What is harmony in a relationship? This is unconditional respect, warmth and mutual understanding. This is when two people feel as one, share the interests and feelings of each other. Unfortunately, harmony is not a “default option” for loving couples. It can only be achieved by working on relationships. So how to achieve harmony?
Down with selfishness
Entering into a relationship, a man and a woman make a responsible decision, which fundamentally changes their life. From this moment, you can no longer live only for yourself. Harmony in a relationship is possible only when the partners sincerely care about each other, make concessions, and seek compromises. The purpose of mutual concessions is to achieve moral and physical comfort. Two behaviors are possible here:
- "I do what the partner wants." For example, a man refuses to watch an important sports match to attend a theater premiere with his wife.
- "I'm not doing what I want, not what my partner wants, but something else." A man and a woman abandon their plans for watching a match and going to the theater and together go to a restaurant or, for example, to visit mutual friends.
Do not be silent
It is a common misconception that relationships begin when people expose bodies in front of each other. In fact, harmony in relations occurs when people expose souls in front of each other. The habit of silence makes the union of man and woman fragile. She undermines relationships no worse than regular scandals. If you strive for harmony, do not be silent. Remember these rules:
- Talk about your desires. So the chances of achieving the desired increase significantly.
- Talk about your concerns. Your partner is not psychic. He cannot understand what exactly you are upset with only your meaningful look and languid sigh.
- Talk about your complaints. If you don’t like something in your partner’s behavior, honestly tell about it. Otherwise, you will only be annoyed and angry.
Don't suspect
Trust is the foundation of harmony in relationships. Total control, constant interrogations, slanting glances do not make the union stronger. On the contrary - all this humiliates and offends the partner. Think about whether it makes sense to connect fate with a person whom you absolutely do not trust? Does it make sense to turn life into constant surveillance?
Understand that if a person wants to betray you, he will do it. Your vigilance can only delay but not prevent betrayal. So, if the partner does not give obvious reasons for jealousy, does not commit flagrant oversights, just enjoy each other without unnecessary conventions.
Learn to forgive
To preserve love and harmony in a relationship, you need to understand that not a single person is perfect. You must understand that your partner can make a mistake at any time. If you value union, learn to forgive other people's missteps. Learning this art will help you to understand that:
- There is no error insurance. You too commit them or you can commit at any moment.
- Love and warm relationships are much more important than resentment and pride.
- Not enough to forgive in words. You need to cross out an unpleasant event from your thoughts and memory.
- No one will bear the constant burden of resentment on themselves. Therefore, even at a critical moment, you cannot remind your partner of past mistakes.
Set a common goal
Harmony in human relations does not at all imply the mandatory presence of common interests. Your hobbies can be diametrically opposite, but you simply must set a common goal, which you will go hand in hand. It can be a trip, building a house, buying a car. In the end, the birth and upbringing of children is an excellent goal for a couple in love.
It happens that when the planned plan is completed, devastation sets in, the relationship weakens. To avoid this, one goal should be replaced by another.
Do not immerse yourself in everyday life
If you dream of harmony in family relationships, put life in the background. This does not mean that you need to abandon cooking, cleaning, repair and so on. But these moments should go in the background, and not dominate the lives of two people in love. Do not make a cult out of household matters. This is what creates the conditions for a comfortable life and the development of relationships. That's the last moment worth focusing on. The following recommendations will help you with this:
- Set priorities. Between spring cleaning and a walk with a soul mate, give preference to the second scenario. Dust from the shelves is not going anywhere, and there are not so many romantic moments with a loved one (for example, due to being busy at work). Positive emotions will surely energize you, and household chores will be easier.
- Do not make clear responsibilities. Creating comfortable living conditions is the task of both partners. For the implementation of urgent tasks should be taken by someone who currently has time.
- Try to do everything together. Joint cleaning, cooking or repair - all this strengthens the relationship. These processes can even take the form of a romantic game.
Improve the quality of intimate life
The harmony of relations between men and women is built not only on a spiritual connection, but also on an intimate life. Wrong attitude to this aspect is just like a "conjugal duty". Follow these guidelines:
- Pay attention to preparation. Both partners must tune in both mentally and physically. Particular attention should be paid to hygiene and aesthetics.
- Learn new things. A monotonous intimate life sooner or later becomes boring. Read specialized literature, feel free to watch adult films to learn something new.
- Think not only about yourself. Each of the partners should first of all think about how to please the other.
Keep a balance between self-affirmation and adaptation
Entering into a relationship, a person can not fully maintain the usual model of behavior. We have to grind to a partner, make some concessions, change the usual foundations and even some beliefs. Nevertheless, one cannot dive headlong into this process. Think about it, but do you lose yourself, adapting to your loved one? Does he make reciprocal concessions? For the relationship to be harmonious, it is important that each of the partners remains a full-fledged personality.
Do not replace honesty with politeness
How to achieve harmony in a relationship? You need to learn to be honest with each other. Admit that at the stage of acquaintance you slightly cheated and flattered each other to observe decency. But in a serious relationship, courtesy is not always appropriate. Try to always tell the truth, even if it is unpleasant. Feel free to criticize partner mistakes. But do it in the most delicate way, give valuable advice, do not forget to say words of support.
Do not become addicted to each other
No matter how strong the feelings at first, a feeling of "fatigue" occurs in the relationship over time. It is caused, as a rule, by the fact that partners spend 90% of the time together. But harmonious relations are built differently. A sensible and strong union is a union of two independent individuals who have completely different affairs and interests, and spend their free time together. Thus, lovers get the opportunity to get bored, accumulate common topics for conversation. This model of behavior avoids the feeling of "satiety" in relationships.