You have been dating for a long time. And suddenly, at some point, omissions with a partner begin. This is unpleasant, insulting, scary, but completely natural. No matter how you both fit together, you are still different people. In order to successfully overcome the "bad weather in the house", each girl must clearly know the rules of the relationship. That's what we want to tell you about them, in the future to warn you against making typical mistakes that even the strongest love union can easily destroy.
How to maintain a relationship: tip 1
Learn to perceive your young man as he really is. Remember that this is not a piece of plasticine and not a puppet that needs to be constantly forced to do only what you want. Before you is a living person, and it is quite natural that he has his own shortcomings. And who does not have them? Look at you - you are imperfect too. The fact is that shortcomings do not appear from anywhere - they were present in your boyfriend before, when you started a relationship with him. And then you could somehow come to terms with them. And now, for some reason, they began to enrage you. It’s difficult to change a man , but you can easily offend him and turn him away from you with your eternal nit-picking. Try to change yourself first, your attitude to the imperfections of your loved one.
How to maintain a relationship: tip 2
To make it easier for you to follow the previous advice, pay more attention to the virtues that are present in your boyfriend. Undoubtedly, they are, since you chose him as a satellite. Do not forget to point out to the young man his strong features. Praise is what any man needs. And affectionate and gentle words will certainly be deeper deposited in his memory, and he will know that he is really appreciated, loved, respected.
How to maintain a relationship: tip 3
Analyze your desires and life goals with him . It often happens that people, being in a romantic relationship for a long time, want completely different from each other. You, for example, dream of quickly rushing out to marry a guy, have children and settle down at home, turning into a caring housewife. And he just ruins all your plans at one point, stating that both of you first need to get on your feet, get an education and a good job. A difference of interests is a big risk of breaking up, so try to immediately decide which of you wants what. Remember that the ability to compromise is an essential feature of a wise person who truly values his soul mate.
How to maintain a relationship: tip 4
Always remember that men are suspicious creatures. Everything that surrounds them in life is the best for them, starting with you and ending with work, salary, friends and relatives. Never allow yourself criticism of what he considers his own. Do not enter into conflicts with his friends (most likely, he will choose them, and not you - just out of principle), do not give him ultimatums: “Either your mother or me,” etc. Respect his relationship with those who are dear to him and close. Do not flaunt your feminine "possessive" egoism - it will put you in such an unsightly light that the guy will seriously think about whether he really needs such a girl in life. But the friendliness, good manners and wonders of sociability, which you will show in relation to his parents and friends, can really help maintain relations during the crisis. In the face of these people, you will gain indisputable allies who will always remind your boyfriend what a wonderful friend he has and how important it is to try not to lose such a treasure.
The psychology of love and relationships still knows a lot of ways that help young people overcome difficult periods in their lives. So, it is important to remember that love is a feeling that can forgive a lot. Try to forget all the bad as quickly as possible and remember all the good for a long time.