation for allowing it to be manipulated. In reality, the picture is as follows: parents begin to put pressure on the child and completely destroy him as a person, trying to make him, in their opinion, happy. So a person can no longer independently decide what and how to do it. If this person has his own family, then with a high degree of probability it will fall apart soon. In order to prevent such situations, we can give you some useful tips.
Rules of happiness
In order for your baby to be happy - love him. As he is. With its shortcomings and advantages.
Never compare your child with others. Keeping up with someone is a bad habit.
Do not meddle with your advice and rules in the family with your grown baby. They don’t go to a strange monastery with their way of life. If children need advice, give when they ask.
No one except your child knows what is best for him - remember this and repeat to yourself every time you want your child to follow your instructions. You can ruin a relationship with a child by such behavior for life.
Spend as much time as possible with your kids. Play, develop, have fun - you will never return these moments in life, so enjoy them while you can. Remember that the happiness of your child depends on you.