The topic of family scandals does not lose its relevance throughout the entire period of human existence. In an effort to establish relationships, as a rule, women turn to psychologists and specialists in the field of family and marriage for help. As a result of the assessment and systematization of a huge number of facts, several main reasons for the quarrels with her husband were revealed. The list of causes of family upheaval includes violations in the distribution of roles, mistakes in the relations of partners to each other, differences in outlook on life, and crises in sexual relations up to the point of disappointment in your partner. Attempts of “annoying help” from parents, harmful addictions and illnesses, subconscious competition for power, problems of a communicative plan bring a lot of pepper to family life. The list of reasons why there are constant quarrels with her husband could be continued indefinitely. But all of them can be grouped into seven main groups.
The first group combines disagreements caused by temporary influences on people's relationships. Those who show increased love of love at the very beginning, in the midst of family life, they become the initiator of claims. A participant in the family tandem begins to pour in reproaches and discontent, if he does not manage to achieve harmony, subconsciously he predicts a sad ending and unwillingly, begins to act according to the formed model.
In this case, the situation can be saved if we fundamentally revise the style of behavior in relation to each other. Stop nitpicking and recriminations. Immediately remove the accusations from the relationship and forget the mistakes of the past. There are no winners in the family war. When one drowns the other, then he himself is in a critical position. It's time to look for attractive qualities in a partner and simply not notice what irritates him.
The second group consists of quarrels with her husband, caused by the struggle for leadership in a pair. In the period of falling in love, this struggle manifests itself imperceptibly, each “principal” in a certain section of the relationship is unique, attractive and unique in its own way. But in the future, the phase of critical assessments begins, and here the claims broth boils. Often during this period, one begins to openly expose his opinion as the main thing, the second showing in this case “near wisdom” begins to yield until the relationship reaches a critical point.
As soon as relationships begin to turn into a category of competitions, it is worth the alarm.
In the third group of reasons for which there are ongoing quarrels with her husband, problems are assigned based on the Family Budget. There are no options to claim in this field. It is recommended to avoid the majority of them sharing income in three directions. In the first, take into account general needs, the second is divided into the pockets of all family members to solve small personal problems from traveling by tram to replenishing the phone, and the third part should be used as joint savings. The share of each direction depends on family income and the general consent of all members.
The fourth group of scandals is the basis of the reasons that lead to divorce. If quarrels with her husband arise due to non-observance of moral principles, family ethics and violation of marital fidelity, then the path to divorce goes to the finish line. It is difficult to restore relations at least to the level of universal mutual understanding, when hatred, irritation and discontent are raging with might and main. If not a divorce, then mutual isolation in this case is recommended.
In the fifth group, it was decided to collect scandals for reasons very similar to those described in the second category, but arising from social inequality. The financial director and the janitor begin to misunderstand each other in the family. Quarrels with her husband begin to resemble a production skirmish.
Part of the family disagreements, allegedly caused by mutual misunderstanding, but in fact, by vain hopes, make up the sixth group. Quarrels with the husband occur because of a bit fantastic, but often leading to real scandals with grave consequences. One side (often female) expects from the other side some special manifestations of love, unusual signs of attention or a special style of behavior. He relies only on the "telepathic" abilities of his beloved. The more serious this approach, the greater the bitterness of disappointment. But didn’t you try to hint or say directly?
The seventh group of conflicts unites all previous ones. The conflict has not been resolved, but rather dampened by a compromise of one of the parties, sooner or later it will develop either in the same form or take on a new form, but the reason for the scandal will remain, and even be aggravated by new reproaches.
Building a family together is easy, difficult, and impossible to solve family problems alone.