The romantic period in the relationship invariably ends. And, when the routine finally sticks, in conversations with friends and girlfriends no, no, and a hint about the leftist skips. Does such a campaign to the side strengthen marriage or put an end to later life with a spouse? There is no final answer: supporters of a radical hypocritical opinion and lovers of going left to this day encounter verbal battles.
How much "left" in the world?
Jokers like to talk about good deeds and believe that they will not be called a “marriage”. But a similar situation develops around other words, one of which is “leftist”, a multi-valued term. Among his transcripts:
counterfeit goods of unknown origin;
a person working on the side;
an employee using the equipment of the company for personal needs;
something bad, "slop."
On the one hand, we are talking about something familiar, known to mankind. And on the other, the word surrounds a fleur of shame. You contact the leftist and immediately expect condemnation.
Third wheel?
In practice, giving up multiple partners is optional. This is confirmed by “free love”, which was most clearly manifested during the hippies in the late 60s. Harems will become a more conservative example, because this is no longer a leftist - a marriage with many husbands or wives. However, for each of the listed options, a special psychological preparation is necessary for both a participant in relations and society. And even in this case, jealousy between partners can be expected due to lack of attention.
Unfortunately, human nature is built on egoism, a sense of ownership. When meeting with a potential or current spouse, a leftist is from the forbidden category. If you plan to give your personal time and care to a specific person, why diversify your personal life with someone else?
What do sociologists say?
The subject is extremely slippery. Although there is nothing more deceptive than social studies, they give an overall picture of the relationship. And very optimistic:
about 90% of couples had one-time infidelity;
approximately 50% of divorces are due to sex on the side;
about 40% of marriages after going to the left became stronger.
And if the partner is not permanent? Before marriage, the main threat to romance is the leftist, and no excuse in the form of a stag or hen party will help. Just finding someone more sexual or desirable near a soul mate causes sharply negative emotions in a person.
How does this happen?
By changing, you demonstrate the lover's failure. Men are more tied to physical sensations, looking for impressions and rejoice at a new object for the realization of passion. Women are attracted to spiritual comfort, the feeling of someone stronger and more powerful, able to protect. Regardless of the circumstances, the presence of a leftist is a statement about the low quality of sex and the personality of the partner as a whole. Believe me, the life partner in most cases will choose the worst option for understanding, which will aggravate the situation.
There is hope?
Relationships will become stronger only when you admit infidelity as a mistake, and your spouse forgives or does not know about her at all. If you survive the crisis, love will flourish due to a change of coordinates, the departure of sex from key positions in the assessment of a loved one. It is much easier to be honest and start a family without thoughts of a leftist, and after the fading of feelings divorce, so as not to torment yourself and your family, or directly talk about your anxieties, hidden desires.