How fragile and how fleeting human life is. Faced with death, as with an inexorable reality, a person falls out of life, vanity and hassle. He seems to stop for a while, and it is precisely at such moments, as a rule, that a person is visited by thoughts about the fleetingness of life.
Thoughts of death provoke a natural protest, because a strong desire to live
pledged from birth.
No matter how tight, a person will persistently do everything in order not to leave this world for as long as possible.
And therefore, the inevitability of death causes a strong internal conflict and a feeling of deep sadness.
It is far from easy to support someone who feels similar feelings, to find the right words, the right thoughts ...
But if such a grief befalls a person close to us, what should I do? How to console a mourner and express his condolences over the death of his father, for example?
To answer these questions, first of all, you need to understand what feelings are experienced by one who has lost a loved one.
What feelings does death cause? This is a fear of the inevitable, or the heart still glows
Is hope that death is not the end?
It is important to understand that at such moments the grieving person least wants to know that perhaps his loved one is somewhere far in the sky, that he is doing well. A person whose someone has died mainly experiences his own grief, his misfortune, and his shock, therefore, cynical as it may be, at such moments you need to think not about the dead, but about the mourner.
Sometimes in response to the words of condolences regarding the death of a loved one you can hear: “I do not need to say that this is the will of God. I hate being told that. ”
Condolences over death are not always expressed in some words. It happens that the comfort of a person overwhelmed by grief is the simple presence of a friend who is ready to listen and patiently treat all manifestations of grief and despair. The death of a loved one can be a real test, which not everyone can do and can cause deep depression and despondency. Therefore, the words of condolences for death should be very gentle and tactful.
People who call themselves Christians usually believe in the existence of God. And if the condolences for the death of a loved one are based on the Holy Scriptures, this can bring comfort to the one who mourns.
There is a reassurance in one of the scriptures: “God of all comfort, comforting
us during all our tribulation. ”
One who expresses condolences over death must be very careful not to injure words just because they are thoughtless. The death of a loved one is a terrible shock. And therefore, when they say: "Humble yourself - this is inevitable," "Calm down, he is in heaven," - often the desire to live on simply disappears. But there are consolations of a different kind that encourage one to live on.
Scripture convinces us that God has provided a meeting for all those who once lost a loved one. “Christ rose from the dead, the first of those who fell asleep in mortal sleep. As in Adam everybody dies, so in Christ everybody revives. ”