In 2010, an unusual novel “The Adventures of the Muffin” appeared on the bookshelves. The author of the book raised a topic in him that they are embarrassed to openly talk about, but almost everyone has come across this - these are online dating. Someone finds friends in a network, someone with a community of interests and people who are close in spirit, somehow all meet on the Internet. An active user of the Mamba dating site Oksana Novak, where she often happens now, began to keep a diary and write articles on the topic of relations. Read about this in this article.
Who is Oksana Novak?
Claudia Nalivaiko (real name of the writer) was born on November 18, 1970 in the city of Monchegorsk, Murmansk Region. She graduated from the Pedagogical Institute with a degree in Russian Language and Literature. But I had to work as a manager and seller in a fruit stall. At 35, she moved to St. Petersburg. In 2002, she moved to Pskov.
What is your hobby?
Long before the release of the debut book “Adventures of the Muffin” in 2010, Oksana Novak was popular on the Internet. Without really knowing anything, she registered on the Mamba dating site and began to keep a diary - the column “Sex and the City” - this is what her first book is made of.
A year and a half later, on Oksana’s page, there were more than 15,000 visits, by the time Oksana Novak’s first book was published, up to 38,000 users looked in her diary per day. After spending several years at “Mamba”, Oksana became almost an expert on dating sites: she will tell you how to advertise herself; will tell whose messages you do not need to answer - only a waste of time, and to whom, on the contrary, to answer. On “Mamba” Oksana was found by publishers.
Who is hiding on a dating site?
Oksana dared to touch on a topic that not everyone dares to write about. The search for relationships on the Internet by women over 30 is a relevant and burning topic. Not only single women / men who want to find the other half come to dating sites. Many of the users, by contrast, are married / married.
Oksana Novak is sure that if such a person came to a dating site, it means that he has a mess in his family, something is not going well. He is either alone or suffers from a lack of attention. There are those who come to the site with one goal - to earn money by trading themselves. Alas, there are a lot of such people.
The first thing that a person who has come to a dating site does is fall in love with an image invented by him. A flurry of admiration falls upon any woman. Many of those over 40, no one had said such words for a long time, did not give flowers, and almost everyone has a virtual romance.
It’s easier with men, they are of two kinds: some are virtual romantics, they do not put their picture, they are married for a long time. They live in a fairy tale invented by them, and when it comes to a serious relationship, they disappear. The second ones write the same letters to at least 40 women, their only goal is to find a girlfriend for one night.
Reality or illusion?
Oksana Novak believes that those who have a family, children, work, friends in real life do not stay on the site for a long time. If they come there out of curiosity, then after a bunch of obscene offers fall on them, they leave. Someone remains, gradually understands what to read and what to remove without looking.
“A dating site,” says Oksana, “is a country in the Looking Glass. People come there in search of a partner, but disappointment soon begins. ” To understand what's what, the writer believes, it takes at least 3 months. Then people get used and, sometimes, “sit” on the site for several years. Is this good or bad?
Oksana found friends at Mamba, they have been talking in real life for many years - they go to the cinema, discos, bowling, and go on vacation. “There are many such examples,” the writer tells us expertly, “you can find not necessarily a life partner, but people who are close in spirit, partners in creativity and business. Therefore, for many, a dating site becomes the meaning of life. ” That's all Oksana Novak’s books are about.
What is he writing about?
“Adventures of Pyshka” is a novel about women “in favor” looking for love and happiness on the World Wide Web. The main character is Oksana Novikova, a 35-year-old and 100-pound “divorcee,” and the narrative is being conducted on her behalf. Desperate to meet her half in real life, she starts a romance on a dating site. Meeting with one, writing with the other, she discovers that all men are more or less perverts.
Oksana, inspired by hope, without losing her presence of spirit, stubbornly continues to seek her happiness. She is not stopped by scammers who want to breed for money, or outright louts, or moral freaks. She is gradually gaining experience - she meets many men both online and in real life - she falls in love, is disappointed, breaks up and falls in love again.
Oksana is supported by faithful friends Lyalka and Yulka, who, although she is in a happy marriage, sometimes likes to “play pranks”. Three friends tell about their adventures and impressions over the course of three parts, which make up the trilogy “Adventures of the Muffin”:
- "Online Dating".
- “Homeless Housewives.”
- "Eastwick Wives."
How does it write?
Oksana Novak writes in a light and simple language, generously seasoning the novel with humor. The plot, as such, is not there - just a lonely woman, desperate to find her happiness, is looking for him in a virtual country. Most of the novel is occupied by user messages, sometimes meaningless and incoherent.
As readers write in the reviews, the novel has too much vulgarity, inappropriate jokes, outright debauchery. Some people think that “Adventures of the Muffin” is an easy read, with which you can not just pass the time, but spend it fun, because the book has a lot of funny stories. Readers' opinion agrees on one thing: if in the first part the heroine is rather indiscriminate in her connections, then in the third book she is already looking not only for bodily pleasures, but also for spiritual happiness.