Quite often, girls have to say no to their fans. But very few people know how beautiful it is to refuse a guy so as not to offend him. Almost everyone can say the word “no”, but choose a tone and expressions in such a way that it immediately becomes clear that this is really a refusal, and not one of the variants of the game, everyone must learn how to not provoke ambiguous situations or even direct aggression. If a girl doesn’t know how to refuse a guy correctly or is afraid for some reason to do this, but doesn’t want to meet at the same time, then she can pass for a vile, cunning, seeking profit in the manipulation of guys. Thus, pushing away not only young people, but also their own friends.
Or at the other extreme, if the guys see that the girl does not dare to refuse anyone, she may look in their eyes either weak-minded or easily accessible, but in that, and in the other case, troubles and any ambiguous situations in relations with the opposite sex are guaranteed to her. And if a girl knows how to refuse a guy beautifully, then on the contrary, she can grow up in the eyes of an outcast applicant and everyone else. After all, every girl must strive to respect others and to affirm the authority of her own personality in the eyes of others.
If a girl is confident that she will never be with this particular guy, then to motivate the refusal by the lack of time or total employment is stupid, because he will harbor hope that someday she will still find a moment for him in her busy schedule. And, having seen that this girl has no time for him, but has time for someone else, she will consider her quite justified as a deceiver and, naturally, she will complain about this to her friends, those to her. And the image of a liar to gain a foothold for this girl, if not for life, then for a very long time.
If the girl still doubts before refusing the guy, then it would be best to offer him friendship, then the guy will hope and try to please him, and the girl will have time and opportunity to take a closer look at her better chosen one. But if, nevertheless, the girl completely excludes even the very possibility of developing relations with this young man, then it is better for him to say this immediately and honestly, but there should be regret in his voice - this will preserve or even increase his self-esteem. Before refusing the guy, let him read him poems about love and separation, or praise him, describe his merits to him, and then say that he really regrets it, but you can’t order your heart. The main thing is, before refusing the guy to calm down and say with confidence in his voice what she decided, but she herself must believe what she says. If the words are sincere, then they will be correctly perceived by all adequate people .
Older ladies also quite often have similar situations. For example, after a friendly dinner, meetings of classmates or classmates, business negotiations or a chance meeting of old friends, in the vast majority of cases, a proposal should continue to communicate in a more intimate atmosphere. It is better for married women not to attend such events at all, so as not to endanger the family for a moment of weakness or because of an extra glass of alcohol, because it is not for nothing that people say that a drunk woman is a stranger.
But what should an unmarried free woman do if a man offering intimacy is undesirable for one reason or another?
Firstly, don’t worry, because for women who are prone to excessive excitement, compassionate and indecisive, the suggestion of intimacy causes a wave of emotions - they don’t dare to refuse, so as not to offend, and they don’t want to agree, explaining something inconsistently, confusing the situation . A man may find these inaudible explanations a sign of coquetry or a manifestation of deliberate modesty, they say, "I'm not like that." Such women should know that for an adequate man, failure is not the end of the world, but with inadequate cherish relationships, at least, it’s stupid. For natures prone to adventures, playing on other people's nerves is just another fun adventure. Such a person may agree, even knowing in advance that he will not fulfill the promise, but will seek an opportunity, by tickling the nerves of both himself and the man, to escape. It should be remembered that such women are more likely than others to fall into criminal news reports as victims of rape and beatings. Therefore, such behavior should be avoided.